s/o Would you date a 40 yr old who lives with her parents?

[Anonymous]

I think that it depends on why she's living with her parents. Is she in the basement drinking beer, smoking pot and playing video games? Is she her mamma's precious living Barbie doll who needs to be coddled? (little kid reasons)

Or is she in the process of getting in control of her finances and building a better tomorrow for herself and any children she might have. (grown lady reasons)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that it depends on why she's living with her parents. Is she in the basement drinking beer, smoking pot and playing video games? Is she her mamma's precious living Barbie doll who needs to be coddled? (little kid reasons)

Or is she in the process of getting in control of her finances and building a better tomorrow for herself and any children she might have. (grown lady reasons)

The Mercedes is a sign that she might not be in the process of "getting her finances in order." More like "getting her finances all to herself because mom and dad are paying mortgage, utilities, food and are free babysitters."

[Anonymous]

I think that jumping to conclusions based on a living arrangement alone sounds immature. Life happens in all sorts of ways. Have you considered that her parents may live with her and not the other way around? As we get poorer, we will see more of this and become more accepting of extended families sharing accomodations. Like the rest of the world does.

Anyway, this is a strange questions altogether. Are you 15?

[Anonymous]

Multigenerational households are not uncommon nowadays either. I would consider living with my mom as she ages to help her out and allow my kids to spend more time with her!

The Mercedes is a bit weird to me...but one would need a lot more information about the situation before jumping to conclusions on that one.

[Anonymous]

If she's helping her parents and spending time with her parents (good).

If she's mooching off and squeezing every dime off her parents in order to pamper herself (hell no).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom and I live with my mom and dad. I am saving to buy a condo and can't save much if I rented an apt. Not everyone makes tons of money. I am a teacher and don't make much and my ex is always looking for creative ways not to pay child support.

That's a great reason to live with your parents. I still wouldn't date you until you were in a place of your own and more financially stable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that it depends on why she's living with her parents. Is she in the basement drinking beer, smoking pot and playing video games? Is she her mamma's precious living Barbie doll who needs to be coddled? (little kid reasons)

Or is she in the process of getting in control of her finances and building a better tomorrow for herself and any children she might have. (grown lady reasons)

The Mercedes is a sign that she might not be in the process of "getting her finances in order." More like "getting her finances all to herself because mom and dad are paying mortgage, utilities, food and are free babysitters."

Or she's recently divorced and got the (possibly paid off) car in the property settlement.

[Anonymous]

maybe she is driving mommy's Mercedes.

[Anonymous]

I would do this in a hot second if I got a divorce or my husband died, and it wouldn't be about money. My parents have a big house in a great location (more urban/fun than mine) and are a huge help with my child. I would have plenty of privacy and space.

[Anonymous]

9:55 again- and I already drive a luxury SUV, sure wouldn't sell it because of the move!

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to date some used-up old 40-something who is burdened with some other man's horrible spawn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. There are many benefits of dating her. Especially if a man is looking for a more stable long term relationship. I would assume the following things about her -
1) She is a good mom and her parents provide childcare for her kids. This would actually allow a man to have her over at his place or go for late night dates without her being anxious to get back to her child. She would not incur babysitting costs when she is out with the man.
2) If she is doing this for financial reasons, it means that she is pragmatic about her money and is a saver. She values money and is not high maintenance.
3) She did not bring home dates to her house and did not get into casual hooking up because she had her parents and child in the same house. So, there is a great chance that she did not turn into the bimbo who sleeps with everyone once a divorce is final. She has her head screwed on right.
4) She has a support system in place, which means that the relationship can progress at an organic pace.

Right, cause I'm sure her dates had no house to go to. And we all know that a grown woman having any {gasp} casual sex after her divorce can't possibly have her head screwed on right. All acts of casual sex are only okay for men.

Casual sex is ok in my book. Irresponsible sexual behavior from men or women is not. I know a number of people who got divorced and immediately went to online dating sites with gusto. All the dates ended in some sort of sex that they regretted later on. When some time passed after their divorce they became more choosy in who they had sexual relations with.

Not saying happens with everyone, but happens with some men and women. So, give it a break. What was written above - holds true for both men and women. AND so I stand by in what I wrote that it depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom and I live with my mom and dad. I am saving to buy a condo and can't save much if I rented an apt. Not everyone makes tons of money. I am a teacher and don't make much and my ex is always looking for creative ways not to pay child support.

That's a great reason to live with your parents. I still wouldn't date you until you were in a place of your own and more financially stable.

Not PP, but... really? Is this what American men have been reduced to? This is kind of pathetic. Men should look for "pretty," not "financially stable." Women need "financially stable" Yes, I know, I know, not PC. But WTF?!

[Anonymous]

My friend lived with his parents for a couple years after he started working. He saved the money to buy a condo. Now, he has 3 properties and a good nest egg. All at the ripe old age of 31.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. There are many benefits of dating her. Especially if a man is looking for a more stable long term relationship. I would assume the following things about her -
1) She is a good mom and her parents provide childcare for her kids. This would actually allow a man to have her over at his place or go for late night dates without her being anxious to get back to her child. She would not incur babysitting costs when she is out with the man.
2) If she is doing this for financial reasons, it means that she is pragmatic about her money and is a saver. She values money and is not high maintenance.
3) She did not bring home dates to her house and did not get into casual hooking up because she had her parents and child in the same house. So, there is a great chance that she did not turn into the bimbo who sleeps with everyone once a divorce is final. She has her head screwed on right.
4) She has a support system in place, which means that the relationship can progress at an organic pace.

Right, cause I'm sure her dates had no house to go to. And we all know that a grown woman having any {gasp} casual sex after her divorce can't possibly have her head screwed on right. All acts of casual sex are only okay for men.

Casual sex is ok in my book. Irresponsible sexual behavior from men or women is not. I know a number of people who got divorced and immediately went to online dating sites with gusto. All the dates ended in some sort of sex that they regretted later on. When some time passed after their divorce they became more choosy in who they had sexual relations with.

Not saying happens with everyone, but happens with some men and women. So, give it a break. What was written above - holds true for both men and women. AND so I stand by in what I wrote that it depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for.

I don't understand the big deal about a man or woman going through a casual sex phase.