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Anonymous
| DD is a new student at Maret in 9th grade and is having a wonderful time. She has been welcomed and included by the other students and teachers since the beginning of the year -- there was no unhappy transition period at all. When looking at schools, we focused specifically on finding the perfect combination of challenging academics and more easygoing, accepting social atmosphere. We believe we've found it at Maret. I haven't heard anything from her about mean girls. |
Anonymous
| This an Ncs thread let's get back to that. |
Anonymous
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There is a lot of homework, and quite a few girls have tutors ( which is not openly discussed persay). Names of good tutors are shared amongst the parent circles however.
Recently, diversity seems to skew more towards Asians, rather than across the board IMO. |
Anonymous
It's odd that you should see diversity as skewing toward Asians. There aren't that many Asian-Americans in each grade. |
Anonymous
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I don't have a daughter at NCS yet -currently at Beauvoir and I have a son at STA.
My question to the parents with that find NCS so unsatisfactory for their kids-why don't remove them fom the school? Surely their overall well being and happiness should stump whatever they are getting in academics. There are so many other academically sound schools. Though I am not in your shoes ( kids love their current schools), if my kids were as unhappy as yours seem to be I would not hesitate to move them. I am really curious. |
Anonymous
We did. |
Anonymous
| I wish I knew about the "mean moms." As the parent of an NCS grad, I can confirm that NCS moms deserve their reputation for being super competitive. That attitude plainly contributes to the “mean girl” reputation of NCS. Unlike other single gender schools (including STA) that foster a “sisterhood” or “brotherhood” among students, the prevailing attitude at NCS is each girl for themselves. This attitude is especially noticeable in the college search process when it is next to impossible to get advice from any fellow parent or student. Girls are urged to apply to as many as 20 schools so there is internal competition everywhere. The uber competitiveness also shows up in the classroom where girls are more likely to sabotage another’s work before they help out. To be honest, it is hard to appreciate how vicious the environment at NCS is until you’ve been away for a few years and/or have had a chance to see how things are at other schools or in college. |
Anonymous
| NCS moms are the worst. Those "mean girls" didn't just come out of the cabbage patch. It wouldn't surprise me if 95% of the nasty posts on DCUM come from NCS moms. |
Anonymous
| Can't wait for it to be over--one week left for my DD and I'll never look back. Feel very sad for those girls who remain. |
Anonymous
These sort of over the top posts strike me as odd. Some girls and families like the school, but there is this attitude that if you say you like it you are delusional or a liar or mean yourself. It is an intense place, and far from perfect, so I don't question that some are lukewarm or even extremely negative about the school, but the categorical statements can be offputting too. |
Anonymous
| I'm a parent of a child who has graduated and i actually hear from parents who remain how sorry they are that they sent their daughters there. |
Anonymous
Congrats, Mama and to your girl Bravo! I was you just a few years ago. My DD is home from college for a few weeks and just threw away her NCS bulletin that just arrived in the mail. She wants absolutely nothing to do with the place. Your DD will be so much more happier in college. The nightmare is over! After graduation, my DD couldn't wait to snatch off her cap and gown and run off the Close. Sorry that we put her through the experience, psychologically...wtf was I thinking, I had to have been nuts. Fortunately, her confidence returned a few months into college. |
Anonymous
| With all these first hand accounts it is laughable that NCS defenders waste time denying the problem. How about helping the school try to address the mean girl problem instead wasting time convincing yourself that it doesn't exist? |
Anonymous
| I'm someone who has posted positive comments in the past. I don't think the school is perfect but do have a lot of good things to say about it. A few people always respond with stock posts like "your daughter must be mean herself" or "your daughter must not be in high school" so I have basically given up. I would just give the not very original advice for people thinking about the school to ask around and try to talk to a range of families before making assumptions. |
Anonymous
+1 Anyone who takes anonymous internet musings as gospel never learned the basics of critical thinking. |