Typical SAHM with school aged kids day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

Begone, troll

Not a troll. Think it's pathetic that women go to the gym, "do paperwork" (whatever), and get pedicures and call it a day. Hope they have more ami iron for their daughters.

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

I'm not paying for college to see my daughter stay home.

Why? Is education for its own sake not important? If it's all about job preparation, why bother with college? Just have her get vocational training.

+1. I'd be willing to bet most of the SAHMs in this area only started staying at home after their kids were born, and given the demographics of this area, a majority more than likely had 5-10 years of professional experience beforehand. I've been a SAHM for the past 6 years and still get calls or emails 2-3x per week asking if I'm interested in coming back to work in my previous field (finance, same as the PP). My youngest two kids are twins who are still in preschool and I've got no plans to return to the workforce anytime soon, but my kids are definitely aware that I WOH before they were born and we've had discussions about why DH and I made the decision to have me stay home with them.

[Anonymous]

Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

No, they have time to enjoy their families and LIVE LIFE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

Great? You do you. No one is saying you should want anything other than what works for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

No, they have time to enjoy their families and LIVE LIFE.

Yes, exactly. I do too. I am just surprised to know that so many SAHMs aren't doing anything more than exercising regularly than I do with a FT job.

[Anonymous]

I work P/T at home (20 hours/week). I wake up at 6:30, make breakfast, drive kids to school, then work out most weekday mornings. Sometimes, I make a quick dash to Safeway or CVS. I get to my desk at 10am and work til 2ish. I'll throw in some laundry or start marinating dinner during these hours. From 2-3, I might do a Target or Costco run before picking up kids. Afternoons are sports & other practices, homework, library, Dinner - Cooking, feeding, cleaning up. DH gets home around 6 or 7 and sometimes picks up a kids from a practice. Bedtime routine starts at 8:30. Then I watch a show on TV with DH or read DCUM or a book.

I WOH for many years with kids in day care, after care, etc. I sometimes felt that I needed to stay until 6 to keep up appearances with my boss and co-workers, especially in winter when I took off for snow & sick days. I hated sitting at my desk doing crap work or DCUM for that last hour of the day instead of leaving when I was done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

No, they have time to enjoy their families and LIVE LIFE.

Yes, exactly. I do too. I am just surprised to know that so many SAHMs aren't doing anything more than exercising regularly than I do with a FT job.

Wow you must be really bored, troll. Why don't you enjoy your snow day. Go spend some time with your kids. Go exercise. Anything. Quit making a fool of yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. So the only thing that SAHMs do that I don't is work out on a regular schedule. Don't get me wrong, I wish I liked to exercise more so that I prioritized it over some of my other non-work activities, but I will take how I am handling things as a WOHM.

Great? You do you. No one is saying you should want anything other than what works for you.

+1. Perfect! Another SAHM who is very glad you are happy w/ how you're handling things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.

Because the 35-40 hours a week the kids are in school seems like a lot of time to putter around the house and do errands. It doesn't seem like SAHMs with kids in school spend that much more time with their kids than working parents. And the opportunity cost of not working is pretty significant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.

Because the 35-40 hours a week the kids are in school seems like a lot of time to putter around the house and do errands. It doesn't seem like SAHMs with kids in school spend that much more time with their kids than working parents. And the opportunity cost of not working is pretty significant.

The cost would be significant to you. It seems that way to you.

I'm a SAHM and I listed what I do in very general terms (errands, volunteering, hobbies). I didn't list it all out becsuse I didn't want to identify myself or seem like I was boasting. It's more than "puttering" but I don't have to justify my time to DCUM! You might still do everything I do plus working, and that's great! For you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.

Because the 35-40 hours a week the kids are in school seems like a lot of time to putter around the house and do errands. It doesn't seem like SAHMs with kids in school spend that much more time with their kids than working parents. And the opportunity cost of not working is pretty significant.

As another PP said, stop embarrassing yourself. We get that you can't SAH. The fact that you WOH is your own choice - own it! We've certainly owned our decisions to stay home with our children. I have no idea why you would offer up your unsolicited opinion of SAHMs. Go play in the snow with your kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.

Because the 35-40 hours a week the kids are in school seems like a lot of time to putter around the house and do errands. It doesn't seem like SAHMs with kids in school spend that much more time with their kids than working parents. And the opportunity cost of not working is pretty significant.

As another PP said, stop embarrassing yourself. We get that you can't SAH. The fact that you WOH is your own choice - own it! We've certainly owned our decisions to stay home with our children. I have no idea why you would offer up your unsolicited opinion of SAHMs. Go play in the snow with your kids.

My kids are not in school for 35-40 hrs. My kids attend different schools and I have about 5 hrs per day without the kids. I volunteer at the schools, chair multiple school events, have lunch dates with DH, work out, hang out with friends AND I actually enjoy getting my nails done. I also like to go to the spa to get massages and facials.

When I was working, I never got to work out, was always stressed out and felt I did not have enough quality time with the kids. I earned a very healthy six figure income. DH earns a seven figure income and we decided that it would be best for our family if I stayed home. I enjoy my life now much more than when I was working.

[Anonymous]

WOHMs like to think they do everything SAHMs do but they don't.

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Anonymous wrote:WOHMs like to think they do everything SAHMs do but they don't.

Just. Stop. Trolling. Anybody who takes this idiot's ^^ bait is just as bad as pp is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would explain why it is so horrible that a parent chooses to be a hands on *gasp* parent. Especially if that parent is a woman.

I mean it couldn't possibly be because she wants to be present in a way differently than you do. It must be that shes a lazy gold digger right who is raising her daughter(s) to be pathetic and unfulfilled.

As a SAHM I don't care why you are a WAHM/WOHM your choices are as valid as mine and you love your children the same. Why can't SAHMs get the same consideration? It is ridiculous.

Totally agree. I'm a SAHM and totally respect women who chose to work. But for the life me, I don't understand, why some working moms, don't "get" why a woman would find putting her energies into parenting instead of paid employment to be enjoyable and fulfilling.

Because the 35-40 hours a week the kids are in school seems like a lot of time to putter around the house and do errands. It doesn't seem like SAHMs with kids in school spend that much more time with their kids than working parents. And the opportunity cost of not working is pretty significant.

Because can't think of a job (other than teaching, which I have neither training nor interest in) that allows me to be home when my kids are home, I cluding summers. If you think of one, please let me know. Most employers don't want you take 12 weeks off in the summer.