Discrimination against Asians

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

It’s black and white thinking, all or nothing. It’s very unhealthy. Mentally healthy people realize and accept that there is a gray area, and it’s perfectly fine and commendable to be part of that gray area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

Pp here. My kids are well rounded happy kids. We know plenty of snobby white school snobs. We are surrounded by them.

[Anonymous]

And I would only say the second tier college comment on an anonymous school forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

Pp here. My kids are well rounded happy kids. We know plenty of snobby white school snobs. We are surrounded by them.

No doubt, there are snobs of every color, shape, and size. All equally shallow and insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

Pp here. My kids are well rounded happy kids. We know plenty of snobby white school snobs. We are surrounded by them.

No doubt, there are snobs of every color, shape, and size. All equally shallow and insufferable.

I find those are mostly upper class white parents.

[Anonymous]

This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

There are unsuccessful people from all different backgrounds. My point was just that many well educated elite families send their children to private schools. I’m sure many of these kids could get into TJ and do well there. These families just choose private. It is just an observation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

There are unsuccessful people from all different backgrounds. My point was just that many well educated elite families send their children to private schools. I’m sure many of these kids could get into TJ and do well there. These families just choose private. It is just an observation.

Do Asians face discrimination in entry into private schools? Or are the low percentages reflective of something else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

There are unsuccessful people from all different backgrounds. My point was just that many well educated elite families send their children to private schools. I’m sure many of these kids could get into TJ and do well there. These families just choose private. It is just an observation.

Do Asians face discrimination in entry into private schools? Or are the low percentages reflective of something else?

Wealth. Many URMs can get financial aid. Asians are not too rich, nor too poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

There are unsuccessful people from all different backgrounds. My point was just that many well educated elite families send their children to private schools. I’m sure many of these kids could get into TJ and do well there. These families just choose private. It is just an observation.

Do Asians face discrimination in entry into private schools? Or are the low percentages reflective of something else?

Don’t have grandparents who sent the parents or footing the tuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

It’s black and white thinking, all or nothing. It’s very unhealthy. Mentally healthy people realize and accept that there is a gray area, and it’s perfectly fine and commendable to be part of that gray area.

For a couple of billion people, this is considered normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nysmith is 11% Asian, 5% Black.

Both are like 77% White.

In our circles, most wealthy white families send their kids to private school. Most Asian families we know go to good public schools including our family. Every family is different and has different priorities. Our Asian family can easily afford private school tuition from our income but we do not have generational wealthy. I know for our family, we prefer to pay for our children’s college, grad school, wedding and maybe a future down payment. DH also looks at the private school admissions and besides a handful of good privates, you can gain the same admissions from public school.

If we pay $500k per kid and the kid went to Elon or some second tier college, Dh would be pissed. We would be ok if our kid ends up at UVA, NYU, Georgetown or any other decent school from public.

I really dislike the striver Asians types who make comments like these about "Elon or some second tier college."

Granted Asians aren't the only ones who talk like that, but talk about no filter. And then they pass that attitude down to their kids and wonder why other kids want to avoid them. My kid wanted to get away from these attitudes when picking a college and even then his Asian friends made a point of telling him he'd picked a "public Ivy," which was not part of his thinking at all.

Sounds like he was friends with the wrong people, but there’s no need to stereotype an entire race based on a few people’s comments. You started off with “granted Asians aren’t the only ones who talk like that,” as if you’re so open minded, and then go on to spew racist crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. I know plenty of unsuccessful over educated people from very impressive schools. You can't buy it with a label for your kid.

There are unsuccessful people from all different backgrounds. My point was just that many well educated elite families send their children to private schools. I’m sure many of these kids could get into TJ and do well there. These families just choose private. It is just an observation.

Do Asians face discrimination in entry into private schools? Or are the low percentages reflective of something else?

Wealth. Many URMs can get financial aid. Asians are not too rich, nor too poor.

Again, Asians are at the sweet spot. Nothing to gain by privilege and nothing to gain by affirmative action. I would work like crazy. Wait - they don't want you to work too hard, either.