Confessions

[Anonymous]

Women are always complaining about how The Man brings them down. I think it's The Woman who brings us down. We are brutal and cruel to each other and far more forgiving with our male counterparts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are always complaining about how The Man brings them down. I think it's The Woman who brings us down. We are brutal and cruel to each other and far more forgiving with our male counterparts.

True of many downtrodden groups.

[Anonymous]

I want to be a SAHM and I feel like I am wasting away my baby's childhood by going to work each day. I grew up in poverty though and can't fathom walking away from my 6 figure salary, or denying my child our current lifestyle- it isn't opulent by any stretch, but we are very comfortable. I want him to have all the experiences I missed.

Wow. I'd love to get together with you, even if on email -- I am a new mom going through the exact same thing!

[Anonymous]

WTF is a push present? Like a present you get for pushing out a baby? I'm aware I could google it but somehow I am afraid, LOL.

[Anonymous]

WTF is the big deal with a spouse/partner giving a gift after a baby is born. I went through years of infertility, gave myself shots for months straight, laid up in a hospital bed for 11 weeks to give birth to healthy twin babies. I fucking deserved a gift and I'm not ashamed to admit it! And let me tell you infant twins are NOT a gift so don't go on with the bs about how the baby is the gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is the big deal with a spouse/partner giving a gift after a baby is born. I went through years of infertility, gave myself shots for months straight, laid up in a hospital bed for 11 weeks to give birth to healthy twin babies. I fucking deserved a gift and I'm not ashamed to admit it! And let me tell you infant twins are NOT a gift so don't go on with the bs about how the baby is the gift.

while i totally understand your point here...

why bother with so much suffering if you're not going to view your children as a gift?

I think you're contradicting yourself here. They ARE a gift. They just come with strings attached.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, this is so bad and i dont admit this out loud. BUT I think I lose a bit of respect for people if they are super Christian. Like if they really believe Jesus walked on water and really belive he is the son of God. For some reason my prejudice doesn't extend to Jews, who I sort of put on a pedestal because the Jews I know are generally funnier and smarter than the average person! Also, I look down on people who believe in superstitions and New Ageisms like astrology, crystals, etc.
I know these thoughts and beliefs are totally UNFAIR and I have to try to get to the bottom of why I feel these ways.
But these are supposed to be confessions so I guess I am supposed to be conflicted about what I admit!!

I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, this is so bad and i dont admit this out loud. BUT I think I lose a bit of respect for people if they are super Christian. Like if they really believe Jesus walked on water and really belive he is the son of God. For some reason my prejudice doesn't extend to Jews, who I sort of put on a pedestal because the Jews I know are generally funnier and smarter than the average person! Also, I look down on people who believe in superstitions and New Ageisms like astrology, crystals, etc.
I know these thoughts and beliefs are totally UNFAIR and I have to try to get to the bottom of why I feel these ways.
But these are supposed to be confessions so I guess I am supposed to be conflicted about what I admit!!

I feel the same way.

I do as well. I have a hard time understanding how people can take the Bible literally.

[Anonymous]

I had a dream I hooked up with Jon Gosselin last night *shudder*. I have no idea where that dream pulled itself out of!

[Anonymous]

why bother with so much suffering if you're not going to view your children as a gift?

PP here with twin "gifts." I probably should have been more clear. My children are my greatest gift NOW, but twin newborns are certainly NOT. It was pure hell for about 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I want to be a SAHM and I feel like I am wasting away my baby's childhood by going to work each day. I grew up in poverty though and can't fathom walking away from my 6 figure salary, or denying my child our current lifestyle- it isn't opulent by any stretch, but we are very comfortable. I want him to have all the experiences I missed.

Wow. I'd love to get together with you, even if on email -- I am a new mom going through the exact same thing!

PP here. I'd love to chat too. I feel like I am the only one struggling with this guilt trip. Email me at [e-mail].

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend a huge amount of time at work doing personal stuff. Paying bills, planning vacations, ordering groceries, ordering kids clothes, you name it. I think if anyone found out I would be fired right away.

But do you get your work done?

Everyone does this. They did a study that says in an average 9 hour work day people take the 1 hour lunch and surf the net for personal stuff 2 hours. That's the average. And that's just net-surfing. Not to mention all the time people spend chatting about non-work related issues, a couple of short calls to talk with DH, etc.

It's normal. Most companies don't have the resources to track everyone unless there is a productivity concern. In fact, my IT department just called me and said they have no record of me going online since 2007, which is obviously not the case! They saw when they were looking to upgrade me on something.

[Anonymous]

I confess I feel sorry for pp's spouse and kids on the ranting about a stupid push present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I want to be a SAHM and I feel like I am wasting away my baby's childhood by going to work each day. I grew up in poverty though and can't fathom walking away from my 6 figure salary, or denying my child our current lifestyle- it isn't opulent by any stretch, but we are very comfortable. I want him to have all the experiences I missed.

Wow. I'd love to get together with you, even if on email -- I am a new mom going through the exact same thing!

PP here. I'd love to chat too. I feel like I am the only one struggling with this guilt trip. Email me at [e-mail].

as a SAHM I honestly don't get this. You clearly choose to work and have the money over your true desire to be around your child. Can you go for more balance? Less work, less money a little more time with your child?

I confess I find it disturbing how many moms will get super defensive when talking about their choices. There are women who HAVE to work to support their families and then there are those who could probably make both work with some sacrifices. I don't get the guilt trip thing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend a huge amount of time at work doing personal stuff. Paying bills, planning vacations, ordering groceries, ordering kids clothes, you name it. I think if anyone found out I would be fired right away.

Lucky.