My DH really disappointed me this Christmas by . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was so appreciative of his gifts and truly enjoyed the day. I am so happy to see him happy, he deserves it. For the DWs complaining about lack of gifts just buy yourself something and wrap it! Hope you don’t have kids who watch you martyr out and not have anything to open. So damaging.

I’ll have none of this, let’s not set the bar so low! Unless you agreed to not get each other gifts, you need to get your spouse a gift for Christmas. Yeah people are going to mess up but responding normally to somebody’s actions isn’t being a martyr.

The bar for men is so low, it’s a tavern in Hades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got into a fight a few days ago because I booked Reagan instead of Dulles. He refused to come along on our family vacation and today he didn't even call.

Sounds like an affair. He would have found any reason to argue and not come along for your holiday family vacation. After all, he figures he deserves new pussy for Christmas and AP might have been told he was single. I hope you call a 1) Private detective, you could catch him in the act and gave evidence 2) attorney.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He totally one-upped me in gifts. I brought my A game and I thought I was going to crush it.

+1

+1. Said we had a $1,000 total limit on Christmas shopping. Then he buys me $6K diamond earrings. They are amazing and I love them. But I sure felt like a schmuck getting him a sweater, shaver, and some jelly bellies.

That's actually really lame to handicap you that way. I assume you don't work?

[Anonymous]

I’m on this forum because I can’t sleep after my DH yelled at me while I held our baby on Christmas. It’s not the first time he’s done it either despite my pleading. Please leave while you can OP. I had the same treatment from him before and during pregnancy and now feel trapped. I love my baby more than anything and feel so scared for us and alone/beaten down. It is easier to leave now even if you have the baby.

[Anonymous]

DH got me amazing gifts and went out shopping for the kids and our families. He helped cook, clean, wrap, and when I got sick from my booster he had me sleep and brought me tea. So thankful for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH was so appreciative of his gifts and truly enjoyed the day. I am so happy to see him happy, he deserves it. For the DWs complaining about lack of gifts just buy yourself something and wrap it! Hope you don’t have kids who watch you martyr out and not have anything to open. So damaging.

I didn’t actually see anyone complaining about this, but this advice is so bizarre.

You buy your own gift, wrap it, and then open it in front of your husband when he opens the gifts you got him? Do you both pretend that he got it for you? Is it all a show for the kids? And why don’t your kids give you a present?

[Anonymous]

I did this this year. My DH's family was always weird about gifts. DH was busy at work and is not great at present giving and asked me if I would mind. I said ok. It's not the worst thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was so appreciative of his gifts and truly enjoyed the day. I am so happy to see him happy, he deserves it. For the DWs complaining about lack of gifts just buy yourself something and wrap it! Hope you don’t have kids who watch you martyr out and not have anything to open. So damaging.

I didn’t actually see anyone complaining about this, but this advice is so bizarre.

You buy your own gift, wrap it, and then open it in front of your husband when he opens the gifts you got him? Do you both pretend that he got it for you? Is it all a show for the kids? And why don’t your kids give you a present?

IDK. I buy my own gift, as I am very particular in what I like. It never makes it under the tree, especially because this year it’s a very well bred Dutch Warmblood foal and won’t fit!

I honestly don’t want my DH to have to try to buy me gifts. He isn’t good at it, but so am certainly no martyr. I don’t understand complaining about the same thing over and over and not doing something to change the dynamic. It is like some people enjoy the drama of it. Not me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was so appreciative of his gifts and truly enjoyed the day. I am so happy to see him happy, he deserves it. For the DWs complaining about lack of gifts just buy yourself something and wrap it! Hope you don’t have kids who watch you martyr out and not have anything to open. So damaging.

I didn’t actually see anyone complaining about this, but this advice is so bizarre.

You buy your own gift, wrap it, and then open it in front of your husband when he opens the gifts you got him? Do you both pretend that he got it for you? Is it all a show for the kids? And why don’t your kids give you a present?

IDK. I buy my own gift, as I am very particular in what I like. It never makes it under the tree, especially because this year it’s a very well bred Dutch Warmblood foal and won’t fit!

I honestly don’t want my DH to have to try to buy me gifts. He isn’t good at it, but so am certainly no martyr. I don’t understand complaining about the same thing over and over and not doing something to change the dynamic. It is like some people enjoy the drama of it. Not me!

I don’t understand why you would say that something you bought yourself is a Christmas present from your husband. It clearly isn’t. You and he both know that. Why the weird game?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m at the tail end of my isolation period so I’m staying alone. Met my husband, his parents, and our kids for a masked hike today. We stopped for snack and he insisted each kid eat a baby carrot. We absolutely do not force anyone to eat anything at home, I’m deeply opposed to that, and he knows it. I called him over and said “it’s really important to me not to force the kids to eat anything.” He turned around without responding, didn’t talk to me the rest of the hike, and didn’t text/call for 5 hours. When I’m alone on Christmas, and we had to miss seeing my family because I couldn’t fly.

THEN he decides he’s talking to me again, comes over to my rental and we sit outside for a while. He spent the entire time complaining about his parents, including taking about how his mom is just so angry all the time. The example he gave was she wanted DH’s dad to help make dinner, and he didn’t do it as desired, and then she didn’t speak to him for the rest of the evening. UH HELLO! Sigh.

lThere are so many weird things about this story. You are staying in a rental because you had COVID? One baby carrot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got into a fight a few days ago because I booked Reagan instead of Dulles. He refused to come along on our family vacation and today he didn't even call.

He's cheating. Sorry

[Anonymous]

My DW ruined yet another Christmas by starting the day complaining about how I need to “change,” i.e. change my career to suit her and be around all the time to do the house repairs, etc. she wants. She broke down crying, accused me of being emotionally unintelligent and hit everyone upset all before 9 am.

[Anonymous]

Remember Jesus is the reason for the season.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH was so appreciative of his gifts and truly enjoyed the day. I am so happy to see him happy, he deserves it. For the DWs complaining about lack of gifts just buy yourself something and wrap it! Hope you don’t have kids who watch you martyr out and not have anything to open. So damaging.

I didn’t actually see anyone complaining about this, but this advice is so bizarre.

You buy your own gift, wrap it, and then open it in front of your husband when he opens the gifts you got him? Do you both pretend that he got it for you? Is it all a show for the kids? And why don’t your kids give you a present?

IDK. I buy my own gift, as I am very particular in what I like. It never makes it under the tree, especially because this year it’s a very well bred Dutch Warmblood foal and won’t fit!

I honestly don’t want my DH to have to try to buy me gifts. He isn’t good at it, but so am certainly no martyr. I don’t understand complaining about the same thing over and over and not doing something to change the dynamic. It is like some people enjoy the drama of it. Not me!

I don’t understand why you would say that something you bought yourself is a Christmas present from your husband. It clearly isn’t. You and he both know that. Why the weird game?

It is weird that your only idea of a gift is a tangible item purchased by another and wrapped, then placed under a tree. Are you think inflexible in all walks of your life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Adults shouldn't give other adults Xmas gifts. Xmas os for kids.

I disagree. I think it's good for kids to see their parents exchanging gifts. They don't have to be expensive. We usually just buy things we need (i.e. socks) or things we can consume (fancy grocery items, lotion, etc.). We had a lovely Christmas all around. No disappointments here. [/quote


NP

But why wait until Christmas to buy it?
The whole gift giving thing o n Christmas is silly. But kids are kids so I humor them. But goft giving adults on Jesus' birthday? Why?