Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
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Well, for must of us that work this isn't any different than the hours the kids were in daycare the year before. The kids are used to being in care during the day. It is a little more fun now that they have more friends and have a daily time to play together. My kid loved daycare and he loves aftercare. I feel worse for the kids that go home everyday. What are they going to do there? Arrange a play date everyday? This is so true! I would feel awful everyday because he doesn't have anyone to play with here. |
Anonymous
This is so true! I would feel awful everyday because he doesn't have anyone to play with here. I pick my kid up and we spend an hour or more on the playground after school every day unless the weather prohibits it. We come home and it is time for homework and making dinner, then bed shortly thereafter. Aftercare isn't cruel, but my kid isn't suffering because he doesn't go either. |
Anonymous
Seriously. What kind of high income BUBBLE do they live in, thinking even the majority are living such a high life? |
Anonymous
| Agree. I'm so tired of the $150,000 plus one income earner crowd telling me how to live my life. Yes, I want a single family house and not a townhouse or condo to live in a neighborhood that isn't so transient. Yes, I want a decent school for my child. Yes, I want to be able to afford retirement and pay for college. Yes, I want to be able to afford after school activities. To do this, we both need to make at least $150,000 which for us is earned through 2 jobs and aftercare. Do these people just assume everyone is making the same as them? They seem to be the same people who live in the 2500 s.f. house, have the I-phone, go out to eat once a week, etc. while we stay home and make spaghetti and use our flip phones in our 1950's house. It gets so old. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| -1. 1950s houses go for at least 350k (with major work) and usually much more in this area. You are a part of the priviledged few. |
Anonymous
| Yes, that is how I feel, priviledged to be able to own a home like this. However we need two incomes to do this. I get the feeling that many of the people complaining about moms working and kids in aftercare don't have to make this choice. |
Anonymous
| My kindergartener will be in before and aftercare. We are a two income family. Together, we make about $150k. We live in a tiny 1950s rambler, rarely eat out or take vacations and just get by, paying for aftercare and child care for our toddler. Kids are thriving and I know we are lucky to have what we have, but aftercare is definitely not a matter of priorities- it's just what we need to do. Frankly, I think its great that he'll have more time to play and make new friends. |
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| Before and after care kids may have an advantage because they learn things like how to get up early on a regular basis, the importance of interacting well with others who are very different from oneself, and that mommy has a profession and may not be able to cater to every whim, as much as she truly loves his sweet little self. I believe that all will be well and am so intrigued by the original poster as well as by the ensuing firestorm. OP, are you my mother-in-law? |
Anonymous
| I don't care whether they have an advantage or not. All I want is for the bashing of working parents to stop. I know it goes both ways, but really I see more annoying theads from SAHM's than WOHM's. |
Anonymous
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Ouch...
I'm a single mother, that recently moved here from abroad, as I accepted a job offer in DC. I'm also foreigner and not very familiar with the US habits. My DS will be attending a school, which provides extended care until 6 pm. I was Now debating if would be a good idea to sign him up. The thing is...I don't have a lot of choices...either he will attend extended care, either I will hire a part time nanny. I come from a country where the extended day care is until 8 pm, due to the way the counttry and work is organized. I know...terrible, and I'm sure no kid get enough sleep, but...it's our reality. My doubt was...would he be ok, is it normal to be in extended day care or will he be by himself? This is a traditional Roman Catholic school... Shall I get the nanny? But being without siblings, I believe this may be even worst... Please advice.... |
Anonymous
Gosh, I'm sure your child will be fine! Give it a shot and see how it goes. My kids loved aftercare. They attended a public school. I icould have afforded a nanny, but they really enjoyed aftercare, so that is what we do. godd luck and welcome to USA! (I'd love to hear what country you are from that has such extended hours for aftercare-- but I understand if you don't feel comforatable sharing. Maybe someone else can provide a list of possible countries. It hought USA was unique in providing aftercare-- shows I don't get out much, I guess.) |
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We're starting kindergarten next week & will be in SACC. My kid has been in daycare since 3 months. All the mothers at the daycare are working moms. Once we start K are there going to be a lot of SAHMs passing judgment on WOHMs? And vice versa?
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Anonymous
How is this any different then daycare? Clearly these children Have been in group care all of their lives and their families are just doing what they always have. It's no big deal to them. |
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