Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if my clothes smelled of cigarette smoke? That smell longers

I don’t care if you take your shoes off or not but if you smoke, stay out of my house. You are disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:For people saying that it's common to be asked to take off your shoes at the home of a stranger when you've been invited to for a large adult party, how often has this happened to you?

Never and if it did, I would leave. They might as well ask me to take off my clothes.

If being barefoot to you is the equivalent of being naked, you might consider some therapy. Because uh, that's beyond Puritan.

dp I also wouldn't want to walk around in bare feet.

Suddenly nobody wears socks anymore.

I don't wear socks with sandals

Or heels

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

Dp do you wear shoes on your hands? Hands and feet are totally different!

That’s not even a good argument. No I don’t wear shoes on my hands because I don’t walk on streets with my hands. I do wear gloves when I might touch something that could hurt them (i.e. the reason people wear shoes outside of the house).

So you’re saying you wear shoes because your feet are ugly?

[Anonymous]

Had no idea people had such bad foot hygiene that they are mortified at the idea of taking their shoes off in front of others. People please take a shower everyday, scrub and moisturize your feet and clip your toenails. I promise you your feet will start to look presentable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

20 plus pages of people telling you they don’t want to go barefoot in your house. Stop asking why and acknowledge that not everyone feels the same way you do. Asking people to take their shoes off is not the norm in America. You have now been told this. Do with it what you want, but don’t act all shocked when people either don’t come to your parties (if they’ve been warned) or are upset when you surprise them by asking them to take their shoes off. I have been to hundreds of social functions and I have never once been asked to take my shoes off. If you want to insist that everyone you know does it, go ahead. But OP is talking about people she doesn’t know.

Everyone in my crowd are shoe-free and we all enjoy hosting and not having nasty shoes all over our floors. It's really not that big of a deal, I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious guest at someone elses home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

I think people are more than ok with it. Threatening to not come isn’t really going to change any opinions. I’m not going to uproot my household rules and preferences because of you and your funky feet.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

20 plus pages of people telling you they don’t want to go barefoot in your house. Stop asking why and acknowledge that not everyone feels the same way you do. Asking people to take their shoes off is not the norm in America. You have now been told this. Do with it what you want, but don’t act all shocked when people either don’t come to your parties (if they’ve been warned) or are upset when you surprise them by asking them to take their shoes off. I have been to hundreds of social functions and I have never once been asked to take my shoes off. If you want to insist that everyone you know does it, go ahead. But OP is talking about people she doesn’t know.

Everyone in my crowd are shoe-free and we all enjoy hosting and not having nasty shoes all over our floors. It's really not that big of a deal, I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious guest at someone elses home.

But you will have nasty, sweaty, stinky, fungus feet all over your floor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

20 plus pages of people telling you they don’t want to go barefoot in your house. Stop asking why and acknowledge that not everyone feels the same way you do. Asking people to take their shoes off is not the norm in America. You have now been told this. Do with it what you want, but don’t act all shocked when people either don’t come to your parties (if they’ve been warned) or are upset when you surprise them by asking them to take their shoes off. I have been to hundreds of social functions and I have never once been asked to take my shoes off. If you want to insist that everyone you know does it, go ahead. But OP is talking about people she doesn’t know.

Everyone in my crowd are shoe-free and we all enjoy hosting and not having nasty shoes all over our floors. It's really not that big of a deal, I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious guest at someone elses home.

But you will have nasty, sweaty, stinky, fungus feet all over your floor.

Why do you insist eveyrone is friends with such gross people? This is a you problem. You’re foul, deal with it. Then maybe you’ll find yourself invited out. Until then, stay trolling at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if my clothes smelled of cigarette smoke? That smell longers

I don’t care if you take your shoes off or not but if you smoke, stay out of my house. You are disgusting.

But you invited me and I don't smoke but before coming to your party I was another party where many people were smoking and you know how that smell just sticks to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.