If your teen is bi, should you let him/her have same gender sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

This is a spin off from the previous thread about gay or bi teens. I have 2 DD who are under the age of 10, so this isn't an issue for me. But it seems to be rather trendy for teen girls to say that their bi. If one of my daughters ever said she was bi, I would be very supportive of her, but I wouldn't allow her to have sleepovers with girls for the same reasons I wouldn't allow them with boys. However, the idea of not letting my daughter have sleepovers with her friends seems very sad to me. Wondering how parents who are in this situation handle it.

[Anonymous]

If you are okay with your kid having sex then have the sleepover. If you are not, then no.

[Anonymous]

Goodness. It seems to me that if you didn't allow your daughter to have sleepovers because she believed she was bisexual, you would in fact be punishing her for telling you she is bisexual. Is that the message you want to send?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are okay with your kid having sex then have the sleepover. If you are not, then no.

I'm not ok with DC having sex with either gender, but with so many bi girls now, how do parents handle it?

[Anonymous]

I don't see why they can't still happen, perhaps with a little more supervision and structure than otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goodness. It seems to me that if you didn't allow your daughter to have sleepovers because she believed she was bisexual, you would in fact be punishing her for telling you she is bisexual. Is that the message you want to send?

Of course that's not the message I would want to send. But the situation is what it is. If she is bi-sexual, I would have to look at the girls that she hangs around with as potential sexual partners, the same way I would with boys.

[Anonymous]

Just because a girl is gay or bisexual it doesn't mean she's sexually attracted to all girls/women. I'm straight and there are TONS of guys I'm not at ALL attracted to. It works the same way.

My best friend is a lesbian and has been with her wife for over a decade. There's never even been a hint of anything remotely sexual with us, not even when we've gotten drunk together.

[Anonymous]

Girls will experiment at sleepover whether they consider themselves to be bi or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because a girl is gay or bisexual it doesn't mean she's sexually attracted to all girls/women. I'm straight and there are TONS of guys I'm not at ALL attracted to. It works the same way.

My best friend is a lesbian and has been with her wife for over a decade. There's never even been a hint of anything remotely sexual with us, not even when we've gotten drunk together.

Of course not. But straight women certainly aren't attracted to the majority of men either, and most parents would never dream of allowing their teen daughters to have a sleepover with a male friend, even if she assured them that she want not attracted to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girls will experiment at sleepover whether they consider themselves to be bi or not.

I'm straight and I never experimented with other girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls will experiment at sleepover whether they consider themselves to be bi or not.

I'm straight and I never experimented with other girls.

Neither have I or any of my friends that I remember. This whole being bi is cool was not my generation and I'm not that old

[Anonymous]

What a stupid damn question.

[Anonymous]

Most of the reason to be afraid of teen sex is pregnancy...seems like if you're still worried about sex this way then you just don't want her to enjoy herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a spin off from the previous thread about gay or bi teens. I have 2 DD who are under the age of 10, so this isn't an issue for me. But it seems to be rather trendy for teen girls to say that their bi. If one of my daughters ever said she was bi, I would be very supportive of her, but I wouldn't allow her to have sleepovers with girls for the same reasons I wouldn't allow them with boys. However, the idea of not letting my daughter have sleepovers with her friends seems very sad to me. Wondering how parents who are in this situation handle it.

Interesting question…just want to point out that there's something else there that's tricky. And that is the obligation to tell the other parent. Let's say my DD is lesbian and wants a sleepover. (Ok I agree with you for same reasons as you stated and wouldn't do it) but if I were going to do it, the other parent and kid needs to know this. But it might still be private info for your kid.

Anyways if my kid was doing a sleepover with anyone who might be interested sexually in my kid, I'd want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls will experiment at sleepover whether they consider themselves to be bi or not.

I'm straight and I never experimented with other girls.

Neither have I or any of my friends that I remember. This whole being bi is cool was not my generation and I'm not that old

Neither have I and don't know of any friends who did. I am 40.