Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

Some people care about the actual personality and personal connection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

OP here. I think she does know, on some level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

They would have considered that to be adult business and wouldn't have allowed us (the children) to know about it. Often when we asked a question we were told "I'll tell you when you're older," and were frequently ordered to leave the room so the adults could talk.

That's not answering the question. How would this make you feel, if you found out?

Probably confused and I'd want to know how it would affect our family life day to day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

They would have considered that to be adult business and wouldn't have allowed us (the children) to know about it. Often when we asked a question we were told "I'll tell you when you're older," and were frequently ordered to leave the room so the adults could talk.

That's not answering the question. How would this make you feel, if you found out?

Probably confused and I'd want to know how it would affect our family life day to day.

what would you think of your father? the other woman?

[Anonymous]

OP, the $33k he gives you for rent each year: What form does the money come in? Personal check? Bank transfer? Cash?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

Some people care about the actual personality and personal connection.

So his personality is not so hot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

Some people care about the actual personality and personal connection.

So his personality is not so hot?

Sorry, the person you quoted is not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

So he dated and married a woman who wasn't that into sex. Not an arranged marriage with a bride from the old country or a political marriage between the scions of WASP dynasties. But a regular guy who figured, I'll marry this one and pay to screw another one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

He's having sex with his wife. He's just making that stuff up for your benefit. I guarantee it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

Because he can't keep it in his pants and God only knows what he may bring home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if it were your mom that was being cheated on by another woman? Or what if your dad was keeping a mistress on the side? And please answer this based on how you'd have felt when you were still a child living at home.

Good question. I'm curious about that, too.

Although I'm also wondering if perhaps the wife isn't as in the dark as everyone thinks, but is willing to put up with it to keep her current lifestyle (SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper) and keep the guy OUT of her bed and away from home as much as possible.

If he's so good looking and great in bed, why doesn't the wife want him in her bed?

OP here. I think she's not into sex - it's about her issues.

Why'd he marry her instead of you?
And honey - that's what he tells you. I mean, come ON.
And he has others on the side, not just you. You know that, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol he wasn't married when you met and went on to marry someone else? And you're still "with" him. That may be the most pathetic thing ever. Keep convincing yourself he chose you over her, OP. It was obviously the other way around.

This is the main point. How'd he justify this to you, OP?

Let me guess - you'll "miss" this question too.

[Anonymous]

If we're going to be real detectives here, the only DC area college with an interior design undergraduate major that existed when OP was in college was Marymount. Or community college. So she went there or she didn't go to college in or near DC. And furthermore, if she is working part time in a flower shop or doing odd jobs, she's going to have a hard time getting a job in her industry. Which incidentally pays pretty poorly for all but the allstars.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - forget the slamming posts. I've got a couple I'm sincerely interested in:

1. Does your guy pay for your apartment? How does that work - does he write you a check or send it directly to the apt. complex?

2. When he bought you your car, did he go with you to the dealership? Did he act like you're buying it (you know, so you wouldn't by a Ferrari or something like that) and then when you picked it out he said, I'll get this. Again - how were the logistics - did he pay the dealership directly? is it a loan with monthly payments that he pays for?

3. Does his wife know you? If so, how?

4. When you go out, do you have to be discreet? (sit in back corner or restaurant, go to out-of-the way places, etc.) or is he not too worried about being seen?

Thanks!

1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

If the car is on your name, did you pay a gift tax?

I was wondering the same thing. Big lump sum cash gift for a year's rent, a car....

+1. We must be accounting nerds.