Dodged a bullet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

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Are you really 38??? This sounds like an 18 year old’s behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

In no way does that tell a woman that there are no hard feelings. That has more stalker vibes than anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the two of you are just not compatible have different expectations , needs and desires. Nothing wrong with either of you just not right for each other.

There IS something wrong with OPs behavior - intentionally ignoring someone and not accepting calls to prove a point is really juvenile and a red flag if you're an adult.

I wasn’t ignoring her to prove a point. I was just putt off, so I decided that I didn’t want to talk. I don’t see what’s so wrong with that.

You are acting on your feelings of the moment at each turn. You missed her for several weeks but now are put off by a couple of hours. Your feelings fluctuate and you can't seem to feel some sort of regulated feeling for this person or probably many other people. Each time you interact it's based on your feeling in the moment and not over time and your actions never seems to involve her feelings. A more mature person (from experience more likely a woman not a man) might say. Well I'm put off by having to wait for a call back but I missed her last week so now I'm feeling like like I like her but maybe need something more in my life than she can give me right now. And her needs in the moment are that she's tired and told me I was moving too fast so she's probably trying to hold out some time to see if I can handle it so she doesn't have to invest so much and still hang onto the relationship. She's probably anxious that she's getting involved with someone too needy, so right now I'm ok with my actions and don't feel like waiting a couple of hours is too much for me to handle, but if we are going to meet somewhere in the middle I need to be ok with some time off from the relationship and help bring her feelings up to actually missing me and enjoying my company so we put in equal effort into the relationship. Or I need to find someone else who wants to invest more time in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

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Stalking her social media now? Doubling down on the cray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

In no way does that tell a woman that there are no hard feelings. That has more stalker vibes than anything.

How is that stalker vibes? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Dude. No.

[Anonymous]

She didn't go to Florida with you because she thinks maybe you may be a serial killer.

[Anonymous]

So wait, you had 3 weeks of getting to know her during October, then you went to Florida in late October and got weird on her - and ever since then, she's been appearing not very interested?

Dude - you do not have a relationship with this woman. Please leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She didn't go to Florida with you because she thinks maybe you may be a serial killer.

This. I would NEVER go on a trip with someone that I’ve just met no matter how much I like you. That’s how you get murdered or trafficked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

In no way does that tell a woman that there are no hard feelings. That has more stalker vibes than anything.

How is that stalker vibes? Serious question.

1) You sought out her profile.
2) You interacted with it.
3) You think it sent her a message.

Creepy AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well she just posted to her social media and I viewed it ( shows you who has viewed it) to show there’s no hard feelings.

In no way does that tell a woman that there are no hard feelings. That has more stalker vibes than anything.

How is that stalker vibes? Serious question.

1) You sought out her profile.
2) You interacted with it.
3) You think it sent her a message.

Creepy AF.

NP: not defending OP at all but if they’re still friends on social media is he supposed to avoid/not interact/not view her social media forever?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You actually sound really high maintenance and immature. You wanted to talk to her but decided 4 hours was too lOng? Seems arbitrary and immature

How do I seem immature?

I told her I’d make myself available but then she waits 4 hours like I’d just be waiting by the phone. How is that unreasonable?

Maybe she was busy? I don't know, I have a kid, and getting back from a trip means unpacking, probably a grocery run, maybe another errand... If you wanted to know when she could facetime you could have been more specific.

It does seem like you got way too serious way too fast. When someone wants to take things slow, they generally do. Whereas you were already missing her after just a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

OP you are even giving me the creeps. This poor woman!

[Anonymous]

Troll.