Got reported to child protection service

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CPS will know what they are and educate the daycare.

They can “educate” me all they want but I will always call cps for bruising around the private areas.

- daycare worker

Nobody said anything about the private areas.

Correct, but Daycare Worker, we all agree you MUST report. The parent will explain themselves to CPS. In this case it sounds benign. Thank you for keeping an eye on the kids.

Should they also report ear piercings?

[Anonymous]

In mandated reporter training, you are taught to report any large bruising in children that is not in the normal "bump" zones (this is for walking kids, it's different for infants that can't walk). Large bruises on the neck, back ears, around the genitals, etc. should always be reported.

The daycare did the right thing and did their job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

Cupping is no more “abusive” than ear piercing if done in a mainstream and normal way.

[Anonymous]

PP here. Also any bruises with patterns, or look like grab marks, objects, etc. are considered suspicious and need to be reported. So again, daycare did the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

Cupping is no more “abusive” than ear piercing if done in a mainstream and normal way.

That's for CPS to sort out, the daycare did the right thing by reporting the bruising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

Cupping is no more “abusive” than ear piercing if done in a mainstream and normal way.

But ear piercings lead to something desireable. Cupping is quackery and serves no purpose See wikipedia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

Cupping is no more “abusive” than ear piercing if done in a mainstream and normal way.

But ear piercings lead to something desireable. Cupping is quackery and serves no purpose See wikipedia.

Desirable by the babies who can't protest?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I have never got reported elsewhere, and this is my first time ever. I am not from here (excuse my writing), and I have 3 beautiful children, and my oldest is 10, and this is my youngest. The treatment is similar to cupping (but not exactly like that), and it is used in my home county and some foreigners pay for this here. They are bruise like, but they will be gone in days and painless. My child has been feeling a bit under weather for weeks, but he is not really sick. So, I decided to do that on him to make him feel better.

DH tells me that I will be fine because CPS can google up the treatment (I did not pay for treatment and I did that myself ) if they want. I have done that to my family members (DH and my parents) and my other children before for years, so I know what I am doing and I am not hurting my child.

I believe you, and I'm sure others do too, they're just having fun with you.

However please stop. One day CPR might not believe you. The daycare was correct in reporting it. Naturally you understand that they must report any injury that looks serious.

I agree that OP should stop the practice, regardless of the outcome. Any mandated reporter HAS to report this type of bruising. Also, this isn't just a "daycare" thing that is solved by removing your kids from daycare because your child will continue seeing mandated reporters in school and elsewhere (teachers, school nurses, coaches, guidance counselors etc.).

[Anonymous]

You don't do cupping on day care aged kids. You do something called coining. Its is absolutely no ok to do it here and leave bruises. It is considered abusive and the day care was correct in reporting you.

(former child welfare worker where this was considered abuse)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

Cupping is no more “abusive” than ear piercing if done in a mainstream and normal way.

But ear piercings lead to something desireable. Cupping is quackery and serves no purpose See wikipedia.

Desirable by the babies who can't protest?

It is coining, not cupping. And, cupping is nice but you do it on teens and adults, not day care aged kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I have never got reported elsewhere, and this is my first time ever. I am not from here (excuse my writing), and I have 3 beautiful children, and my oldest is 10, and this is my youngest. The treatment is similar to cupping (but not exactly like that), and it is used in my home county and some foreigners pay for this here. They are bruise like, but they will be gone in days and painless. My child has been feeling a bit under weather for weeks, but he is not really sick. So, I decided to do that on him to make him feel better.

DH tells me that I will be fine because CPS can google up the treatment (I did not pay for treatment and I did that myself ) if they want. I have done that to my family members (DH and my parents) and my other children before for years, so I know what I am doing and I am not hurting my child.

I believe you, and I'm sure others do too, they're just having fun with you.

However please stop. One day CPR might not believe you. The daycare was correct in reporting it. Naturally you understand that they must report any injury that looks serious.

I agree that OP should stop the practice, regardless of the outcome. Any mandated reporter HAS to report this type of bruising. Also, this isn't just a "daycare" thing that is solved by removing your kids from daycare because your child will continue seeing mandated reporters in school and elsewhere (teachers, school nurses, coaches, guidance counselors etc.).

+1. totally agree. The daycare had no choice but to call CPS, and I would to. CPS will do the home visit and full investigation. You will need to coordinate with them when they arrive. I believe that multiple visits will be required. If it's cupping or gua sha, I'd imagine that you can demonstrate and submit evidence of the practice in your culture. I will say that I've had both gua sha and cupping and they leave terrible marks on the body (Particularly the gua sha). But in the future, you should avoid this type of treatment on children becuase you know exactly where this is going to lead you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't do cupping on day care aged kids. You do something called coining. Its is absolutely no ok to do it here and leave bruises. It is considered abusive and the day care was correct in reporting you.

(former child welfare worker where this was considered abuse)

coining is no good. It's burning kids. See informative article here - https://www.jscimedcentral.com/Forensic/forensic-4-1042.pdf

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's OK and maybe it's not. The investigation will reveal. I'm personally very glad that someone is looking at it. So many "cultural" things happen to children that are most definitely not OK in this country. For example, stoning is cultural and some parents think its ok especially when girls misbehave, female circumcision is ok in some cultures, branding is ok in some cultures. None of those things are ok in a civilized world today. Just because it's been done in some cultures for a long time, doesn't make it ok here today.

When you go to Europe, they should call their CPS on you for having your son circumcised. It's not OK to mutilate babies in civilized society.

Who said anything about me getting my son circumcised (or that I even have a son). That practice is definitely on its way out in the Western world as well which I am glad about. The more you know.

Apparently, you don't know much and use your ignorance as an excuse to call other cultural practices barbaric.

I really fail to see your point? It's ok to continue these practices because they've been done for centuries and "culture." Perhaps think through your arguments before calling other people ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Who says "I have a few children"?

[Anonymous]

OP, speak with the social worker and if you have any issues ask for a supervisor. Don't play games. Admit you did it, explain its called coining in the US and its very commonly done in Asia. Explain you didn't know it wasn't acceptable here and you were trying to help your child. Apologize and don't do it again. They will probably make a safety plan with you, do a follow up visit or two and close the case. Let them see the house (it doesn't have to be spotless) and that there is food, kids have clothing and what they need. Done. They don't want to be in your life anymore than you want them.