Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

Why'd he marry her instead of you?
And honey - that's what he tells you. I mean, come ON.
And he has others on the side, not just you. You know that, right?

No, I don't know that. You don't know it either.
You all are very concentrated on the wife and how he's married. We don't talk about his marriage when we're together. Even if he's having sex with her every night that he's home, it's fine with me. This is just not a huge deal in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he married?

He is.

Not to you?

Not to me. He was engaged when we met.

Wives are not "kept women".

Those who don't work are.

Uh uh, no. Not even close. I put down half of the down payment on our house, I worked before we had kids and it was a joint decision that I quit work when our first was born. This is how we work together as a team. No way am I a "kept" woman. How ridiculous of you.

Just because u don't like it doesn't make it not true

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

Why'd he marry her instead of you?
And honey - that's what he tells you. I mean, come ON.
And he has others on the side, not just you. You know that, right?

No, I don't know that. You don't know it either.
You all are very concentrated on the wife and how he's married. We don't talk about his marriage when we're together. Even if he's having sex with her every night that he's home, it's fine with me. This is just not a huge deal in my opinion.

Why did he marry her if you met him before he was married?
Do you acknowledge that he chose her over you ? How pathetic to be with a man who considers you second best.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol he wasn't married when you met and went on to marry someone else? And you're still "with" him. That may be the most pathetic thing ever. Keep convincing yourself he chose you over her, OP. It was obviously the other way around.

This is the main point. How'd he justify this to you, OP?

Let me guess - you'll "miss" this question too.

He didn't HAVE to justify it to me. I didn't feel the need to demand he call off the wedding.

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What will you do if you get pregnant? If you get an STD?

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Sloppy seconds

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Anonymous wrote:Lol he wasn't married when you met and went on to marry someone else? And you're still "with" him. That may be the most pathetic thing ever. Keep convincing yourself he chose you over her, OP. It was obviously the other way around.

This is the main point. How'd he justify this to you, OP?

Let me guess - you'll "miss" this question too.

He didn't HAVE to justify it to me. I didn't feel the need to demand he call off the wedding.

Who feels the need for self respect? You're a trip.

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Totally - yet thinks she's winning. Gross.

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This is the PP who asked how you'd feel if it was your dad cheating on your mom. You said you'd be confused and wonder how it would impact your daily life. Is that it? Would you be angry or hurt? Would you hate the other woman? Would you feel your cheating parent was being selfish? Do you ever think about these things when you are with your lover?

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Anonymous wrote:This is the PP who asked how you'd feel if it was your dad cheating on your mom. You said you'd be confused and wonder how it would impact your daily life. Is that it? Would you be angry or hurt? Would you hate the other woman? Would you feel your cheating parent was being selfish? Do you ever think about these things when you are with your lover?

No, I don't. I'm not a child now. And I'm not cheating on a spouse.

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Do you realize you have low self-esteem?

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Anonymous wrote:What will you do if you get pregnant? If you get an STD?

I'd abort. I'd get the STD treated.
I know you all think since he'll cheat on his wife with me, he'll cheat on me. You're entitled to your opinion. But I know him and I don't think he's "cheating" on me, and I'm entitled to my opinion too.

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Anonymous wrote:What will you do if you get pregnant? If you get an STD?

I'd abort. I'd get the STD treated.
I know you all think since he'll cheat on his wife with me, he'll cheat on me. You're entitled to your opinion. But I know him and I don't think he's "cheating" on me, and I'm entitled to my opinion too.

If you're "the one" then why isn't he leaving his wife for you? He can't "cheat" on you because you have no hold over him.

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Repeating this because it has not yet been answered:

OP, he gives you a lump sum of $33k each year for rent: What form does the money come in? Personal check? Bank transfer? Cash?

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I think op thought we would all find her mysterious and exciting rather than sad and pathetic.