Typical SAHM with school aged kids day

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

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Anonymous wrote:The only people who are immune from these types of criticisms levied at women (whether SAH or WOH) are the rare breed who can make a s**t load of money in a relatively short amount of time - I'm thinking part time docs and such, particularly the ones who work at night.

The rest of us will always be subjected to some sort of attack. When you're SAHM, you're lazy and not using your skills/education. When you're WOHM, you're allowing someone else to raise your kids.

I work FT, but from home 3 days a week, have excellent hours, and I STILL get all sorts of snarky comments from various people in my life. My mom thinks I've 'gone soft' because I work for the govt instead of private industry and therefore make about 20% less. My MIL constantly says 'The poor kids!' because they are at school/daycare from 8-4:30 everyday.

Every has an angle because they basically want you to reflect their own life choices. I just ignore them all.

I work nights 1-2 nights per week in the ER as a physician and get "how can you leave your kids at night" and "how can you work around so many germs and come home to your babies?"
And no one in my family will take my medical advice.
Oh and my personal favorite "why haven't you taken the baby to the doctor yet about that cough?"
Not. Kidding.

Are you insinuating you treat your own child (family member) isn't that unethical? Are you a pediatrician?

Its also strange that no one in your family will take your medical advice. Most doctors I know can't keep family and friends from asking them for advice.

Do you give your child Tylenol and put a humidifier on?
Is that unethical?
Does that require a pediatrician?
Do you think orthodontists pay thousands of dollars for someone else to put braces on their kids teeth?
Doctors are allowed to treat family members. Many don't because it's a pain and with serious issues they need a specialist that may not be yours.
You have never heard of know it alls or people that refuse to take medical advice?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

Seriously? Actually, Muslims DO need to speak up and say that terrorism is not acceptable and that they denounce terrorists groups and all Muslim extremists. The black community needs to do the same regarding "black teen muggers". Christians need to (and have) denounce right-wing bigots. And WOHMs need to speak up and tell the "small number" of WOHMs trolling this thread (and others) to grow the hell up. If you see somepne misrepresenting whatever group you're a part of, then speak up.

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

Seriously? Actually, Muslims DO need to speak up and say that terrorism is not acceptable and that they denounce terrorists groups and all Muslim extremists. The black community needs to do the same regarding "black teen muggers". Christians need to (and have) denounce right-wing bigots. And WOHMs need to speak up and tell the "small number" of WOHMs trolling this thread (and others) to grow the hell up. If you see somepne misrepresenting whatever group you're a part of, then speak up.

Exactly. If I saw a post by a WOHM that said "SAHMs have the same choice I do and they made the right one for them." I would pass out. Several SAHMs have said that about WOHMs though ITT. In fact most SAHMs ITT have said they respect WOHMs and understand how hard it must be. People keep talking about the 1000s of times SAHMs troll WOHMs in their threads but I just don't see it. Maybe its because I don't go into WOHM threads because its been over 12 years since I worked outside the home and I have no business being there. Maybe its because I stopped playing "I know you are but what am I" in the third grade.

On the occasion when I have seen a SAHM be an asshole about being a SAHM I do call them out on it. That is the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM - not by choice (sorry no details)
When kid is in school I work odd jobs to pay for his sports and other classes, plus for my mani-pedi-hair and such. My a-hole H has assigned me a "budget" - using my vulnerable position- the fact that I cannot work full time in a decent job- so I have to supplement.
When I don't have any gigs I clean, cook, food shop, pay bills, call insurance and such. I volunteer at kid's school once a week.
Then I pick him up and take him to playground, his classes/sports, or a playdate. Then we get home- it's screen time and then dinner-bath-bed.

Obviously this is going to change once I am able to gain meaningful employment.

You know, your DH is great that he did not throw you out for having kids by another man. You should actually divorce him and be with the real man who impregnated you. I am sure he will be a man enough to financially support his biological family.

You can change your situation - not by gaining meaningful employment, but by being in a meaningful marriage with the father of your children. Look deep within yourself. Why are you with an a-hole H?

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

If you don't get it I am not going to explain it again.

If you weren't one of the many WOHMs in this thread being horrible that question wasn't directed at you.

As to your question - no absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

Did you read the thread? It wasn't one wohm being a little bitchy. It was page after page of venom from wohms in a thread directed at sahms. I find it telling that all those wohms who were so eager to chime in before are silent once someone asked the above question.

Seriously why did you as a WOHM even venture into a thread named "typical sahm with school aged kids day"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

Did you read the thread? It wasn't one wohm being a little bitchy. It was page after page of venom from wohms in a thread directed at sahms. I find it telling that all those wohms who were so eager to chime in before are silent once someone asked the above question.

Seriously why did you as a WOHM even venture into a thread named "typical sahm with school aged kids day"?

Because she knew the mess she'd find in these 28 pages, but she's trying to act innocent and pretend that SAHM are the crazy ones who start all of the drama. She knows the truth. I find it very telling that she asked pp if she frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family. My guess is that SHE is the one who seeks out the drama and that she knows exactly where to look for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

Oh give me a break (not the PP, BTW). If I read something bitchy by someone claiming to be a SAHM, as I am, I would call them out on it. A few WOHMs have done just that on this thread - that is, called out the bitchy WOHMs writing idiotic posts, and I applaud them. The rest - including you? Not so much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IT WOULD BE GREAT IF A WOHM WOULD ANSWER THIS.

Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day.

Seriously why go into a thread for SAHMs and trash them. What is the thrill there?

Don't you understand that doing so makes you look insecure and/or bitter and/or jealous? Even if you are not that is how it comes off. That is the impression you leave about WOHMs. Is that your intention?

How about you stop generalizing? If a small number of people are trolling a thread, why is it the responsibility of WOHMs to explain/justify/respond? This is like saying "the community" needs to do something about black teen muggers or Muslims need to take accountability for terrorists.

So no answer then.

The only thing trolls are interested in is getting people riled up. That's it. You don't have to take the bait. I don't have to care about how you respond when you do take the bait. I just ignore the whole thing.

If you wan to generalize to huge groups of people because of a bitchy random post on the Internet, then you can't complain if people generalize about you.

Most of us just stay out of it.

I am the PP who asked a WOHM to answer my question. There was no generalization. I asked for a WOHM to answer this question:
Why would a WOHM go into a thread titled "Typical SAHM with school aged kids day" unless they used to SAH and could offer advice about how they scheduled their day? It is a fair question given that this thread has completely gone off topic because of WOHMs who posted in it. I then said that WOHMs who do this come off as bitter even if that is not their intention. It will give the impression about other WOHMs. I did not say "WOHMs are all jealous that is why they all troll SAHM threads." That would have been a generalization.

I still don't get it. Someone claiming to be a WOHM said something bitchy, so you now have the impression that all WOHMs think that way, so I, as a WOHM, have to explain or apologize?

Are you someone who frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family?

Did you read the thread? It wasn't one wohm being a little bitchy. It was page after page of venom from wohms in a thread directed at sahms. I find it telling that all those wohms who were so eager to chime in before are silent once someone asked the above question.

Seriously why did you as a WOHM even venture into a thread named "typical sahm with school aged kids day"?

Because she knew the mess she'd find in these 28 pages, but she's trying to act innocent and pretend that SAHM are the crazy ones who start all of the drama. She knows the truth. I find it very telling that she asked pp if she frequently finds herself having a lot of drama with friends and family. My guess is that SHE is the one who seeks out the drama and that she knows exactly where to look for it.

+1,000

Classic hallmarks of the passive-aggressive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

You are not a sahm, you work half a full time job!!!

I work about 20 hours a week too, but oddly enough i still consider myself a sahm. I think that's because I view my job as just a way to make some extra money and if I felt like it impacted the expectations I have for myself as a mother, I would think nothing of quitting. But I'm not serious about it, the way I was with my career before kids. I still see my primary occupation as being a mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

I'm not paying for college to see my daughter stay home.

Why? Is education for its own sake not important? If it's all about job preparation, why bother with college? Just have her get vocational training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.