Guys on dating apps- are they just bad at keeping the conversation going?

[Anonymous]

I've never done OLD so take my advice with a grain of salt, but my understanding is that things should quickly progress to an in-person date. If not then the guy isn't that into you and you should drop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are entire forums and subreddits devoted to guys approaching women on Tinder and trying hard to initiate conversations where the women barely respond. That's because guys try hard to initiate conversations with women they think are hot, and women who are hot don't feel the need to respond. The reason the guys are not responding to you is because they do not think you're hot. Sorry but that's just a fact

OP must be the exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are entire forums and subreddits devoted to guys approaching women on Tinder and trying hard to initiate conversations where the women barely respond. That's because guys try hard to initiate conversations with women they think are hot, and women who are hot don't feel the need to respond. The reason the guys are not responding to you is because they do not think you're hot. Sorry but that's just a fact

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Well your logic is flawed, at least on Bumble. Women have to comment first, and only when a guy has matched with you. So presumably, he already thinks you're hot based on your profile alone, before any conversation happens.

[Anonymous]

It’s not so easy being a guy on Tinder. I never have trouble keeping the conversation going. I usually write the woman a romantic poem. We often make a date. But more often than not the woman doesn’t show up. This gets very embarrassing at my favorite restaurants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are entire forums and subreddits devoted to guys approaching women on Tinder and trying hard to initiate conversations where the women barely respond. That's because guys try hard to initiate conversations with women they think are hot, and women who are hot don't feel the need to respond. The reason the guys are not responding to you is because they do not think you're hot. Sorry but that's just a fact

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Well your logic is flawed, at least on Bumble. Women have to comment first, and only when a guy has matched with you. So presumably, he already thinks you're hot based on your profile alone, before any conversation happens.

You know guys just spam right swipes. The first comment can be just a "hey" and nothing else. Then women expect men to put on their clown costumes and entertain/win over the woman. This is fine in the olden model of women waiting a la Goldilocks while suitors parade but in today's world of sexual parity, it does not work. Women who are serious about dating must put in equal, if not more, effort. Especially if they are competing for higher quality man or trying to date up. Most guys, including average guys, will be ignored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean you're on an app that's designed to let women take the lead and then you're surprised that men on the app want women to take the lead?

You’re confused.
Bumble is not about the woman taking the lead to initiate everything; only the opener. It’s all about women not being slammed online with unwanted attention from men, which is why men can’t contact a woman unless she messages first. Bumble is about women having the choice of who they want to open a conversation with.

If you’re a man on bumble losing matches because you’re waiting for women to court you and ask you out, you’re left in the dust by men who know how to approach a woman and date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean you're on an app that's designed to let women take the lead and then you're surprised that men on the app want women to take the lead?

You’re confused.
Bumble is not about the woman taking the lead to initiate everything; only the opener. It’s all about women not being slammed online with unwanted attention from men, which is why men can’t contact a woman unless she messages first. Bumble is about women having the choice of who they want to open a conversation with.

If you’re a man on bumble losing matches because you’re waiting for women to court you and ask you out, you’re left in the dust by men who know how to approach a woman and date.

THIS!

[Anonymous]

I usually write the woman a romantic poem.

Dude that’s just cringe and try-hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I usually write the woman a romantic poem.

Dude that’s just cringe and try-hard.

Agreed. It's much less cringe to write them a personalized ballad. I usually record it on my iphone and send it over because I'm an amazing vocalist. At some point I'll upgrade and get a professional microphone etc but in the meantime I'd say it's a pretty successful strategy.