I slept with another man and am consumed with guilt

[Anonymous]

Currently on a business trip overseas. Last night I got incredibly drunk and slept with a colleague. He is a foreign affiliate and I only see him twice a year. I do not have feelings for him. I was drunk and caught up in the moment. I have never ever cheated on my husband and I am just so devastated. I don't know what to do. Should I call my husband? I feel so sick over this. My husband is a good man and we have a good marriage. I would do anything to take it back. Has anyone been through anything similar? Can anyone offer me advice? Please help.

[Anonymous]

Do not call your DH. Calm down. Breathe. Did you use a condom?

[Anonymous]

DO NOT tell your husband. How selfish of you to even consider it. If you know it would devastate him, you live with that guilt and you suck it up. No, honestly is not always better. Seems like you learned your lesson, but there is not need to involve anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Get tested.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell your husband. The guilt is your punishment.

[Anonymous]

Do not ever tell. And don't ever put yourself in that situation again.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I wouldnt tell him. If there was no way for him to find out.

If you feel you cannot keep it inside go tell a therapist and talk it out with them.

But dont tell your DH

[Anonymous]

Simmer down. Is the guy single? Is he likely to cause trouble?

[Anonymous]

You should tell your husband because if he finds out, that loving marriage you think you have is OVER !

Quit blaming the drink. I could consume 5 bottles of wine, get drunk out of my mind and not part my legs for a stranger. You intended it to happen.

BTW, you do realize when you blame stranger sex on being intoxicated it is considered rape.

[Anonymous]

GASP!!!!
You mean women cheat?!!!!

[Anonymous]

We used a condom. Yes. He is married too. I don't believe he would say anything to anyone but I honestly don't know him we'll enough

[Anonymous]

If there is no way for DH to find out--and there is no disease issue--there is absolutely no reason to tell him. To do otherwise would be even more hurtful and selfish. You made a mistake. No one is perfect.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I remember what it felt like to cheat on my college boyfriend...the guilt was horrible. I can't imagine how awful it would feel to wake up the next morning and realize that you had cheated on your spouse. What a sick, awful feeling that would be...I'm sorry, Op.

No advice. Just try to figure out how/why this happened and go from there..

[Anonymous]

Wow if this was a man who was the OP the responses would be SO DIFFERENT. Interesting.

-Signed a Married Woman