What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

That I feel like a single parent a lot of the time because as soon as he gets home from work he feels entitled to sit down with his face buried in his I-pad and look at the most obscure, stupid stuff for HOURS. When asked to help with bedtime, a household chore/repair he gets all bitchy because I'm invading his "me" time. When's my f'ing "me" time?

When interacting with our kid, he's barely talking to the DC and has his face in his I-pad.

Then when the kid is in bed, his face is back in the I-pad. It's like pulling teeth to get him to have a conversation, watch a show together or participate in a relationship.

If I complain about the I-Pad he gets really angry and indignant as if I'm being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That although you think I am the greatest husband, I have had a couple of affairs and it has no effect on my love for you. I actually feel closer to you when I can get my needs met elsewhere and it takes the pressure off the sexual side of our marriage. If you would let me have an affair partner, I would worship you and be the most devoted husband ever.

Truly sick especially when one or both of you end up with a deadly std.

Knew someone that died from hpv throat cancer, he was only 43. People that sleep around not only put their lives in danger but their partner. I told my dh if he ever gave me a std I would go to court because imo it's criminal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have lied about my number of sexual partners for almost 20 years. Told the lie once and never found a way to tell the truth. And he is totally one that will be hurt by the dishonesty even 20 years later. Wish that I was mature enough to go with the "none of your business" line at the time.

I am convinced that when I am old and forgetful that I will let it slip.

lol A non issue imo. You've been together 20 years, and it was before him. I would never tell anyone, not their business unless you were a hooker. If someone won't take the none of your business, then yes I would also throw out a number to shut them up. So silly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I feel like a single parent a lot of the time because as soon as he gets home from work he feels entitled to sit down with his face buried in his I-pad and look at the most obscure, stupid stuff for HOURS. When asked to help with bedtime, a household chore/repair he gets all bitchy because I'm invading his "me" time. When's my f'ing "me" time?

When interacting with our kid, he's barely talking to the DC and has his face in his I-pad.

Then when the kid is in bed, his face is back in the I-pad. It's like pulling teeth to get him to have a conversation, watch a show together or participate in a relationship.

If I complain about the I-Pad he gets really angry and indignant as if I'm being ridiculous.

I like my iPad but would rather play with my DC and have sex with my wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

Stop the choreplay. It doesn't work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- clean your hair out of the damn shower drain!
- I love you to death but yes, you are a total bitch for about 3-4 days during your cycle - and no, it's just not ok to behave that way
- stop complaining that the kids (boys) can't do anything - you undermine any attempt to teach them properly to take care of themselves (and to do things around the house) but continuing to pamper and baby them
- why can't you put the dirty dishes in the sink (instead of just leaving them on the countertop)?
- can I get a little help to keep the house tidy and neat? I mean seriously, how difficult is it to put your dirty laundry in the hamper instead of leaving it on the floor of our closet?
- and you know I do the vast majority of stuff in and around the house - you've repeatedly told your friends and your mom this...so how come our sex life is not more frequent?

- a frustrated DH who loves his DW

There are men that do dishes and keep the house tidy and neat? And you do the vast majority of things? And want frequent sex?
I married the wrong guy.

Yes, some of us find time for the gym and cook as well.

[Anonymous]

I love you, but I'm concerned with the 6 tall boys you drink every night. I'm not sure if you do really have it under control.
And that I'm getting annoyed at how much of our very limited budget you use between beer and your smoke-ables.

These habits which mean you can be lazy at night or irritable when your out of smokeables.

[Anonymous]

"That although you think I am the greatest husband, I have had a couple of affairs and it has no effect on my love for you. I actually feel closer to you when I can get my needs met elsewhere and it takes the pressure off the sexual side of our marriage. If you would let me have an affair partner, I would worship you and be the most devoted husband ever."

I'm a woman and I totally get this. I can't imagine a life without sex. I have four girlfriends (4!) in sexless marriages and those are the only ones who have told me, so there may be more. None of them are ready to pull the trigger on ending their marriages, but some have cheated and some have contemplated it. Honestly, if they otherwise love their DHs, I think it's a better solution than divorce.

[Anonymous]

I can't think of a thing i haven't told him that i wanted to. I have a very quick temper. He has a beautiful laugh.

[Anonymous]

I never want to return to our home country while we are still working, but will consider when we retired. Dynamics of office culture, better than average salary, secured position, great benefits, great school zone for kid, cannot think of losing all these to go back to home country despite our families (his and mine) are all in the home country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I have no intention of growing into my 70's and 80's and having the same amount of sex then that I am right now, which is NONE.

WE ARE NOT 80, STOP ACTING LIKE WE ARE.

To further clarify, I don't expect to be banging when we're 80, I want us to enjoy being 39 and stop acting like we're in a nursing home when we turn out the lights.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I feel like a single parent a lot of the time because as soon as he gets home from work he feels entitled to sit down with his face buried in his I-pad and look at the most obscure, stupid stuff for HOURS. When asked to help with bedtime, a household chore/repair he gets all bitchy because I'm invading his "me" time. When's my f'ing "me" time?

When interacting with our kid, he's barely talking to the DC and has his face in his I-pad.

Then when the kid is in bed, his face is back in the I-pad. It's like pulling teeth to get him to have a conversation, watch a show together or participate in a relationship.

If I complain about the I-Pad he gets really angry and indignant as if I'm being ridiculous.

Why are you typing ipad like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That your general passivity in life and your inability to initiate any meaningful conversation, or sex, for the last 8 years of our marriage has had the effect of me falling out of love with you, and if it weren't for our awesome young kids and generally fun family life, I would have bailed a long time ago. Even though I am sure you are not having an affair, I wouldn't even be that upset if you were because it would mean that you still have those feelings, even if they weren't directed at me. The thought of you not having any feelings like that at all is more devastating to me.

Be careful what you wish for. Had a friend that left her wonderful husband for a exciting kind of guy. Within a year she was calling me saying she made a mistake.

i think that this is reading comprehension fail?

[Anonymous]

I would like for her to die soon so I and the kids can live peacefully.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I take pictures of her butt while she is doing yoga. She has a really nice rear and I can't help myself.