Why are so many women here so angry with / resentful toward women who stay home?

[Anonymous]

OP you answered your own question. "Angry with/ resentful toward women who stay home". They are simply angry resentful women.

[Anonymous]

I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey bitches! If your daughters think you're all great because you have a career in law, science or finance, just brace yourselves! You think they look up to you because of your lousy career. Let's not get ahead of ourselves because this generation of women ar going ng to look up to Melania Trump.

If I have a daughter she would be a classically trained gold digger. Hope she's a beauty with long legs a thigh gap.

SO SAD.



We need to move forward not backwards.

No one says bearing and raising children is not important work. It is, but with a lifespan now of 90 years and at least 4 years of college education + 5 years of experience working, it is a shame to have a qualified, educated and intelligent woman walk back into the kitchen barefoot and cleaning toilets.

House chores do not take 90 years. Neither does raising children.

Chin up ladies, lets meet our full potentials. WE SHALL RISE!

Yes, lives are long which is why it is ridiculous that a woman or a man can't take off 5 years or so to enjoy raising their young children (if that's what they want to do) and then get back into a career. It's not staying home that's a problem it's that our work world makes it so hard for people to move in and out of work as life changes over time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey bitches! If your daughters think you're all great because you have a career in law, science or finance, just brace yourselves! You think they look up to you because of your lousy career. Let's not get ahead of ourselves because this generation of women ar going ng to look up to Melania Trump.

If I have a daughter she would be a classically trained gold digger. Hope she's a beauty with long legs a thigh gap.

SO SAD.



We need to move forward not backwards.

No one says bearing and raising children is not important work. It is, but with a lifespan now of 90 years and at least 4 years of college education + 5 years of experience working, it is a shame to have a qualified, educated and intelligent woman walk back into the kitchen barefoot and cleaning toilets.

House chores do not take 90 years. Neither does raising children.

Chin up ladies, lets meet our full potentials. WE SHALL RISE!

Yes, lives are long which is why it is ridiculous that a woman or a man can't take off 5 years or so to enjoy raising their young children (if that's what they want to do) and then get back into a career. It's not staying home that's a problem it's that our work world makes it so hard for people to move in and out of work as life changes over time.

You can still take 5 years off and go back if you're willing to start at entry level all over again. And what's easier, tailoring your work/life sequence to the working world reality, or changing the world lol? I also would argue that if one were to SAH, one should do it when children are in 7th through 12th grades. Much more important to be really engaged with your almost adult children and no childcare options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

My friend has grown kids. She loves being home and not having to work. Plays golf, meets with friends for lunch, and all kinds of things. If your mother was that bored there are always jobs or volunteering. I'm not buying it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

My friend has grown kids. She loves being home and not having to work. Plays golf, meets with friends for lunch, and all kinds of things. If your mother was that bored there are always jobs or volunteering. I'm not buying it.

Not this nonsense again. Welll adjusted kids are busy with school, sports, and extracurriculars, not hanging at home with mom in middle and high school. No wear time to helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

My friend has grown kids. She loves being home and not having to work. Plays golf, meets with friends for lunch, and all kinds of things. If your mother was that bored there are always jobs or volunteering. I'm not buying it.

Not this nonsense again. Welll adjusted kids are busy with school, sports, and extracurriculars, not hanging at home with mom in middle and high school. No wear time to helicopter.

Well adjusted kids don't need parents according to your convenience. I call bs.

[Anonymous]

Well that's amazing! Little kids don't need a mothers care, because they don't remember, and older kids don't need your attention because , well, because that's what you believe.

Raising kids doesn't even really take parents, does it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well that's amazing! Little kids don't need a mothers care, because they don't remember, and older kids don't need your attention because , well, because that's what you believe.

Raising kids doesn't even really take parents, does it?

Huh? I actually stayed home with my kids before they went to school but I know many people who can both parent and work outside the home. Fancy that!

If you want to retire early, do so. But don't pretend it is because your fourteen year old needs you at home while they are at school and school activities/sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

My friend has grown kids. She loves being home and not having to work. Plays golf, meets with friends for lunch, and all kinds of things. If your mother was that bored there are always jobs or volunteering. I'm not buying it.

lol Grown kids as in over 18!!! She is busy enjoying life as in NOT bored!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I love being a sahm. I have 3 kids 2 in school and one in half days for the next two years. It's the perfect amount of free time/childcare for me. Sometimes I feel bad for my H when I think about what my typical day looks like. Today I have a hair appointment (I love not having to go on Saturdays anymore), lunch with my mom, DD's ice skating lesson, and a play date at the park with a friend later with her kids. Lovely. I feel so lucky that this is my "job." I never get that miserable feeling in the pit of my stomach on Sunday afternoons anymore. He likes that I'm home with the kids full thing me though so I don't feel too bad.

What do you do for intellectual stimulation, or it's not that important to you?

I read a lot and follow current events. I'm involved in a women's group here in DC where we assign articles and discuss feminism and social justice issues (and incidentally I have never once been made to feel inferior or somehow "not sufficiently feminist" because I don't currently work for money - as a matter of fact, we actually talk a lot about how second wave feminimt was too wedded to a white, corporate, capitalist model and was only narrowly helpful for a small segment of women). I previously worked as a teacher which was very hard and draining in many ways but not particularly intellectually rigorous so it's not like I'm missing much in that regard, having given it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate staying at home. Hate it! I am not jealous of anyone who stays at home! I admire them for not going crazy with boredom of the shear isolation. Going to work is awesome--I get to see people and leave the house and can take a bit of time off to get my hair done. And I am just happier working. The only thing I feel a bit bad about is when their kids leave and they seem to have nothing and can't get a job. It happened to my mother and my heart breaks to see her bored out her mind and unemployable.

I think people who say this are just not very creative. I actually have to work for a living but I could never be bored with a large amount of free time. I have so many hobbies and interests I'd like to pursue from working out to getting really good at cooking to reading to quilting to volunteering for causes I care about (like the local humane society). I took up horseback riding again recently for the first time since I was a kid and if I didn't have to work and had a lot of extra money I'd definitely look into leasing a horse or even buying one so I could go more often. Heck I know unemployed folk (with trust funds) who are basically career college students. Sounds amazing to me.

Everyone's interests are different so yours probably wouldn't look too much like mine but you must have some.

[Anonymous]

Boring people get bored. I love my free time and have developed hobbies that engage me and involve others. I could easily play golf 4 days a week and continue triathlon training.

To all of you who have "no idea" what SAHM do all day and think we sit on the couch eating Cheetos ~

Do you plan to never retire? I mean, aren't most dual income families so flush that you are all retiring by 60? At 60 I plan to be pretty spry! I'd hate to be thrust into retirement with no shared passions or interests with my spouse. I can't imagine being a widow with no idea what to do all day. Sounds like a quick road to the retirement home, to me.

(And I'm not talking to all WOHM, just those who seem to be getting pleasure out of pretending we at home have no lives, intellectual stimulation or hobbies).

If you truly can't imagine what you'd do all day I feel badly for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey bitches! If your daughters think you're all great because you have a career in law, science or finance, just brace yourselves! You think they look up to you because of your lousy career. Let's not get ahead of ourselves because this generation of women ar going ng to look up to Melania Trump.

If I have a daughter she would be a classically trained gold digger. Hope she's a beauty with long legs a thigh gap.

SO SAD.



We need to move forward not backwards.

No one says bearing and raising children is not important work. It is, but with a lifespan now of 90 years and at least 4 years of college education + 5 years of experience working, it is a shame to have a qualified, educated and intelligent woman walk back into the kitchen barefoot and cleaning toilets.

House chores do not take 90 years. Neither does raising children.

Chin up ladies, lets meet our full potentials. WE SHALL RISE!

Yes, lives are long which is why it is ridiculous that a woman or a man can't take off 5 years or so to enjoy raising their young children (if that's what they want to do) and then get back into a career. It's not staying home that's a problem it's that our work world makes it so hard for people to move in and out of work as life changes over time.

You can still take 5 years off and go back if you're willing to start at entry level all over again. And what's easier, tailoring your work/life sequence to the working world reality, or changing the world lol? I also would argue that if one were to SAH, one should do it when children are in 7th through 12th grades. Much more important to be really engaged with your almost adult children and no childcare options

I actually did take 5 years off and returned to a position at the level where I left because 1) I stayed in contact with former bosses and coworkers and did the occasional project in my field and 2) was lucky to find a job with a boss who realizes 15 years of experience don't disappear just because you spend some time focusing on children. Why should someone with 15 years of experience have to start at entry level again? That makes no sense. I hire entry-level people now and wouldn't look at a returning SAHM for entry-level (returning to the same field she left, that is) because she'd be way overqualified and thus bored and leave quickly. But I'd absolutely consider one if a position matched her experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boring people get bored. I love my free time and have developed hobbies that engage me and involve others. I could easily play golf 4 days a week and continue triathlon training.

To all of you who have "no idea" what SAHM do all day and think we sit on the couch eating Cheetos ~

Do you plan to never retire? I mean, aren't most dual income families so flush that you are all retiring by 60? At 60 I plan to be pretty spry! I'd hate to be thrust into retirement with no shared passions or interests with my spouse. I can't imagine being a widow with no idea what to do all day. Sounds like a quick road to the retirement home, to me.

(And I'm not talking to all WOHM, just those who seem to be getting pleasure out of pretending we at home have no lives, intellectual stimulation or hobbies).

If you truly can't imagine what you'd do all day I feel badly for you.

yeah this. Leisure time + a lot of money = pretty f***ign nice.