irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday

[Anonymous]

evite went out 4 weeks ago.

TWO reminders for rsvps went out.

today, a parent rsvp'd yes.

i sent the family an email apologizing that we just don't have space; i said, honestly, that when people did not reply to my rsvp request, that i invited other children from the neighborhood and the party space has a limit, which we are at. i offered a playdate in the future.

how are people so clueless.

i am deleting the last two non-responders - i can't have them rsvp tonight or tomorrow and just assume they can come.

am i crazy?

[Anonymous]

i sent the family an email apologizing that we just don't have space; i said, honestly, that when people did not reply to my rsvp request, that i invited other children from the neighborhood and the party space has a limit, which we are at. i offered a playdate in the future.

how are people so clueless.

i am deleting the last two non-responders - i can't have them rsvp tonight or tomorrow and just assume they can come.

am i crazy?

If what you wrote about other children taking the spaces is true, you are not crazy. If it is a lie, your response was an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

i sent the family an email apologizing that we just don't have space; i said, honestly, that when people did not reply to my rsvp request, that i invited other children from the neighborhood and the party space has a limit, which we are at. i offered a playdate in the future.

how are people so clueless.

i am deleting the last two non-responders - i can't have them rsvp tonight or tomorrow and just assume they can come.

am i crazy?

If what you wrote about other children taking the spaces is true, you are not crazy. If it is a lie, your response was an overreaction.

op here: absolutely true. i added kids when i got no responders. we are at capacity. we might even be over by 1.

[Anonymous]

I had 9 people not RSVP at all to my kid's bday party. I would have welcomed a last minute response.

[Anonymous]

OP you did the right thing! People have no decorum or put any thought into the fact that it takes time, money and effort into planning a party. If you do not RSVP in a timely manner than you are declining. In the future, you may want to delete all non-responders after your last reminder to avoid this happening.

Have a wonderful party tomorrow and may your child have great joy on their special day.

[Anonymous]

You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.

[Anonymous]

I think it is appropriate. The only thing I would do differently (and you may have done it) is let them know in your "final" reminder that failure to RSVP after a certain date means their spot will be given away to someone else.

Some venues have limits to the number invitees. I'm not going to have my kid have a crappy party with a bunch of no-shows because some parent forgot to respond. Especially when I'm PAYING for full capacity anyway!

[Anonymous]

I agree that a reminder should indicate that you need to put in a final count. If no response, send an email that you will miss Joey at the party and hope to catch up another time.

I hate Evite because you can't personalize that much. I just send straight emails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.

Says the twit that thinks she's "too busy" to click "yes" and RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.

Says the twit that thinks she's "too busy" to click "yes" and RSVP.

+1. Obviously a rude non responder who's too lazy to RSVP and thinks her time is more valuable than everyone else's. The hostess is busy, too, OP. And why should she keep open, paid spots for people who couldn't be bothered to click a button?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.

Says the twit that thinks she's "too busy" to click "yes" and RSVP.

+1. Obviously a rude non responder who's too lazy to RSVP and thinks her time is more valuable than everyone else's. The hostess is busy, too, OP. And why should she keep open, paid spots for people who couldn't be bothered to click a button?

+1
You're rude and self-absorbed.

[Anonymous]

We had 7 not RSVP. Two just ended showing up. I also sent out reminders. I was happy that I made extra favors.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.

Ditto. When I invite a child to a party, I would never penalize that child by uninviting the child because a parent doesn't RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.

Ditto. When I invite a child to a party, I would never penalize that child by uninviting the child because a parent doesn't RSVP.

Well if you've figured out a way to convince you DC that pump it up is not the venue they really want for their party please let me know. The fact is that most places besides your home require a head count - from chuck e. Cheese to all fired up (the pottery place) and the zoo and on and on. When you get an invitation you respond in a timely manner. That's just the polite thing to do. I certainly won't penalize my child or another because you feel like yours is being penalized and don't recognize it's your fault.