Feeling slighted on FB by DH

[Anonymous]

Am I being overly sensitive??

Over the past few years, I have posted maybe 8 items on DH's FB page...I tagged him in our wedding picture on our 15th anniversay; I wrote two funny notes on his birthday (different years) and found a couple of vintage photos I thought he would like to see plus one funny photo.

He has never "liked" or commented on a single thing I have posted - not the birthday notes or wedding photo. Nada. Zilch.

He is not often on FB but he does occasionally go there. He looks at it at least once a week plus he gets the email alerts, so he knows when I have posted something. He has commented sometimes on stuff others have posted. In one, he was in a school play photo kissing someone and he responded "she was so hot!" or somethign like that.

I feel sad that he hasn't bothered to comment on anything I posted - all of which were nice, normal things. Tons of people commented on our wedding photo but not him.

I see other spouses writing happy birthday or happy anniversary or commenting on what their spouse posts on their wall. I just realized today when I went to look at his page that he hasn't even "liked" anything I posted.

He knows I like FB. Am I wrong to feel slighted?

[Anonymous]

Have you, you know, talked with him?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think you sound needy and narcissistic. Maybe FB is not for you?

I mean, seriously, what does one say about one's own wedding photo that one's spouse tags one in on FB? How odd.

I'm also perturbed that you have this precise count of what he has failed to comment on or acknowledge. That says a whole lot more about YOU than it does about him.

You're overreacting and sound totally neurotic. Get over it. And lay off him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he can set up an automatic reply to you post? With that help?

[Anonymous]

OP here...Lots of people have posted wedding photos on big anniversaries. It is the only photo of the two of us besides a few family camping trip photos I have ever posted.

I am not narcissistic at all. I have so few photos of myself on fB it isn't even funny.

I only looked today at his page because I was feeling ignored completely by him for the past few years and I wondered if he ever responded to what I posted..sort of to confirm to myself that yes he does ignore me.

[Anonymous]

OP - PS the wedding photo was not a close up; just a tiny photo of us outside in a wildnerness area...we had a simply outdoors wedding.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a needy loser. Like your own shit and don't count on others to validate your life. Maybe you could actually talk to him about it. You know, like in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...Lots of people have posted wedding photos on big anniversaries. It is the only photo of the two of us besides a few family camping trip photos I have ever posted.

I am not narcissistic at all. I have so few photos of myself on fB it isn't even funny.

I only looked today at his page because I was feeling ignored completely by him for the past few years and I wondered if he ever responded to what I posted..sort of to confirm to myself that yes he does ignore me.

FB i a funny place to be looking for validation from your spouse.

My wife and I are both on FB. We might comment on each other's posts once in a blue moon, but there's really no reason for us to interact on FB since, you know, we live in the same house.

You are looking for trouble where there is none, and these expectations you have for how he is supposed to respond to what you post is completely irrational and, frankly, out of line.

[Anonymous]

Big loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here...Lots of people have posted wedding photos on big anniversaries. It is the only photo of the two of us besides a few family camping trip photos I have ever posted.

I am not narcissistic at all. I have so few photos of myself on fB it isn't even funny.

I only looked today at his page because I was feeling ignored completely by him for the past few years and I wondered if he ever responded to what I posted..sort of to confirm to myself that yes he does ignore me.

FB i a funny place to be looking for validation from your spouse.

My wife and I are both on FB. We might comment on each other's posts once in a blue moon, but there's really no reason for us to interact on FB since, you know, we live in the same house.

You are looking for trouble where there is none, and these expectations you have for how he is supposed to respond to what you post is completely irrational and, frankly, out of line.

+1

[Anonymous]

Change your status

[Anonymous]

How is your real life relationship? It must have some problems if you are worried about what your husband says to you on FB. Start there.

Personally I think it is much stranger when couples communicate a lot on Facebook. As PP said, you live in the same house.

[Anonymous]

OP here - he is not some random friend. He is my DH. He failed to acknowledge a wedding photo and me writing Happy 15th anniversary to him. Dozens of friends wrote nice things and he didn't bother.

RE the birthday posts - I wrote a funny post about his party and he ignored it.

I see other spouses flirting/complimenting each other on FB and my DH writes comments on other people's posts sometimes but never ever on anything I post on his wall. I think it is a slight. I mean, if he saw what I posted and it was a tribute to him, would it kill him to hit the "like" button or write a 10 word comment acknowledging it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here...Lots of people have posted wedding photos on big anniversaries. It is the only photo of the two of us besides a few family camping trip photos I have ever posted.

I am not narcissistic at all. I have so few photos of myself on fB it isn't even funny.

I only looked today at his page because I was feeling ignored completely by him for the past few years and I wondered if he ever responded to what I posted..sort of to confirm to myself that yes he does ignore me.

FB i a funny place to be looking for validation from your spouse.

My wife and I are both on FB. We might comment on each other's posts once in a blue moon, but there's really no reason for us to interact on FB since, you know, we live in the same house.

You are looking for trouble where there is none, and these expectations you have for how he is supposed to respond to what you post is completely irrational and, frankly, out of line.

I agree. There is obviously a deeper issue here. Forget Facebook and focus on your actual relationship.

[Anonymous]