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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the two of you are just not compatible have different expectations , needs and desires.  Nothing wrong with either of you just not right for each other.[/quote]

There IS something wrong with OPs behavior - intentionally ignoring someone and not accepting calls to prove a point is really juvenile and a red flag if you're an adult.[/quote]

I wasn’t ignoring her to prove a point. I was just putt off, so I decided that I didn’t want to talk. I don’t see what’s so wrong with that.[/quote]

You are acting on your feelings of the moment at each turn. You missed her for several weeks but now are put off by a couple of hours. Your feelings fluctuate and you can't seem to feel some sort of regulated feeling for this person or probably many other people. Each time you interact it's based on your feeling in the moment and not over time and your actions never seems to involve her feelings. A more mature person (from experience more likely a woman not a man) might say. Well I'm put off by having to wait for a call back but I missed her last week so now I'm feeling like like I like her but maybe need something more in my life than she can give me right now. And her needs in the moment are that she's tired and told me I was moving too fast so she's probably trying to hold out some time to see if I can handle it so she doesn't have to invest so much and still hang onto the relationship. She's probably anxious that she's getting involved with someone too needy, so right now I'm ok with my actions and don't feel like waiting a couple of hours is too much for me to handle, but if we are going to meet somewhere in the middle I need to be ok with some time off from the relationship and help bring her feelings up to actually missing me and enjoying my company so we put in equal effort into the relationship. Or I need to find someone else who wants to invest more time in the relationship.[/quote]

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