Do your teens feel trapped?
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maril332
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My DD says she feels like everyday is hard for her. She says she feels tired of being "on" at school all day and coming home to do about 4 hrs of homework each night. She knows that life is about hard work but i suppose she is just feeling burn out?
She is at a rigorous private school (in bethesda.. take your guesses) and she complains of feeling like her life is nothing but school work. Do your kids feel like this? How do you help? |
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| how old is she? 4 hours of HW is a LOT of HW. Her life really is all about school. |
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| Is there supposed to be 4 hours of homework or is she struggling with certain subjects? |
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That was my life in high school. Class from 8.00 to 3.15. mandatory sports four days a week till 4.45. Other extra currics at night and on weekends. Plus five hours of homework a night. Averaged five or six hours of sleep a night, which is not healthy for a teen.
I worked harder my junior year in high school than any year since. Even without sports and extra currics, homework plus school is over a twelve hour day. It is absurd. Make sure she gets at least 7.5 hours a night of sleep. Insist on it. Encourage her to limit her extra currics. |
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Most of the top private high schools in dc give four or more hours of homework a night. At ncs when I was there in the 90s we were told the standard we should expect was 45 minutes a night per regular class and 1.5 hours per night per AP class. |
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I should add, I went to a top five college and it was like a vacation after high school! All my friends felt the same way. |
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Ps. And tell her she can enjoy her summers. This is why some parents feel their kids should have fun in the summer rather than working at Walgreens, because during the school year they work harder than law firm associates (I should know; I've done both). |
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| I'm getting tired just reading this. I think I'll go lie down... |
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+1. What year is she? What are her goals and what are your goals? If the goal is to get into a top 10 or ivy - or at least keep that option open by remaining highly ranked/top grades/SATs, this is what the schedule will look like through her junior yr or maybe first semester senior year. If you and she would be happy going to a "normal" though still competitive college, she can afford a B here or there or not playing a sport for a season or whatever eases the pressure. |
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| Does she have fairly symmetrical facial features, high EQ and is she popular? With all that she can be an average student, not do so much homework and live a happy, less stressful, long and healthy life. |
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Forgot to add that this also applies to guys. |
maril332
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Hello,
She is a senior in HS. She said she felt "free" all summer (even though she had a job babysitting 3 8-hr days a week) and now she said that it is like everything has crashed down. She didn't do great jr year (but still had the high HW load). Now she is trying to pull out at least a 3.5 avg to show colleges. She usually goes to bed at around 12 am. Sometimes as late as 1. She says that 1 am is her cut off and I quote "If its not done by 1 am, it just isn't getting done". |
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Poor kid. Do you think there is an organizational issue? Maybe a coach could help?
I went to a very demanding high school and my ADD showed up then - I did my work so slowly, that it took up practically all my time! Ugh. |
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| My high school days were the happiest days of my life. I did zero extra-curricular activities, smoked a fair amount of weed, and got into a top university. I guess those days are gone... |