Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:OP - forget the slamming posts. I've got a couple I'm sincerely interested in:

1. Does your guy pay for your apartment? How does that work - does he write you a check or send it directly to the apt. complex?

2. When he bought you your car, did he go with you to the dealership? Did he act like you're buying it (you know, so you wouldn't by a Ferrari or something like that) and then when you picked it out he said, I'll get this. Again - how were the logistics - did he pay the dealership directly? is it a loan with monthly payments that he pays for?

3. Does his wife know you? If so, how?

4. When you go out, do you have to be discreet? (sit in back corner or restaurant, go to out-of-the way places, etc.) or is he not too worried about being seen?

Thanks!

1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

Buy a house in your name, don't pay rent. Who will pay the rent when he is gone. Grab what you can, you have 3-5 years left, or else move up to 50+ years olds.

How much is this?

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Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

Um no, it is his wife who forced his hand through her frigidity. She's the one at fault and who should seek professional help.

Um no. OP said the douche was engaged when she met him. He could have called of the wedding if she was so 'frigid' but being the low life punk he is, he didn't. Just because you either hate women or think cheating id okay doesn't mean you're right.,

He's got one little lady to be married to and have kids with and another little lady to escape off with for non-committal sex. His perfect little life over here, and his deep, dark secret life over here. Nice work.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you unintentionally meet his children?

We unintentionally ran into each other a couple of times in public.

So you've met his wife then?

We didn't talk, just waved or whatever.

Were the kids cute? Was the wife pretty? Did she seem to know who she was waving to?

The kids are cute. The wife ... is almost pretty. She's very pinched looking. She is kind of plump.

Sounds like she's doing the lion's share of the parenting since her hubby is otherwise occupied. When the kids get a little older she'll probably have some more "me time" and she'll start to look a bit less pinched and plump.

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This thread turned out to be surprisingly boring, despite the racy topic and large number of posts. I feel like most of the posters here are desperately trying to make this thread more interesting. The OP is trying to make things seem "normal" and isn't giving us anything interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread turned out to be surprisingly boring, despite the racy topic and large number of posts. I feel like most of the posters here are desperately trying to make this thread more interesting. The OP is trying to make things seem "normal" and isn't giving us anything interesting.

ya she isn't answering any of the hard questions, just fluff.

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I agree and don't think the op is a brain trust, so perhaps this is as deep as she gets.

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1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

Buy a house in your name, don't pay rent. Who will pay the rent when he is gone. Grab what you can, you have 3-5 years left, or else move up to 50+ years olds.

How much is this? $33,600

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

How long are you going to do this for?

Is your own personal life and development on hold for this arrangement?

I am 24. I'll do this until it's not working for one of us anymore. I don't really feel like my life is on hold. I suppose my career is, but so many of my friends are in grad school or have boomeranged back to their parents that I don't really feel it.

Your life is indeed on hold. What you are doing does not entail building your future - it involves procrastination.

You need to watch this video and reflect on its relevance to the choices you are making today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhhgI4tSMwc

The speaker's book would be useful to you as well:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Defining-Decade-Twenties-Matter-And/dp/0446561754

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Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

Um no, it is his wife who forced his hand through her frigidity. She's the one at fault and who should seek professional help.

Um no. OP said the douche was engaged when she met him. He could have called of the wedding if she was so 'frigid' but being the low life punk he is, he didn't. Just because you either hate women or think cheating id okay doesn't mean you're right.,

He's got one little lady to be married to and have kids with and another little lady to escape off with for non-committal sex. His perfect little life over here, and his deep, dark secret life over here. Nice work.

This guy doesn't have a "deep, dark secret life over here." Having a mistress is a status symbol for a certain of man: ex-LAX player now on Wall Street, high ranking union official, some CEOs, sport figures. He is tell his buddies how great the sex is with his hottie, how much he pays for her rent, that he bought her an Audi, etc. He has bragging rights in the bar after golf and on business trip bull sessions.

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1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

Buy a house in your name, don't pay rent. Who will pay the rent when he is gone. Grab what you can, you have 3-5 years left, or else move up to 50+ years olds.

How much is this? $33,600

She doesn't have a job how is she going to buy a house? Does she put "paramour" down as her profession and her married boyfriend as her "employer". This is why smart women don't do this sort of thing..

[Anonymous]

Hope the wife has her own boy toy.

[Anonymous]

hope she has a killer attorney

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

Wasn't OP. But sexual deprivation (which is spousal abuse) would explain why DH is doing this to his wife.

Oh, that's alright, then. A very mature way to solve the problem!

I won't comment on whether it is mature or not.

But it is effective.

And it is effectively what his SAHM wife forced him to do through sexual deprivation (or, in Maryland legal terminology, alienation of affection).

You might recall that the OP's sugar daddy started his affair with her before he decided to marry his horrible, frigid wife.

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1. At first he wrote me a check each month and then I paid rent. Now he gives me a year's worth of rent at once.
2. He paid for the car in cash. I knew he was going to buy it for me because we'd talked about it a few times, though I hadn't known he'd pay all at once.
3. No she doesn't know me.
4. We don't go to the pizza joint five minutes from his house. And I know he made sure to never set me up at the same spa or gym his wife goes to.

Buy a house in your name, don't pay rent. Who will pay the rent when he is gone. Grab what you can, you have 3-5 years left, or else move up to 50+ years olds.

How much is this? $33,600

How do you account for the income with the IRS?

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He still picked the wife over this hussy. Legally the wife gets all the upside. Hope he doesn't unexpectedly die or then hussy is SOL.