Told the wife she has no right to demand an answer...

[Anonymous]

NP. I hadn't heard of MRA so had to look it up.

Seriously guys, no proper man - the ones that always get sex because women actually want to sleep with them - would ever be reading or believing that crap. My DH would laugh if I showed it to him.

How pathetic.

Grow a pair of balls, stop being so useless and entitled. And for the love of god stay away from other pathetic guys looking to whine about something. Maybe your life will improve.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the looks of these posts, they are not even old enough to be MRAs... they sound like 12 year old boys sitting in their mom's basement. No wonder you arent getting laid.

Yawn. The stupid, boring predictable insult of DCUM women. Guaranteed to come up in any thread in which sex is discussed. Next you'll say they probably have tiny dcks.

If you're so much smarter and more sophisticated than "the MRAs" you should at least be able to come up with new and better material.

Still waiting for you to address the dichotomy you’re always spewing here:

Wife is fat and/or lazy: open marriage or divorce!

Husband is fat and/or lazy: she owes him constant, enthusiastic sex, anyone who says otherwise is a shrew, pass the Viagra!

NP here. The problem is that the complaint that "My husband doesn't do enough" is "fat and/or lazy" is often a dodge done by women who just plain don't want to have sex with their husbands anymore. They need to offer some excuse, and those are usually the excuses. The husband starts to do more around the house -- still no sex, now it's something else. If lack of effort around the house or being overweight really is the problem, ladies, give your DH some hard targets to hit (goal weight, chores that must get done, etc.), with a specific reward offered if he hits those targets (e.g. enthusiastic sex at least twice a week) and then watch how quickly he trims down and starts doing more around the house. Transactions like that, men can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the looks of these posts, they are not even old enough to be MRAs... they sound like 12 year old boys sitting in their mom's basement. No wonder you arent getting laid.

Yawn. The stupid, boring predictable insult of DCUM women. Guaranteed to come up in any thread in which sex is discussed. Next you'll say they probably have tiny dcks.

If you're so much smarter and more sophisticated than "the MRAs" you should at least be able to come up with new and better material.

Still waiting for you to address the dichotomy you’re always spewing here:

Wife is fat and/or lazy: open marriage or divorce!

Husband is fat and/or lazy: she owes him constant, enthusiastic sex, anyone who says otherwise is a shrew, pass the Viagra!

NP here. The problem is that the complaint that "My husband doesn't do enough" is "fat and/or lazy" is often a dodge done by women who just plain don't want to have sex with their husbands anymore. They need to offer some excuse, and those are usually the excuses. The husband starts to do more around the house -- still no sex, now it's something else. If lack of effort around the house or being overweight really is the problem, ladies, give your DH some hard targets to hit (goal weight, chores that must get done, etc.), with a specific reward offered if he hits those targets (e.g. enthusiastic sex at least twice a week) and then watch how quickly he trims down and starts doing more around the house. Transactions like that, men can do.

Ugh, if my marriage came down to chits he earned for doing chores that he could trade in for sex, I'd be gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
NP here. The problem is that the complaint that "My husband doesn't do enough" is "fat and/or lazy" is often a dodge done by women who just plain don't want to have sex with their husbands anymore. They need to offer some excuse, and those are usually the excuses. The husband starts to do more around the house -- still no sex, now it's something else. If lack of effort around the house or being overweight really is the problem, ladies, give your DH some hard targets to hit (goal weight, chores that must get done, etc.), with a specific reward offered if he hits those targets (e.g. enthusiastic sex at least twice a week) and then watch how quickly he trims down and starts doing more around the house. Transactions like that, men can do.

I'm honestly in total shock that anyone would write such a thing. Here's a concept: What about you try to make her WANT to have sex with you, rather than force her to commit to her minimum terms (!) and then hold her to the contract?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I hadn't heard of MRA so had to look it up.

Seriously guys, no proper man - the ones that always get sex because women actually want to sleep with them - would ever be reading or believing that crap. My DH would laugh if I showed it to him.

How pathetic.

Grow a pair of balls, stop being so useless and entitled. And for the love of god stay away from other pathetic guys looking to whine about something. Maybe your life will improve.

“Grow a pair” is good advice. Start by informing your wife that a sexless marriage is incompatible with a continued faithful union. No real man does his part of a relationship while his own needs are disregarded. No whining; just tell her what you intend to do, and go do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
NP here. The problem is that the complaint that "My husband doesn't do enough" is "fat and/or lazy" is often a dodge done by women who just plain don't want to have sex with their husbands anymore. They need to offer some excuse, and those are usually the excuses. The husband starts to do more around the house -- still no sex, now it's something else. If lack of effort around the house or being overweight really is the problem, ladies, give your DH some hard targets to hit (goal weight, chores that must get done, etc.), with a specific reward offered if he hits those targets (e.g. enthusiastic sex at least twice a week) and then watch how quickly he trims down and starts doing more around the house. Transactions like that, men can do.

I'm honestly in total shock that anyone would write such a thing. Here's a concept: What about you try to make her WANT to have sex with you, rather than force her to commit to her minimum terms (!) and then hold her to the contract?

You can't make anyone want to do anything. Either she wants you or she doesn't. Even when I resent the hell out of my DW for something, all she has to do is look at me the right way and I'm ready to go. However, as has been explained here ad nauseum, it doesn't work that way for women. And we just suffered through pages and pages of explanations why women with small children just don't want sex and we, as husbands, should just accept it for what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
NP here. The problem is that the complaint that "My husband doesn't do enough" is "fat and/or lazy" is often a dodge done by women who just plain don't want to have sex with their husbands anymore. They need to offer some excuse, and those are usually the excuses. The husband starts to do more around the house -- still no sex, now it's something else. If lack of effort around the house or being overweight really is the problem, ladies, give your DH some hard targets to hit (goal weight, chores that must get done, etc.), with a specific reward offered if he hits those targets (e.g. enthusiastic sex at least twice a week) and then watch how quickly he trims down and starts doing more around the house. Transactions like that, men can do.

I'm honestly in total shock that anyone would write such a thing. Here's a concept: What about you try to make her WANT to have sex with you, rather than force her to commit to her minimum terms (!) and then hold her to the contract?

On the one hand, yeah, PP's suggestion is ridiculous. On the other hand, guys don't really trust women's assertions about what will make them want sex as reliable. The real answer to "what will make you want sex" is so often either "nothing" or "novelty," but that's a tough answer to give, so, what the hell - at least if she says "chores," she gets him to do some chores.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the looks of these posts, they are not even old enough to be MRAs... they sound like 12 year old boys sitting in their mom's basement. No wonder you arent getting laid.

Yawn. The stupid, boring predictable insult of DCUM women. Guaranteed to come up in any thread in which sex is discussed. Next you'll say they probably have tiny dcks.

If you're so much smarter and more sophisticated than "the MRAs" you should at least be able to come up with new and better material.

And you 'men' always come on here complaining about lack of sex. Perhaps some self reflection is in order about why no one wants you. Maybe its you, not the woman in your life or the women of DCUM.

I think if they were capable of self-reflection, they wouldn't need to come here and whine about why their wives won't have sex with them.

Touche.

+1

The truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

I don’t do much around the house. Why would I spend extra time with a screeching harpy? I’m very fit, attractive and easily found sex somewhere else with a better looking woman. I spend the least time possible. She can do what she wants I don’t give a crap.

I’d like sex more often with my AP, but the reality is our schedules are different. But when we do see each other is mind blowing and has been that way for a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t do much around the house. Why would I spend extra time with a screeching harpy? I’m very fit, attractive and easily found sex somewhere else with a better looking woman. I spend the least time possible. She can do what she wants I don’t give a crap.

I’d like sex more often with my AP, but the reality is our schedules are different. But when we do see each other is mind blowing and has been that way for a year.

You sound awful. It would be a kindness to divorce your wife if you treat her and talk to her this way.

[Anonymous]

So, what I'm hearing is that there are a lot of men out there who are angry that they aren't getting laid on demand and thought that was part of the marriage contract? Interesting. I think if you go into it with this attitude, you will most assuredly wind up in a sexless marriage (this is not directed at the OP).

OP, I think you said there is a known issue that caused this but that it can't be resolved. What is it? A medical issue? A past trauma? Did you ever have a fulfilling sex life together (from your standpoint)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, what I'm hearing is that there are a lot of men out there who are angry that they aren't getting laid on demand and thought that was part of the marriage contract? Interesting. I think if you go into it with this attitude, you will most assuredly wind up in a sexless marriage (this is not directed at the OP).

OP, I think you said there is a known issue that caused this but that it can't be resolved. What is it? A medical issue? A past trauma? Did you ever have a fulfilling sex life together (from your standpoint)?

Where have you read any angry men expecting sex on demand? Not really, just maybe twice per see would do the job. Fortunately, as you have pointed out, there is no marriage contact per se, and we need not worry about meaningless stuff like forsaking all others. The great thing about this approach to marital bliss is that any guy in decent shape can easily find a hotter/younger/thinner woman who actually wants sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the DC area for 32 years and I have never seen a woman mow the grass. None of may many female friends (ages 35-55) mows their own lawn.

You should go to Amish country. You'll see the Amish women out there mowing the lawn in their full-on heavy black Amish garb.

If you drive down my street tomorrow you will see me out there mowing, weather permitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t do much around the house. Why would I spend extra time with a screeching harpy? I’m very fit, attractive and easily found sex somewhere else with a better looking woman. I spend the least time possible. She can do what she wants I don’t give a crap.

I’d like sex more often with my AP, but the reality is our schedules are different. But when we do see each other is mind blowing and has been that way for a year.

Eeewwww. Just eeewww.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, what I'm hearing is that there are a lot of men out there who are angry that they aren't getting laid on demand and thought that was part of the marriage contract? Interesting. I think if you go into it with this attitude, you will most assuredly wind up in a sexless marriage (this is not directed at the OP).

OP, I think you said there is a known issue that caused this but that it can't be resolved. What is it? A medical issue? A past trauma? Did you ever have a fulfilling sex life together (from your standpoint)?

Where have you read any angry men expecting sex on demand? Not really, just maybe twice per see would do the job. Fortunately, as you have pointed out, there is no marriage contact per se, and we need not worry about meaningless stuff like forsaking all others. The great thing about this approach to marital bliss is that any guy in decent shape can easily find a hotter/younger/thinner woman who actually wants sex.

Lol!! This has to be the most hilariously stupid statement of this thread.