Fairfax homicide last night

[Anonymous]

He had "regularly reached out to her"

Ugh.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/fairfax-murder-suspect-had-dated-victims-wife-court-documents/ar-AAZ37n0?ocid=uxbndlbing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Geesh. As someone who had a restraining order against an ex from high school who started having mental breaks when we were in college…and ultimately committed suicide…I am thinking hard on this family and what they have lost as well as feeling my privilege that my complicated ex is no longer a threat to me or anyone else…and how our society has a male problem. No, not all men…but many…seem to think they are entitled to the attention of women and to the ability to use violence to get it.

I’m so sorry pp. i completely agree. I can immediately think of multiple friends who have had an ex come out of the woodwork years later reaching out with inappropriate and creepy things and there is so little you can do about it. I am so heartbroken for this family and for gret who will miss out on watching his children grow up. Men are taught they deserve a woman if they want her, and when rejected, some react with serious power and control issues. This is a systemic issue and not just one evil dude. Just a reflection of the systemic issue playing out with someone who ended up developing mental health issues.

People are people. They aren't taught to behave a particular objectionable way. They're people, not robots.

[Anonymous]

They all attended the church where the funeral will be held? That will be surreal.

His career and life have been spiraling down...wonder if anyone recognized how dangerous he is?

Court docs indicated he asked about ordering a pizza after the hearing, is he that arrogant? Like if he couldn't have her she could not have her husband?

There was a post in this thread about Gret's family sitting in the yard while the house was processed, I wonder if there was disagreement w/in the family about how to handle the situation and they felt her handling opened him up to danger? The responsibility for the killing rests with the murderer, of course.

I used to go to a UU church, we had to get stay away orders against a few nuts.

The back door was unlocked, that was how he got in.

That poor woman. How do you move on from this?

[Anonymous]

Did you all read these comments about how the judge said he clearly wasn’t taking this seriously (the accused) and asked to order a pizza after his arraignment hearing?

Sounds like a nut job.

[Anonymous]

This situation scares me. I had a friend when I was single, and I always just considered him a friend. I eventually got married and moved to the East Coast but we kept in touch through Facebook. Whenever I'd post something he'd compliment me, but it always seemed to go over a boundary and made me feel uncomfortable. Then one night he sent a message, he had been drinking. He regretted that he never took that step to ask me out, and that he should have been my husband not the one I'm currently married to. I was blindsided, I had been married for many years at this point. I tried to let him down easy but he was offended that I didn't respond in kind. I didn't dare tell him that I never felt anything other than friendship. I stopped posting on Facebook, and I'm afraid to unfriend him. I think the likelihood of him coming out and doing harm is really small. But for a while I was scared.

[Anonymous]

Who leaves back door unlocked in middle of the night? Yes, I live in Fairfax and know area well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who leaves back door unlocked in middle of the night? Yes, I live in Fairfax and know area well.

And with kids in house.

[Anonymous]

Was it a happy marriage?

Trying to be objective here — who opened back door?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was it a happy marriage?

Trying to be objective here — who opened back door?

Or the real question, how did he know it would be open/unlocked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They all attended the church where the funeral will be held? That will be surreal.

His career and life have been spiraling down...wonder if anyone recognized how dangerous he is?

Court docs indicated he asked about ordering a pizza after the hearing, is he that arrogant? Like if he couldn't have her she could not have her husband?

There was a post in this thread about Gret's family sitting in the yard while the house was processed, I wonder if there was disagreement w/in the family about how to handle the situation and they felt her handling opened him up to danger? The responsibility for the killing rests with the murderer, of course.

I used to go to a UU church, we had to get stay away orders against a few nuts.

The back door was unlocked, that was how he got in.

That poor woman. How do you move on from this?

What? They were sitting outside because no one is allowed to go inside to a crime scene! They were probably in absolute shock and disbelief! She was being questioned by the police and tending to her children. You think they were out there because they’re mad at her? Obviously she called them immediately because it takes about 20 minutes to get from where they live to their house in Fairfax.

[Anonymous]

Affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a happy marriage?

Trying to be objective here — who opened back door?

Or the real question, how did he know it would be open/unlocked?

Yes!!!!! I just thought of this after posting. Unless he entered during normal daylight/evening hours when the family was going in and out of house and hid somewhere in their home?


I watch too many crime dramas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affair?

Reminds me of the Queens murder. Only this time killed the spouse not the lover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a happy marriage?

Trying to be objective here — who opened back door?

Or the real question, how did he know it would be open/unlocked?

I'm guessing he tried on multiple occasions. This time he got lucky and found a way in. I was not diligent about locking the back door, until one night when someone tried to make their way in. Thankfully it was locked that time, and by the time I got the courage to go near it and look out, the person was gone. I now make sure that back door is locked every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a happy marriage?

Trying to be objective here — who opened back door?

Or the real question, how did he know it would be open/unlocked?

Yes!!!!! I just thought of this after posting. Unless he entered during normal daylight/evening hours when the family was going in and out of house and hid somewhere in their home?


I watch too many crime dramas.

Back to accusing the wife. Surprised the husband is not a suspect to you people.