Feeling slighted on FB by DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never wish DW happy birthday or anniversary on FB. That just seems like you are fishing for comments. Other people recognize your birthday and no one else really gives a shit about your anniversary. That's between the 2 of you. Grow up OP and live your life in the real world.

This. I'm on fb regularly and DH is on sporadically. We Never communicate through it, including liking pics etc. I don't post pics of him or me though for privacy. It wouldn't occur to me to notice if he didn't "like" something or didn't comment. I think you need to work on your real life relationship. I get that you're be seeking attention and validation from DH on fb but its really haut not that important if the rest of your relationship is good.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I being overly sensitive??

Over the past few years, I have posted maybe 8 items on DH's FB page...I tagged him in our wedding picture on our 15th anniversay; I wrote two funny notes on his birthday (different years) and found a couple of vintage photos I thought he would like to see plus one funny photo.

He has never "liked" or commented on a single thing I have posted - not the birthday notes or wedding photo. Nada. Zilch.

He is not often on FB but he does occasionally go there. He looks at it at least once a week plus he gets the email alerts, so he knows when I have posted something. He has commented sometimes on stuff others have posted. In one, he was in a school play photo kissing someone and he responded "she was so hot!" or somethign like that.

I feel sad that he hasn't bothered to comment on anything I posted - all of which were nice, normal things. Tons of people commented on our wedding photo but not him.

I see other spouses writing happy birthday or happy anniversary or commenting on what their spouse posts on their wall. I just realized today when I went to look at his page that he hasn't even "liked" anything I posted.

He knows I like FB. Am I wrong to feel slighted?

I guess he's slightly insensitive, but that characteristic might serve the marriage and family well in other ways. FWIW, my wife and I are not FB friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you?

Too old for this shit. I would expect this from a 15 year old. OP, why aren't you dealing with the issues in your marriage IN REAL LIFE?! YYou sound incredibly immature and needy, and I suspect your husband has long since checked out of the marriage because of this. I'd suggest counseling and stat.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Sorry, OP but you come off as needy and desperate. I don't give a shit what my DH does on FB.

Why does it bug you so much that he does not validate you online when you have a real life relationship? I suspect this is more about making sure others see your "perfect" relationship, right?

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, being ignored sucks regardless of the medium. I will say though that I only go on Facebook on my phone and iPad and almost never go to my personal page. I scroll through other people statuses. And I don't always go through my notifications. Is it possible he didn't see it?

[Anonymous]

I find it odd when spouses wish each other happy birthday or anniversary on FB, or when they post about their "15 years with the most wonderful man alive" or whatever. The blatant attention seeking is off-putting. Is it possible your husband feels this way as well?

[Anonymous]

Ha the people I know on FB who are all lovey dovey have the worst marriages in real life. One couple has been separated on and off for 4 years, another husband cheats on his wife all the time (she knows), and another one is just miserable.

Take your attention off FB and put it towards real life. You have obvious issues.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you're in high school. Both of us are on FB and we use it to keep in touch with friends that we don't have as much time to spend with now that we have kids. It's a nice way to keep in the loop. I will occasionally LIKE something my wife posts about the kids, but otherwise, we don't use FB to communicate between us. I think it's very juvenile to use FB to communicate between partners unless you are in a long-distance relationship or one is on travel or something. Why do you feel the need to broadcast to the world your communications with your spouse? Sounds very exhibitionist or looking for approval from the public on what you do in your marriage. I know a young couple who does this kind of thing frequently, but then they are young and are newlyweds (literally married only 3 weeks ago and just got back from their honeymoon) and they get a bye for being newlyweds. Otherwise, it's just weird to do all that on FB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd when spouses wish each other happy birthday or anniversary on FB, or when they post about their "15 years with the most wonderful man alive" or whatever. The blatant attention seeking is off-putting. Is it possible your husband feels this way as well?

OP here. I hate that too. I never post anything like that. I posted a simple wedding picture with the date and said happy anniversary.

[Anonymous]

My husband posted on my wall that we were out of toilet paper and to bring him some.

That was the beginning and end of us posting on FB.

[Anonymous]

OP, does he send you lives in Candy Crush? If not, dump his bum ass

[Anonymous]

I have asked my DH to like or comment on things I've put on fb

[Anonymous]

I don't think OP is real. She's still failing to see that the issue is in real life, not online. No one is this stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have asked my DH to like or comment on things I've put on fb

that's really weird. it's like the kids on instagram who comment on famous accounts. "@badgirlriri omggg i love u sooo much pls comment n like my pics it would mean the world to meeee"