SIL refuses to use MIL's "grandma" name

[Anonymous]

My MIL has one grandchild (my child) and gave herself her "grandma name" which we use. I don't particularly care for it, but it is the name that her kids called her mother and it is what she wanted. Sister in law refuses to use it and now with a child on the way, plans to just refer to my MIL as "grandma first name". I find this entirely disrespectful. I just have to sit this out and keep my mouth shut, right?

[Anonymous]

Right. It's not a big deal at all if the cousins call the grandma different granny names. It's not disrespectful at all.

[Anonymous]

How old is your child, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is your child, OP?

4

[Anonymous]

Ignore SIL and focus on your family,as SIL will best be left to deal with it herself instead of making her problems yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your child, OP?

4

Thanks. I asked because I'd think that most of us parents would have many more important issues to deal with, rather than something like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL has one grandchild (my child) and gave herself her "grandma name" which we use. I don't particularly care for it, but it is the name that her kids called her mother and it is what she wanted. Sister in law refuses to use it and now with a child on the way, plans to just refer to my MIL as "grandma first name". I find this entirely disrespectful. I just have to sit this out and keep my mouth shut, right?

OP, you must have forgotten that time in your life when you were pregnant and thought you had the answer to everything. You knew exactly how you were going handle every situation with your kid. Your poor SIL is currently in that delusional state. Just smile and let her be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your child, OP?

4

Thanks. I asked because I'd think that most of us parents would have many more important issues to deal with, rather than something like this.

Wow. Another supportive parent reaching out to those who ask for help.

[Anonymous]

I agree with your SIL. We use Grandma except for one out of the country and we use that language's version for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is your child, OP?

4

Thanks. I asked because I'd think that most of us parents would have many more important issues to deal with, rather than something like this.

Wow. Another supportive parent reaching out to those who ask for help.

What was the help question?

[Anonymous]

Yes, you have to stay out of it, it is an issue between your MIL and your SIL.

[Anonymous]

Mind your own business.
You are just mad that you blindly listened.

[Anonymous]

This is not an issue. It doesn't matter at all in the slightest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you have to stay out of it, it is an issue between your MIL and your SIL.

+1.

But I personally think that your SIL is being a disrespectful b**ch. Someone should get to choose what they get called. How would your SIL like it if you didn't like her name, so you just made one up that you called her because you liked it better. We let both grandmothers pick the name they wanted to be called and even if I think one of them is silly, we still call her that and make sure that the children call her that, because that is what she wants to be called. I would no more change that than ask her to change her first name because I didn't like it.

[Anonymous]

Wait a minute. Your SIL does not yet have a child. You're mad that she doesnt currently use a Grandma name for her MIL? Of course she should keep calling MIL "Firstname", now and even when her baby is born. It's her child that will call the woman a grandma name, not her.