Married coworkers want me but I'm to heavy for hubby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:True and loyal love is 100% unconditional OP. Always remember that.

If your husband cannot love you at 190 lbs., then his love for you is worthless.

I am not telling you to sleep w/your co-workers, that will only complicate the situation more.

What I am telling you is to practice some self-love right now and to ask yourself if you think you deserve a man who will only "love" you at a certain weight or one who will love you no matter how much of you there is to love?

I think you already know the answer to this.

No man will love her physically "regardless of how much of her there is to love." Love is unconditional, lust is not. You can't will yourself into lusting after someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

Here is the fatal flaw in your reasoning.
He was 135 when they initially hooked up, so she can just STFU about his size.
But she was 40 pounds lighter when they hooked up, so regardless of how many other guys might still be attracted, her own H has every right to be unattracted by a now my overweight wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

Here is the fatal flaw in your reasoning.
He was 135 when they initially hooked up, so she can just STFU about his size.
But she was 40 pounds lighter when they hooked up, so regardless of how many other guys might still be attracted, her own H has every right to be unattracted by a now my overweight wife.

How do you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

Here is the fatal flaw in your reasoning.
He was 135 when they initially hooked up, so she can just STFU about his size.
But she was 40 pounds lighter when they hooked up, so regardless of how many other guys might still be attracted, her own H has every right to be unattracted by a now overweight wife.

Lots of guys are willing to sleep with anyone for a NSA kind of deal. She is married, overweight and not getting it at home. She is talking about sex with other men at work - so obviously does not show good judgement. Some men will take that as long as they do not have to pay for sex.

What and who is she attracting? Stop making her out to be some beautiful woman who is in a bad marital situation. She needs to get her weight in order, her mind off the gutter and pay attention to her family.

[Anonymous]

All of the crazy drama on this thread isn't necessary. Her DH isn't attracted to her when she's 190. She has 3 options: get rid of the weight, get rid of DH or wait for DH to have a change of heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Here is the fatal flaw in your reasoning.
He was 135 when they initially hooked up, so she can just STFU about his size.
But she was 40 pounds lighter when they hooked up, so regardless of how many other guys might still be attracted, her own H has every right to be unattracted by a now my overweight wife.

How do you know?

Because OP said exactly this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

She has more people wanting to fuck her than want to fuck her hubby, I guarantee you that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

She has more people wanting to fuck her than want to fuck her hubby, I guarantee you that!

So what is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

She has more people wanting to fuck her than want to fuck her hubby, I guarantee you that!

So what is your point?

The less attractive party shouldn't be throwing stones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

She has more people wanting to fuck her than want to fuck her hubby, I guarantee you that!

So what is your point?

The less attractive party shouldn't be throwing stones.

He's the same weight he was when they married. There's not much that a short guy can do about being short. Her situation is completely different.

I'd say that a short, in-shape, guy has better chances than a 190 pound woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if lots of guys are interested in you, clearly you are beautiful! Don't let the hubby's lack of interest get to you.

In all honesty, I am used to dating 6 feet plus muscular dudes. If some scrawny little 135 weasel tried critiquing my body, I would tell him he needs to be the one making some changes!!! Some people have a lot of nerve...

That's total bullshit. Having a lot of guys wanting to sleep with an overweight, insecure woman doesn't mean she's beautiful. We don't know who the guys are but I can probably guess. Trust me, they aren't looking for beautiful women to sleep with.

She has more people wanting to fuck her than want to fuck her hubby, I guarantee you that!

So what is your point?

The less attractive party shouldn't be throwing stones.

He's the same weight he was when they married. There's not much that a short guy can do about being short. Her situation is completely different.

I'd say that a short, in-shape, guy has better chances than a 190 pound woman.

He's short and teensy. I would say that a 5'10, 190 pound woman has WAY better odds. One of my friends is 180, 26, and in fantastic shape. She is a swimmer. She gets hit on ALL the time and plenty of men like how tall she is.

On the other hand, no one likes a short, weak man.

[Anonymous]

She wants to fuck him.
But he does not want to fuck her.
I'd say that makes him the more fuckable partner within their marriage.

[Anonymous]

We don't know how tall he is, nor how sting he is, but thats irrelevant.
OP liked him at this exact size when the first got together.
She changed size, he did not.
This makes her wrong end of story.

[Anonymous]

We're really saying that the person who would have the easiest time getting laid by third parties should call the shots within the relationship? That's a formula for female privilege if there ever was one given how much easier it is for a willing woman to get sex from an anonymous guy than vice versa.