Guys on dating apps- are they just bad at keeping the conversation going?

[Anonymous]

I thought I'd like Bumble, but really don't at all (woman here).

I've had much better luck with Hinge, and it's the only app I use.

[Anonymous]

You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of people get burned out Online dating. There should be some attempt at the start to have a conversation *if they are interested but I would recommend suggesting a coffee meet up shortly after and not keep the conversation going for days/weeks. I got to the point where I wanted a normal conversation where they made some effort at first, and then I’d wait for them to suggest meeting up (many didn’t) or make the suggestion myself (usually they were taken back by this). I was so tired of wasting hours texting via the app with someone I’d never meet or we would meet and they would be disappointing. A quick coffee date is a good way to weed people out. I had a lot of success in with this strategy. And Bumble is one of my favorite apps. You can also try Hinge but I don’t know if they have incognito option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just use it as another screening tool. I used to get annoyed when guys would do this and after a while just sort of took it as a sign that we wouldn't be compatible and moved on to someone who could communicate. I agree with the PPs - if a guy is interested, they will keep in touch. My fiancé (who I met on Bumble) was great at conversation, asked me out for coffee within 3 days, and then kept in touch regularly between our first few dates. When he called me when I was out of town in between our 2nd and 3rd dates, I knew he was super interested.

+1

[Anonymous]

Male here. My GF and I met in person the day after we met online. Excessive back-and-forth texts before meeting in person is not a good way of knowing if there will be any chemistry between you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the last week I heard from a woman on Bumble I hadn't messaged in 4 years, and from another one I hadn't heard from since November.

Amazing you remember or keep track of these things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the last week I heard from a woman on Bumble I hadn't messaged in 4 years, and from another one I hadn't heard from since November.

Amazing you remember or keep track of these things

Bumble date-stamps the messages, so I don't have to remember anything. However, I did see a woman on Bumble the other day who I first contacted in December 2019, and went on a date in September 2021. She was memorable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

You must be a unicorn with genetic blessings and a Hollywood star routine cuz most women over 40 looks like a bunch of used tires. I'm happily divorced living my best life dating younger, hotter, and tighter women. We all know the truth about women like you on dating apps at your age, you're leftover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

You must be a unicorn with genetic blessings and a Hollywood star routine cuz most women over 40 looks like a bunch of used tires. I'm happily divorced living my best life dating younger, hotter, and tighter women. We all know the truth about women like you on dating apps at your age, you're leftover.

No way - you sound like such a catch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

You must be a unicorn with genetic blessings and a Hollywood star routine cuz most women over 40 looks like a bunch of used tires. I'm happily divorced living my best life dating younger, hotter, and tighter women. We all know the truth about women like you on dating apps at your age, you're leftover.

Because dudes who spend every night with young, hot, tight women also waste their entire evening on DCUM 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

You must be a unicorn with genetic blessings and a Hollywood star routine cuz most women over 40 looks like a bunch of used tires. I'm happily divorced living my best life dating younger, hotter, and tighter women. We all know the truth about women like you on dating apps at your age, you're leftover.

We need an angry incel clean up in aisle three please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 40 honey, you have to put in more effort because you are now older. Men value youth and femininity above all else.

Honey, I'm 43 and have never had a problem finding dates. I just don't go out with duds like you. I doubt you are meeting women though.

You must be a unicorn with genetic blessings and a Hollywood star routine cuz most women over 40 looks like a bunch of used tires. I'm happily divorced living my best life dating younger, hotter, and tighter women. We all know the truth about women like you on dating apps at your age, you're leftover.

Oh, the irony......hahahahahaha

[Anonymous]

There are entire forums and subreddits devoted to guys approaching women on Tinder and trying hard to initiate conversations where the women barely respond. That's because guys try hard to initiate conversations with women they think are hot, and women who are hot don't feel the need to respond. The reason the guys are not responding to you is because they do not think you're hot. Sorry but that's just a fact

[Anonymous]

Yup this is also my experience. The ones who can’t converse via text are terminally boring in person too in my experience. Do yourself a favour and move on.