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Anonymous
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Another poster and i have refrained from saying much as many have already posted my point of view.
I don't pp sounds like a nightmare. Sounds pretty spot on to me. I think there have been some girls who come out liking the experience but I personally don't know many. I think the comments here are actually very tame and general. Here is the problem as described by one of my daughter's friends. "In my old school I was the smartest girl, the best athleteI felt on top of the world. Here i feel like I am nothing. Literally, nothing. " This was from a beautiful, very athletic, very bright girl. |
Anonymous
I'm 10:03, your post is really reminding me how awful NCS was for my daughter. As brilliant and as wonderful as she was I remember her feeling like a "nothing." I know now that her self esteem took a huge hit due to her NCS experience. None of her friends came out liking the experience. I've met alum in their 30s and 40s who refuse to send their daughters. After reading this thread, apparently, there are some girls who enjoyed their time at NCS, I've just not met one. |
Anonymous
| I have read this thread without posting until now. Count my daughter as one of the current students at NCS who is happy. She says there are mean girls in her class, but she does not have much to do with them and avoids them. She says the mean girls were just as numerous at her old school. |
Anonymous
| The mean girl issue wasn't the dominant problem for most who had a negative experience attending the school. |
Anonymous
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18:24 dead on. The problem is not the girls....
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Anonymous
| 11:10 what grade is your child in? I am sure we would be able to identify your thriving child if we saw her..... |
Anonymous
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If we can accept that there are girls and families who are not happy at NCS, why can't people accept that there are girls and families who are happy? I've met both categories.
It feels like another competition. |
Anonymous
| Maybe thriving girls the mean ones....and their parents don't know! |
Anonymous
+1. Though we did have some mean girl stuff too. |
Anonymous
That's what I mean. Really? |
Anonymous
| 20:27 that statement made tongue in cheek...get a sense of humor or you won't last long at NCS! |
Anonymous
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I can accept that there are girls at NCS who are thriving and happy. But having the perspective of another child at another school it is striking to me just how many girls at NCS are unhappy. And the worst part is that it is just accepted as the norm.
I think the girls who are happy tend to be in their particular mold. So if you hit that sweet spot it may be a great fit. But my DD, who was one of the top students in her class, and a nice kid, did not fit the mold. And there was absolutely no effort on the part of the school to set an inclusive tone, to honor the kids who don;t fit that mold. It just shouldn;t be that hard and I so regret imposing it on my DD. Kids should be happy most of the time. Not all of the time, of course, but they shouldn't be so unhappy. |
Anonymous
Ya got me, fair and square. |
Anonymous
| Could the posters who have experience with NCS and other schools where their daughters received an excellent academic education and were happier and better supported by the administration please post what the other schools are? Thank you! |
Anonymous
| Rosalind Wiseman, the author of "Queen Bees and Wannabees" the inspiration for "Mean Girls" graduated from Maret School. I expect that experience as a student influenced her a lot more than a few years teaching at NCS. Anyone who has had a mean girl experince knows that the worst things occur out of sight of teachers. So if any school was the primary inspiration for "Mean Girls" it had to be Maret. |