Got reported to child protection service

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your daycare was right to call. CPS will investigate and, if things are as you say, they will close the case and nothing will happen. You’ll probably have to provide proof of the activity, and at it is culturally significant to you and your family.

They will guide the investigation. Answer their calls and give all facts and cooperation that they ask for.

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Your daycare was 100 percent right to call. Deep purple bruises on a kid young enough to be in daycare are serious. If it's legit, fine. But it's not like they can just take a parent's word that these shocking bruises on an infant or small child are nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I have never got reported elsewhere, and this is my first time ever. I am not from here (excuse my writing), and I have 3 beautiful children, and my oldest is 10, and this is my youngest. The treatment is similar to cupping (but not exactly like that), and it is used in my home county and some foreigners pay for this here. They are bruise like, but they will be gone in days and painless. My child has been feeling a bit under weather for weeks, but he is not really sick. So, I decided to do that on him to make him feel better.

DH tells me that I will be fine because CPS can google up the treatment (I did not pay for treatment and I did that myself ) if they want. I have done that to my family members (DH and my parents) and my other children before for years, so I know what I am doing and I am not hurting my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the first time ever I got reported to child protection service in Montgomery county from a daycare. I have a few children. I don't want to reveal too much details in case I am not supposed to ask/share on this forum or affect possible investigation. What happens is daycare did their due responsibilities and called CPS because they saw deep purple bruises on my child's body part. And, I left a note in his backpack upon dropoff that it was a cultural thing that's for good health (look terrible but actually painless), and my child is fine. I swear it is not physical abuse and I love my child to death. The reason I knew because daycare notified me about that. I called DH to tell him about that, and he is not worried at all. I am really worried about it. What will I expect? Are they planning to do home visit, call pediatrician or asking me to get my child checked out, or nothing will happen? Anyone has gone through that before?

oh, it's like getting a hickey?

1. Good for your daycare.
2. I've never in life received a deep purple bruise painlessly.

Not OP, but I have and my child has too. Cupping is not painful. Do some research before you accuse.

[Anonymous]

I have had cupping done and it was definitely painful! Ouch!!

[Anonymous]

as a kid growing up in USSR (I date myself) cupping was so common. It leaves a mark but doesn't hurt at all. If done correctly, it somehow just does work. I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd report you, too, considering how abusive some cultures are to children.

Yeah just because it’s common in another culture doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or valid or good for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CPS will know what they are and educate the daycare.

They can “educate” me all they want but I will always call cps for bruising around the private areas.

- daycare worker

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's OK and maybe it's not. The investigation will reveal. I'm personally very glad that someone is looking at it. So many "cultural" things happen to children that are most definitely not OK in this country. For example, stoning is cultural and some parents think its ok especially when girls misbehave, female circumcision is ok in some cultures, branding is ok in some cultures. None of those things are ok in a civilized world today. Just because it's been done in some cultures for a long time, doesn't make it ok here today.

[Anonymous]

Just show them the cups. And maybe a picture of Michael Phelps and Gwenyth Paltrow with their cup marks. I'm a big fan of the cups for muscle pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just show them the cups. And maybe a picture of Michael Phelps and Gwenyth Paltrow with their cup marks. I'm a big fan of the cups for muscle pain.

Are you a big fan of cups for a kid young enough to be in daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CPS will know what they are and educate the daycare.

They can “educate” me all they want but I will always call cps for bruising around the private areas.

- daycare worker

Nobody said anything about the private areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just show them the cups. And maybe a picture of Michael Phelps and Gwenyth Paltrow with their cup marks. I'm a big fan of the cups for muscle pain.

Are you a big fan of cups for a kid young enough to be in daycare?

It’s a normal practice in many cultures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I have never got reported elsewhere, and this is my first time ever. I am not from here (excuse my writing), and I have 3 beautiful children, and my oldest is 10, and this is my youngest. The treatment is similar to cupping (but not exactly like that), and it is used in my home county and some foreigners pay for this here. They are bruise like, but they will be gone in days and painless. My child has been feeling a bit under weather for weeks, but he is not really sick. So, I decided to do that on him to make him feel better.

DH tells me that I will be fine because CPS can google up the treatment (I did not pay for treatment and I did that myself ) if they want. I have done that to my family members (DH and my parents) and my other children before for years, so I know what I am doing and I am not hurting my child.

I believe you, and I'm sure others do too, they're just having fun with you.

However please stop. One day CPR might not believe you. The daycare was correct in reporting it. Naturally you understand that they must report any injury that looks serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CPS will know what they are and educate the daycare.

They can “educate” me all they want but I will always call cps for bruising around the private areas.

- daycare worker

Nobody said anything about the private areas.

Correct, but Daycare Worker, we all agree you MUST report. The parent will explain themselves to CPS. In this case it sounds benign. Thank you for keeping an eye on the kids.

[Anonymous]

I'd heard of cupping but never paid any attention to it so I looked it up. The explanation that the marks do not involve pain seem perfectly plausible--although it is also possible to sustain nasty injury (horrible pic of a guy where the cups were applied in same location multiple times and led to deep tissue injury over time). It would probably need at minimum to be established that the procedure did not result in injury or significant pain.

I do not believe that the marks are simply "cellular debris" but they may not necessarily indicate that harm was done--but a doctor can verify this. OP, you are going to want to enlist help from someone in the medical community who is also able to help with the cultural side of this.