Where do "B" average Big-3 students go to college?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

Aww I feel so bad that you can’t buy your way through life anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

You can’t buy everything in life anymore, your kid actually has to compete.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

This has got to be satire. You think that people could just put their kids in “top school districts” if “only they cared about education”?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

To whom much is given, much is expected.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

This has got to be satire. You think that people could just put their kids in “top school districts” if “only they cared about education”?

You know what you're missing? People worked their butts off to buy homes in these areas because they prioritized educational achievement. I don't see why the kid in the great school system should be penalized versus the kid in the okay school system.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

To whom much is given, much is expected.

"Given?" I think the word is "earned." But keep living off of other people's handouts and unfair advantages because of "the system."

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

To whom much is given, much is expected.

"Given?" I think the word is "earned." But keep living off of other people's handouts and unfair advantages because of "the system."

Yes, “given.” The kids didn’t earn squat.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

This has got to be satire. You think that people could just put their kids in “top school districts” if “only they cared about education”?

You know what you're missing? People worked their butts off to buy homes in these areas because they prioritized educational achievement. I don't see why the kid in the great school system should be penalized versus the kid in the okay school system.

Because buying a more expensive house doesn’t actually mean your kid is more meritorious than the kid who grew up in an apartment.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

This has got to be satire. You think that people could just put their kids in “top school districts” if “only they cared about education”?

You know what you're missing? People worked their butts off to buy homes in these areas because they prioritized educational achievement. I don't see why the kid in the great school system should be penalized versus the kid in the okay school system.

We try to judge kids on their own merits given that they don’t choose who they’re born to. The single parent who works 2 jobs to put food on the table is absolutely working their butt off.

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I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

Translation: you played the game the best way you could. Someone else played the game the best way they could. You thought you would win and your style of play was better, but you lost. And because you never thought you could lose it seems unfair.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

This has got to be satire. You think that people could just put their kids in “top school districts” if “only they cared about education”?

You know what you're missing? People worked their butts off to buy homes in these areas because they prioritized educational achievement. I don't see why the kid in the great school system should be penalized versus the kid in the okay school system.

Penalized? This kid has been given way more opportunities to distinguish themself because of their zip code.

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I don't know why people are so dubious of my story. I won't share the sport or school because I am very paranoid about posting on here. It is not football or basketball, but is a very popular sport--not track--that lots of kids play around here. The coach was fairly familiar with our private and said, yeah, these grades are a little low, but admissions understands the rigor, it should be fine. The coach texted my kid on June 28 and said something along the lines of, can't wait to call you on Friday! (which was July 1). Friday came and went with no call, so we knew there was a problem. Monday was a holiday. Coach called at 8 am on Tuesday, July 6, and said they worked all weekend to try to convince admissions but they said, no way. Kid then spent the summer weighing a D3 offer at a lower ranked school that he really liked with the D1 offer he had had since January. The D1 school has a much higher academic reputation, but was just never the kid's first choice and he was never really intent on playing D1 because of academic concerns and wanting to play but also enjoy college. He is very good at his sport. Not top D1, but top NESCAC and lower D1 level. I hope these details will convince you all that I am not making it up. A 3.2 from a rigorous DC private was not enough to get a top NESCAC recruit past the pre-read.

I totally believe this parent. We were on a recruiting webinar with men's lax coaches from Williams, Swarthmore & Wesleyan and Tufts. The Williams coach was brutally honest explaining it doesn't matter how amazing you are on the field, if you don't have the grades, you won't get past the pre-read. He said they turn away great players all the time because NESCAC schools prioritize academics over athletics. He said we take the "student" in "student athlete" very seriously. It stinks and I'm sorry for your son, but getting the pre-read at least gave him a chance to shift gears and re-consider his options. The coaches all encouraged the kids to think about life beyond lacrosse and to make the best choice based on their life goals. Best of luck to your son.

I'm a little surprised that a parent of a kid at a rigorous DC private thought that a 3.2 was sufficient to get past the pre-read. When my DD was a sophomore but playing on a club team comprised mostly of juniors b/c of birth date attended a lot of team meet and greets with coaches. They were all quite clear that they wanted top student-athletes not athletes. One of her team members tried to make an argument that her curriculum was more rigorous so that should count for something with her GPA. Yeah, the coach let her know that meant nothing to him.

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I don't know why people are so dubious of my story. I won't share the sport or school because I am very paranoid about posting on here. It is not football or basketball, but is a very popular sport--not track--that lots of kids play around here. The coach was fairly familiar with our private and said, yeah, these grades are a little low, but admissions understands the rigor, it should be fine. The coach texted my kid on June 28 and said something along the lines of, can't wait to call you on Friday! (which was July 1). Friday came and went with no call, so we knew there was a problem. Monday was a holiday. Coach called at 8 am on Tuesday, July 6, and said they worked all weekend to try to convince admissions but they said, no way. Kid then spent the summer weighing a D3 offer at a lower ranked school that he really liked with the D1 offer he had had since January. The D1 school has a much higher academic reputation, but was just never the kid's first choice and he was never really intent on playing D1 because of academic concerns and wanting to play but also enjoy college. He is very good at his sport. Not top D1, but top NESCAC and lower D1 level. I hope these details will convince you all that I am not making it up. A 3.2 from a rigorous DC private was not enough to get a top NESCAC recruit past the pre-read.

I totally believe this parent. We were on a recruiting webinar with men's lax coaches from Williams, Swarthmore & Wesleyan and Tufts. The Williams coach was brutally honest explaining it doesn't matter how amazing you are on the field, if you don't have the grades, you won't get past the pre-read. He said they turn away great players all the time because NESCAC schools prioritize academics over athletics. He said we take the "student" in "student athlete" very seriously. It stinks and I'm sorry for your son, but getting the pre-read at least gave him a chance to shift gears and re-consider his options. The coaches all encouraged the kids to think about life beyond lacrosse and to make the best choice based on their life goals. Best of luck to your son.

I'm a little surprised that a parent of a kid at a rigorous DC private thought that a 3.2 was sufficient to get past the pre-read. When my DD was a sophomore but playing on a club team comprised mostly of juniors b/c of birth date attended a lot of team meet and greets with coaches. They were all quite clear that they wanted top student-athletes not athletes. One of her team members tried to make an argument that her curriculum was more rigorous so that should count for something with her GPA. Yeah, the coach let her know that meant nothing to him.

Cool anecdote. This was not that case. Both coach and school college counselor--plus data from Naviance--showed the GPA in the lower end of the range. Again, if you don't have a kid at one of these schools and don't have access to the data, you really don't know what you're talking about. Thanks though. Cool story.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my 3.2 gpa "big 3" DD just outright rejected from CU Boulder. I am flabbergasted. This is the most messed up college admissions cycle we have experienced yet. What a mess.

I'm so sorry. This must be stressful. Did DD submit SAT or ACT scores? I do wonder if at these large schools it's harder for Big-3 students to complete bc of the lack of grade inflation, and so students need to submit standardized test scores. Did DD apply to any schools early?

She did submit. It was not a high ACT, but was above the 50th% range, so counselor said definitely submit. It's all about GPA now that TO is the norm. With so much grade inflation everywhere else, anything lower than a 3.7, no matter the school, is automatically out at large universities. I wish my kids had never attended the school they did. Not just because of college acceptances, but because they never felt anything other than like they were the stupid kids and end their senior year feeling ilke failures because the majority of their classmates are attending top 30 colleges and universities. I wish they had just had normal childhoods, surrounded by normal people who don't judge based on college matriculation.

yikes - $160k on hs to come out feeling like the stupid kid - empathize with you and totally agree that it was a mistake - hard pass on the private route for me.

I was weak and let my husband and his family force this. I fought for years to get them out, but couldn't win. The only option was to divorce and that seemed extreme. Honestly, I wish I had and had hired a lawyer to win the fight. You are making the right choice. It was an absolutely horrible experience and I live with regret everyday that we don't get a do-over for my poor kids.

Try not to look at private school as having failed your child: your child will probably be more prepared for his/her first year of college than others. My DS is rocking his first year of college, because he is prepared.

It’s fine to assume your kid will be well prepared, but don’t assume they’ll be “more” prepared than others. My public school DS with his “fake” high school GPA is crushing it as a premed chemistry major in his top 5 SLAC and his roommate is a public school kid from Indiana who basically carried their entire friend group through organic chemistry, and the international students from Asian countries are settling the bar for all of them. And doing this while balancing work study jobs.

I’m not denying the quality of a private school education but it’s the height of arrogance to think that public school kids at top colleges and universities aren’t going to be equally well prepared.

Also don’t assume top publics grade inflate or are easy. We are at a top public in New England, an A in an AP is hard to come by, and the B+ students face an uphill battle with admissions despite high test scores. I am convinced if my kids went to the less competitive public in a nearby town; they would have 4.0 and get into college easily.

NP. I agree with you, 100%

What I don't quite understand is the reliance on grades being so extra-heavy even when scores are present. High GPA plus no score >>> "Low" GPA plus high score. The treatment of GPA as if it's standardized (regardless of what is said to the contrary about context) is bizarre, but that seems to be the current situation.

The losers in all this are the kids whose parents deliberately put them in a challenging rigorous school so they can develop intellectually. These are the very kids being weeded out… To an extent this is part of the war against “privilege”- the only rigorous schools are elite privates and publics in very affluent towns.

OMG the persecution mentality.

Nothing is stopping you from sending your kid to some “bad” public school.

Well, when people made the decision to buy a house somewhere with a top school system or to commit to a top private school, they figured it would be helpful in terms of taking the kid to the next level of educational attainment. They didn’t realize it would be the equivalent of an educational curse. So the parents who actually didn’t really care about education and plopped their kids in a mediocre school system are the ones whose kids are getting the better opportunities with their fake 4.0s. Seems unfair.

Translation: you played the game the best way you could. Someone else played the game the best way they could. You thought you would win and your style of play was better, but you lost. And because you never thought you could lose it seems unfair.

I don’t know, it’s like a grade in AP AB Calc being considered equivalent to BC Calc. If you can’t identify the unfairness in this, I don’t know what to say.