s/o Would you date a 40 yr old who lives with her parents?

[Anonymous]

Met a woman recently. She and her elementary age kid have been living with her parents since her divorce 5+ years ago. She drives a Mercedes, seems successful, but...this. Red flag?

[Anonymous]

Nope. No way.

[Anonymous]

No way no way no way.

[Anonymous]

It's not like you're engaged after the first date. I think it's okay to date her just to find out if there is a problem with the apron strings. I'm more concerned that you are trying to judge her based on the car she drives. If she drove a second-hand Hyundai, would it be different?

[Anonymous]

No. Suspected brain damage.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's necessarily a red flag. If she's mostly raising that child alone, living with parents so she has help with care makes some sense. I'm a single parent, and i could see the situation being appealing if I got along well with my parents and the house was big enough.

[Anonymous]

If I were a man ? Yes I would.

[Anonymous]

HUGE red flag.

[Anonymous]

I would see what the situation was.
As a single working mom, the childcare alone would be a great help and if it was a bad divorce , perhaps the grandparents are really nice and stable for the little girl.
Maybe she wanted to really be financially stable as well and this was the best way for her to get on her feet
I wouldn't judge so poorly based on just that she lives with her parents

[Anonymous]

If I were a dude... Yes I would.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. There are many benefits of dating her. Especially if a man is looking for a more stable long term relationship. I would assume the following things about her -
1) She is a good mom and her parents provide childcare for her kids. This would actually allow a man to have her over at his place or go for late night dates without her being anxious to get back to her child. She would not incur babysitting costs when she is out with the man.
2) If she is doing this for financial reasons, it means that she is pragmatic about her money and is a saver. She values money and is not high maintenance.
3) She did not bring home dates to her house and did not get into casual hooking up because she had her parents and child in the same house. So, there is a great chance that she did not turn into the bimbo who sleeps with everyone once a divorce is final. She has her head screwed on right.
4) She has a support system in place, which means that the relationship can progress at an organic pace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. There are many benefits of dating her. Especially if a man is looking for a more stable long term relationship. I would assume the following things about her -
1) She is a good mom and her parents provide childcare for her kids. This would actually allow a man to have her over at his place or go for late night dates without her being anxious to get back to her child. She would not incur babysitting costs when she is out with the man.
2) If she is doing this for financial reasons, it means that she is pragmatic about her money and is a saver. She values money and is not high maintenance.
3) She did not bring home dates to her house and did not get into casual hooking up because she had her parents and child in the same house. So, there is a great chance that she did not turn into the bimbo who sleeps with everyone once a divorce is final. She has her head screwed on right.
4) She has a support system in place, which means that the relationship can progress at an organic pace.

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[Anonymous]

I lived with my parents till I got married. I left and joined my husband in marriage. She probably relies on her parents for child care and can live comfortably saving on rent. I would be concerned if she is getting child support, cheap or free housing and no savings.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

I'm a single mom and I live with my mom and dad. I am saving to buy a condo and can't save much if I rented an apt. Not everyone makes tons of money. I am a teacher and don't make much and my ex is always looking for creative ways not to pay child support.