my husband's mother hit my kid

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Anonymous wrote:Swat a leg.

Violence
Abuse
Trauma
Estrangement!

lol. Grow up. This is so lame.

Pretty much how these threads go.

Enjoy these entitled No Rules types as your future teammates, employees, and in laws.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

My kid 2 yr old refused to get into the car one day. Stood outside the house crying and throwing a tantrum. I thought if I got in the car, he'd come to me. Nope. Some kids are really really stubborn. TBF, I'm also very very stubborn.

2yo and already bossing mom around, nice!

Well done Pp.

[Anonymous]

Nap time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I wouldn’t let your mil watch the child alone. Tell her why and don’t let her alone with him or if you do set up cameras.

And report to CPS. It’s your civic duty.
Alert all other siblings with kids asap too. Keep them in the abuse loop.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

My kid 2 yr old refused to get into the car one day. Stood outside the house crying and throwing a tantrum. I thought if I got in the car, he'd come to me. Nope. Some kids are really really stubborn. TBF, I'm also very very stubborn.

You got in the car and did what?

Got right out again?

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

Sigh.
No they’re not.

Natural consequences work for 80% of the kids.

For adhd or asd kids you will need a bigger approach, doctors, meds and therapists. But for basic stuff like Be Ready To Leave the House, even neuroatypicals can accomplish that.

Kids pushing boundaries do so because they know a weak link pushover when they see it.

Shocking stuff that we're talking about the 20%, the actual stubborn kids. We don't know which camp OPs kid falls in but it sounds awfully familiar.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Swat a leg.

Violence
Abuse
Trauma
Estrangement!

lol. Grow up. This is so lame.

Pretty much how these threads go.

Enjoy these entitled No Rules types as your future teammates, employees, and in laws.

The options aren’t “no rules” or “hit kids”. The overwhelming majority of well-educated parents do not need to resort to physical violence to get out the door.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I wouldn’t let your mil watch the child alone. Tell her why and don’t let her alone with him or if you do set up cameras.

And report to CPS. It’s your civic duty.
Alert all other siblings with kids asap too. Keep them in the abuse loop.

I know you think you’re being sarcastic but I would expect my sister to tell me if one of my parents behaved like this, certainly before I let them watch my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:So pretending to abandon a kid by leaving without them is healthier than a hit on the thigh? Yall are messed up

When I was around 4/5 years old, my older by three years brother was tormenting me in our car so I was crying and my mother got ‘fed up,’ pulled over to the side of the road and made us both get out (we were screaming and crying) and then drove off into the distance, around a bend so we couldn’t see her and believed her to be gone.

She says it wasn’t that long, she smoked a few cigarettes and waited for us to ‘bond’ before coming back to get us.

It was early evening, sun going down and advancing twilight. She kicked us out of the car on a country road, nothing but trees and fields around us - no houses, no other cars coming along.

Five years old at most. Left on the side of the road, ‘mother’ screaming at us that she is tired of our BS and we can figure shit out on our own.

Yeah my home life and the parenting on offer was very very far from ideal. But that specific incident broke something inside me, and I have never fully or even halfway trusted another human being since.

It never fails to sicken me, the things so many bad parents do under the guise of ‘discipline’ and ‘character building’ and think nothing of the consequences on a developing brain.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

My kid 2 yr old refused to get into the car one day. Stood outside the house crying and throwing a tantrum. I thought if I got in the car, he'd come to me. Nope. Some kids are really really stubborn. TBF, I'm also very very stubborn.

You're bigger than him and you should have picked him up and put him in the car. Two year olds do not have any rights.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

I would have found a sitter and left him at home. The next time he would have done what he was told to do.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

My kid 2 yr old refused to get into the car one day. Stood outside the house crying and throwing a tantrum. I thought if I got in the car, he'd come to me. Nope. Some kids are really really stubborn. TBF, I'm also very very stubborn.

You're bigger than him and you should have picked him up and put him in the car. Two year olds do not have any rights.

DP. That’s usually how it ends. What works on one sibling might fail miserably with the other.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

I would have found a sitter and left him at home. The next time he would have done what he was told to do.

You are fortunate to have enough last-minute sitters to make that claim.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

+1. I tried this with my DS at the same age and he just watched me pull out of the driveway from a window.

I can see it. Also that kid won't "learn the lesson" and put his shoes on next time either. These kids are dead set on getting their way and won't back down for anything.

My kid 2 yr old refused to get into the car one day. Stood outside the house crying and throwing a tantrum. I thought if I got in the car, he'd come to me. Nope. Some kids are really really stubborn. TBF, I'm also very very stubborn.

You got in the car and did what?

Got right out again?

well, yes, I got out after like 10sec or whatever it was.

DS is 19 now, in college. He's a great kid, super smart (merit aid, went to a magnet program) but still pretty stubborn. Takes after mom And guess what, I did swat him a couple of times on the bottom.

My other DC is not as stubborn and did what they were told fairly easily. But, they rebelled in other ways.

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Anonymous wrote:You would immediately fire a nanny who behaved like this. That should tell you all you need to know about using MiL as a caregiver in the future.

The solution is for OP to spend more time caring for her own child instead of relying on her MIL.

Or hire competent caregivers. MIL clearly isn’t up to it.

Or OP. The kid has behavioral issues.

Even OP is scared of her kid. Puts the shoes near him but not on him. Wonder why.

Because OP is smart enough to know her kid will put them on himself when he sees mom is really leaving. This is the kind of approach often recommended to parents to avoid daily battles with children to get ready.

Hilarious. You have never met a strong willed kid.

I would have found a sitter and left him at home. The next time he would have done what he was told to do.

No, they wouldn’t. You really have never had a difficult kid.