"Don't Text Me So Early!"

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Anonymous wrote:The people who are saying "don't text before 8am". do you have a job? I don't want to deal with personal texts during my work day. I would rather receive them early or late, I respond when I'm available, that's why it's texting, not calling.

Yes, but I don’t work on Saturday

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Anonymous wrote:100% not you - people need to understand their phone settings and use them.

I wake up to messages from my sister (a teacher) all the time since she’s up by 5 am. Or from my SIL on the west coast texting late. I have my texts on silent 24 hours a day. I leave my ringer on so I’ll catch any emergencies.

On that note, phone calls before 8 AM *are* rude. Texts are not.

Thank you. I came here to post the same thing only with my family back in the UK. Reading this for 6 pages and not one person mentioning time zones tells me this is a xenophobic old lady group. Good God.

Silence your phone grandma, or simply learn how to use it. The world doesnt revolve around you. What's next? Telling people they need t send a polite text asking if it’s ok to text???

When I’m texting people in different time zones I’m respectful of what time it is there, because the world doesn’t revolve around me. Take your own advice!

But you’re the one asking other people to modify their behavior to benefit you. I would never expect someone to know which time zone I’m in and adhere to my schedule for texts because the world does not revolve around me. And it’s great that our phones now provide settings so that I have total control over notifications and don’t need to rely on others.

Are you too stupid to think that OPs SIL does not know what time zone she is in.

People travel and don’t always keep the same schedule. I would never expect anyone to give me a detailed itinerary every week nor would I look at it before texting. The responsibility to manage alerts is on the person receiving texts.

I travel and never text anyone this early. You don’t know the concept of time zones and how to figure them out? A query about a party does not require a text in the morning.

Are you people purposefully being obtuse? You're just making your side of the argument a lot weaker with your ridiculous insults that people don't understand time zones.

And you’re unintentionally obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

Manners and common sense exist for a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's common courtesy to not text someone super early or super late. Your train of thought does not deserve attention at all hours of day or night. People have legitimate reasons for not silencing their phones.

"Being too stupid to understand a simple piece of technology" is not a valid reason.

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But the flip side of that coin is that she just could have scheduled her text to send at 9. That's just as easy, and takes the burden off the recipient.

Burden on the recipient?! Jesus just set your own settings. Are you this high maintenance in other areas of your life?

Be in charge of your own time.

Would you text your boss at 5:00 am and insist that he/she is wrong to be annoyed if you woke them up? Of course, you wouldn't!! You reserve this kind of entitled behavior for family and friends.

Yeah, I do text mangers and colleagues at off hours. Everyone does.

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Anonymous wrote:The people who are saying "don't text before 8am". do you have a job? I don't want to deal with personal texts during my work day. I would rather receive them early or late, I respond when I'm available, that's why it's texting, not calling.

Yes I have a full time job, three children 8 and under and I am on my local school board. I have basically no free time to myself, but I do sleep until 7:30 every morning because I have a supportive family that helps make that happen and it ruins my entire day when someone decides to start blowing up my phone at 7am. They are primarily from two friends who KNOW I don't like being texted that early but who do it anyway. I have decided it is not worth being a THING in the friendship about but it bugs the ever loving crap out of me and effects my ENTIRE day. You can decide you don't give a crap about doing this to people you theoretically like enough to be texting at 7am but that doesn't change the reality.

You're on a 'local school board' and don't know how to manage notification settings? Good Lord. I pity the kids in your district.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's common courtesy to not text someone super early or super late. Your train of thought does not deserve attention at all hours of day or night. People have legitimate reasons for not silencing their phones.

"Being too stupid to understand a simple piece of technology" is not a valid reason.

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But the flip side of that coin is that she just could have scheduled her text to send at 9. That's just as easy, and takes the burden off the recipient.

Burden on the recipient?! Jesus just set your own settings. Are you this high maintenance in other areas of your life?

Be in charge of your own time.

Would you text your boss at 5:00 am and insist that he/she is wrong to be annoyed if you woke them up? Of course, you wouldn't!! You reserve this kind of entitled behavior for family and friends.

Yeah, I do text mangers and colleagues at off hours. Everyone does.

Absolutely not. Nor does everyone do this.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's common courtesy to not text someone super early or super late. Your train of thought does not deserve attention at all hours of day or night. People have legitimate reasons for not silencing their phones.

"Being too stupid to understand a simple piece of technology" is not a valid reason.

+100

But the flip side of that coin is that she just could have scheduled her text to send at 9. That's just as easy, and takes the burden off the recipient.

Burden on the recipient?! Jesus just set your own settings. Are you this high maintenance in other areas of your life?

Be in charge of your own time.

Would you text your boss at 5:00 am and insist that he/she is wrong to be annoyed if you woke them up? Of course, you wouldn't!! You reserve this kind of entitled behavior for family and friends.

Yeah, I do text mangers and colleagues at off hours. Everyone does.

You’re annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

I have a family member in poor health so I can’t use do not disturb.

It’s rude to text before 7 or after 9. Unless you know it’s ok to text early/late, use the same courtesy that you’d use for calling someone on a landline.

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Anonymous wrote:The people who are saying "don't text before 8am". do you have a job? I don't want to deal with personal texts during my work day. I would rather receive them early or late, I respond when I'm available, that's why it's texting, not calling.

Yes I have a full time job, three children 8 and under and I am on my local school board. I have basically no free time to myself, but I do sleep until 7:30 every morning because I have a supportive family that helps make that happen and it ruins my entire day when someone decides to start blowing up my phone at 7am. They are primarily from two friends who KNOW I don't like being texted that early but who do it anyway. I have decided it is not worth being a THING in the friendship about but it bugs the ever loving crap out of me and effects my ENTIRE day. You can decide you don't give a crap about doing this to people you theoretically like enough to be texting at 7am but that doesn't change the reality.

You're on a 'local school board' and don't know how to manage notification settings? Good Lord. I pity the kids in your district.

Okay drama queen

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Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

I have a family member in poor health so I can’t use do not disturb.

It’s rude to text before 7 or after 9. Unless you know it’s ok to text early/late, use the same courtesy that you’d use for calling someone on a landline.

You can create 100% custom settings. It’s not equivalent at ALL to a land kine - totally different technology. Or have someone call you on your home phone line in case of a true emergency.

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Anonymous wrote:The people who are saying "don't text before 8am". do you have a job? I don't want to deal with personal texts during my work day. I would rather receive them early or late, I respond when I'm available, that's why it's texting, not calling.

Yes I have a full time job, three children 8 and under and I am on my local school board. I have basically no free time to myself, but I do sleep until 7:30 every morning because I have a supportive family that helps make that happen and it ruins my entire day when someone decides to start blowing up my phone at 7am. They are primarily from two friends who KNOW I don't like being texted that early but who do it anyway. I have decided it is not worth being a THING in the friendship about but it bugs the ever loving crap out of me and effects my ENTIRE day. You can decide you don't give a crap about doing this to people you theoretically like enough to be texting at 7am but that doesn't change the reality.

You're on a 'local school board' and don't know how to manage notification settings? Good Lord. I pity the kids in your district.

For real. Utter ineptitude!

[Anonymous]

Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

Manners are still relevant in 2024. You should introduce yourself to some.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

+1 No texts before 8AM

+2. I’d say no texts before 9am.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's common courtesy to not text someone super early or super late. Your train of thought does not deserve attention at all hours of day or night. People have legitimate reasons for not silencing their phones.

"Being too stupid to understand a simple piece of technology" is not a valid reason.

+100

But the flip side of that coin is that she just could have scheduled her text to send at 9. That's just as easy, and takes the burden off the recipient.

Burden on the recipient?! Jesus just set your own settings. Are you this high maintenance in other areas of your life?

Be in charge of your own time.

Would you text your boss at 5:00 am and insist that he/she is wrong to be annoyed if you woke them up? Of course, you wouldn't!! You reserve this kind of entitled behavior for family and friends.

Yeah, I do text mangers and colleagues at off hours. Everyone does.

No, not everyone does. Stop justifying your lack of manners by attributing it to "everyone" baselessly.