Married coworkers want me but I'm to heavy for hubby

[Anonymous]

So, I was 150 lbs when 135lb hubby and I got together, I was 170 lbs for awhile after having a baby (5' 10''), but now I'm 190. Several coworkers express sexual interest. I hate that my husband doesn't. I'm still hot, just a few pounds over my normal weight. Plus, I had a baby and complications afterwards. What do you do when you can't seem to loose the weight?

[Anonymous]

Your DH is so skinny at 135 lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is so skinny at 135 lbs.

Yeah, that's gross.

[Anonymous]

I know! But it is too late to make different decisions. We have a toddler.

[Anonymous]

190 is obese. I feel sorry for both you and your DH. You are physically mismatched.

OP, you need to lose weight and your DH needs to bulk up. Maybe you both need to hit the gym.

[Anonymous]

You need to be in a more professional workplace. I can't imagine having multiple coworkers express sexual interest in a married female colleague. That's just a huge EEO catastrophe waiting to happen in most workplaces.

[Anonymous]

I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

[Anonymous]

DH doesn't need to do anything. 135 may be healthy for him. If she doesn't like him at 135, then she obviously wouldn't have married him.

Sorry, OP, but 190 is a bit heavy. Your coworkers are either humoring you, or they are assuming that you will be an easy, undemanding lay ("fat chicks try harder," etc.).

Try to avoid falling into the trap of becoming resentful and letting yourself off the hook and insisting that he just be attracted to you even if he isn't. Just accept that you gained weight, for reasons that may be totally understandable, and that your skinny husband probably doesn't like it. Don't be ashamed; just go on a diet and hit the gym. A mountain is moved one stone at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont know what to tell you. I think it's gross that your DH would be turned off by such a small weight gain after kids, especially considering your height.

40 pounds is not a "small weight gain."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:190 is obese. I feel sorry for both you and your DH. You are physically mismatched.

OP, you need to lose weight and your DH needs to bulk up. Maybe you both need to hit the gym.

Actually, no. 190lbs on a woman that is 5'10 is overweight, but not obese. Her BMI is 27.7. The top of the range for normal weight is 24.9. Obese is 30.0 or higher.

[Anonymous]

Still a fatty. Start eating better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to be in a more professional workplace. I can't imagine having multiple coworkers express sexual interest in a married female colleague. That's just a huge EEO catastrophe waiting to happen in most workplaces.

No shit. There would be mass firings.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to lose weight irrespective of anything your husband says or does not say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to be in a more professional workplace. I can't imagine having multiple coworkers express sexual interest in a married female colleague. That's just a huge EEO catastrophe waiting to happen in most workplaces.

No shit. There would be mass firings.

Where do you work? "Expressing interest" is not harassment. OP has not indicated that it's unwelcome.

[Anonymous]

If you are fat and being rejected by your husband, then you probably seem like an easy screw to your coworkers. Sorry but that's how it looks to me.