What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That when he whines and plays the victim for some really really absurd reason I wouldn't tolerate even for a child, I want to yell at him "MAN UP For Christ sake you are a unappealing pussy".

But I don't, because I love him, don't yell or say nasty words as a principle, and I know his ego cannot handle the idea that he acts "like a pussy"... But damn does it feel tempting...

It sounds like many of the complainers in this thread, and their spouses, are locked in mutual passive aggressive relationships where resentments fester because they are never aired out.

20 years with no orgasm, honey, if you let that happen and didn't do anything about it, it's on you just as much if not more than your husband.

If his breath reaks because he doesn't brush his teeth, TELL him that. "Honey I love you but your breath smells like ate dogshit. Go brush that stinkhole and gargle with plenty of Listerine."

I agree about the 20 years with no orgasm. She should have found a dude who was good in bed and had an affair on the side. That was an oversight on your part, PP.

Having an orgasm is not difficult, except for women who insist on making it difficult.

Even if your husband is a complete klutz in bed, is their anything stopping you from getting a little bullet vibe and rubbing your clit during sex with your clueless husband? Are you actually telling me women don't know how to get themselves off during sex? LOL bullshit.

"I've never had an orgasm during sex for 20 years with my husband" women are the women who don't want to have them because it gives them something to blame their husbands about.

These women are slobs and slugs and bring nothing to the table.

There's nothing stopping me from using a vibrator, but answer this - if I have to use a vibrator to orgasm, why does a husband need to be involved? It's much faster and more pleasurable with just a vibrator, without a man who gets in the way and pouts because a vibrator makes it clear as day that he is not enough. I can get myself off with a vibrator just fine. Husband presence is optional. If I have to get myself off during sex, it might as well be sex with myself because that's way more efficient. You aren't telling my husband to jerk off, are you?

[Anonymous]

That I love you, but tomorrow, when I go to the divorce hearing, I don't really expect that it will give you the wake up call to change. You still seem not to understand that none of this would be happening "to you" if you had not emotionally, verbally and physically abused me and denied your alcoholism for so long. I know you think the changes you have made so far are enough, but they are not. This is not me being a jerk and not seeing the real you now. I see the real you, and it isn't good enough yet. You aren't making real changes and making amends for what you have done. You are just trying to stave off the divorce, but it is really happening.

I deserve to be really loved. I know you think you do, and I know you probably do, but your brand of love hurts me too much. And I will cry like a baby on the stand tomorrow, because I really had so much hope when we started. Giving up hope - giving up on you and us - is the single hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I still love you. I just can't be married to you anymore. I feel like that song by Christina Aguilera and A Great Big World - Say Something. Except the time for you to say something is now passed.

[Anonymous]

+1, PP. I can't imagine needing a vibrator to get off with my spouse. How pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I take pictures of her butt while she is doing yoga. She has a really nice rear and I can't help myself.

I have one too..you wanna see?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I take pictures of her butt while she is doing yoga. She has a really nice rear and I can't help myself.

I have one too..you wanna see?

Post it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Stop the choreplay. It doesn't work

Hmmm, and yet the research says it does, honey :

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/local/wp/2014/08/14/couples-who-share-housework-have-the-most-sex-and-best-sex-lives/

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/11972672/Men-who-help-with-housework-have-more-and-better-sex.html

[Anonymous]

It's too bad we didn't date longer before getting married. It would have given me the opportunity to see how you have a volcano of a temper, just like your family says. I probably wouldn't have married you had I known you blow up over seemingly minor things. It kills me to see you do that to our children. That is the worst.

[Anonymous]

You have become an obese, out of shape old man, and you are not fun anymore. You do nothing other than work, overeat and sleep...I miss the rest of you. And please, please buy yourself some new clothes that fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Stop the choreplay. It doesn't work

Hmmm, and yet the research says it does, honey :

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/local/wp/2014/08/14/couples-who-share-housework-have-the-most-sex-and-best-sex-lives/

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/11972672/Men-who-help-with-housework-have-more-and-better-sex.html

The first study you posted focused on low to moderate income couples that were married or cohabitating. The second study was fulocusednsolely on German couples and it explicitly found that there was no connection between amount of housework and sex life. Instead, the connection was that men who BELIEVED they made a fair contribution enjoyed better sex. It could be that the study is picking up something different.

Neither study concludes what you want it to conclude.

[Anonymous]

That when our baby died, he was the opposite of supportive. He made the entire ordeal so much more difficult and stressful. I wish I'd divorced him after realizing that he sucks in a crisis.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, you can't run to the grocery store to grab a couple things after you trip to the gym? I am here taking care of our sick child (where I want to be) and you want dinner but can't do anything to help that process? It's cool, I'll go when she feels better, but you'll be on a week long vacation with your friends by then. Thanks for your help!

[Anonymous]

Im a woman,& That I fantazize about women, & really have been since I was 7 yrs old, but have hidden it for over 20yrs.

[Anonymous]

Every time you are mean (even just refusing to speak) to our older daughter makes me hate you more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time you are mean (even just refusing to speak) to our older daughter makes me hate you more.

wel ... why don't you leave me, then?

[Anonymous]

I wish you'd kiss me like you used to when you were younger and more self confident. I feel like I'm kissing a cardboard cutout of some girl. Lose weight if that's what it takes, but most of all I wish I you would stop yelling and being hateful towards everyone. It's fucking up the kids something fierce.