Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

Um no, it is his wife who forced his hand through her frigidity. She's the one at fault and who should seek professional help.

Um no. OP said the douche was engaged when she met him. He could have called of the wedding if she was so 'frigid' but being the low life punk he is, he didn't. Just because you either hate women or think cheating id okay doesn't mean you're right.,

He's got one little lady to be married to and have kids with and another little lady to escape off with for non-committal sex. His perfect little life over here, and his deep, dark secret life over here. Nice work.

This guy doesn't have a "deep, dark secret life over here." Having a mistress is a status symbol for a certain of man: ex-LAX player now on Wall Street, high ranking union official, some CEOs, sport figures. He is tell his buddies how great the sex is with his hottie, how much he pays for her rent, that he bought her an Audi, etc. He has bragging rights in the bar after golf and on business trip bull sessions.

Maybe, it's all about him for sure. But you can bet that this little hottie isn't common knowledge in polite circles - the ones he associates with as a family man.

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OP STILL hasn't answered if she has unprotected sex with him. I'm sure she does though. Taking another woman's sloppy seconds in despicable. You're a paid prostitute.

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Is not in.

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I hope she doesn't have unprotected sex with him but she probably does. For some reason, these women tend to think that these cheating guys would never cheat on them...well, maybe on rare occasions with their wives, but that doesn't count, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:What is your ethnicity? If white, what specifically (e.g., Italian, Russian, English etc.)

Why does Italian have to come first?

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Anonymous wrote:He still picked the wife over this hussy. Legally the wife gets all the upside. Hope he doesn't unexpectedly die or then hussy is SOL.

OP will just move on to someone else. Hopefully, someone with real money. This is chump change stuff. She should at least get 2 overseas vacations a year and a paid-off condo.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope she doesn't have unprotected sex with him but she probably does. For some reason, these women tend to think that these cheating guys would never cheat on them...well, maybe on rare occasions with their wives, but that doesn't count, lol.

Dumbass women! He will never cheat on me yet he's cheating on his wife with me. Really?!

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Anonymous wrote:I agree and don't think the op is a brain trust, so perhaps this is as deep as she gets.

That's what HE said.

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Lol he wasn't married when you met and went on to marry someone else? And you're still "with" him. That may be the most pathetic thing ever. Keep convincing yourself he chose you over her, OP. It was obviously the other way around.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

It's not a matter of checking off boxes and being an over achiever. It's a matter of you allowing this man to support you as long as he is willing to do so and when that supply line runs dry you don't seem to have a lot to fall back on. Your degree is growing staler and staler the longer you stay this guy's dole. You don't have a job. The roof over your head is being paid for by this man...

If he dumps you, what are you going to do? Most attractive guys can get sex for free so don't think that there's a long line of men waiting to take this guy's place.

The fact that he put the moves on you when you were so young and inexperienced tends to suggest that this is not going to last much past 25. 10 to 1 he'll move onto a younger chick. You seem to already understand that he could dump you so that's good. And it's good that you have health insurance.

I appreciate your concern for my well-being post relationship. I keep up with what's going on in my field (interior design) and do a bit of part-time work for a friend in the business. She has asked me to work with her full-time. This is why I'm not worried about getting a job when I need one. All the money I earn from working with her and my other friend with the flower business goes into a savings account. I really will be okay. Maybe I won't get pedicures weekly and will have to stop the personal trainer, but overall, I'm confident I'll be okay.

Wow!!!Wow!!!Wow!!!Small world, O.P.I think I know who you are!!!!!Amazing!!!!

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OP, a useful thread after this would be "what you wish the wife knew".
Obviously, she should know to check the family finances and verify his travel schedule.

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1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

Buy a house in your name, don't pay rent. Who will pay the rent when he is gone. Grab what you can, you have 3-5 years left, or else move up to 50+ years olds.

How much is this? $33,600

How did that $33k come? Personal check? Money order? Cash?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

It's not a matter of checking off boxes and being an over achiever. It's a matter of you allowing this man to support you as long as he is willing to do so and when that supply line runs dry you don't seem to have a lot to fall back on. Your degree is growing staler and staler the longer you stay this guy's dole. You don't have a job. The roof over your head is being paid for by this man...

If he dumps you, what are you going to do? Most attractive guys can get sex for free so don't think that there's a long line of men waiting to take this guy's place.

The fact that he put the moves on you when you were so young and inexperienced tends to suggest that this is not going to last much past 25. 10 to 1 he'll move onto a younger chick. You seem to already understand that he could dump you so that's good. And it's good that you have health insurance.

I appreciate your concern for my well-being post relationship. I keep up with what's going on in my field (interior design) and do a bit of part-time work for a friend in the business. She has asked me to work with her full-time. This is why I'm not worried about getting a job when I need one. All the money I earn from working with her and my other friend with the flower business goes into a savings account. I really will be okay. Maybe I won't get pedicures weekly and will have to stop the personal trainer, but overall, I'm confident I'll be okay.

Wow!!!Wow!!!Wow!!!Small world, O.P.I think I know who you are!!!!!Amazing!!!!

Details?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow!!!Wow!!!Wow!!!Small world, O.P.I think I know who you are!!!!!Amazing!!!!

Details?

No kidding. This might make the thread more interesting.

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What was your family upbringing and childhood like?