How do you tell a child they life they knew is over?

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Drama queen.

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Anonymous wrote:Don a somber black dress. Draw the curtains, and seat her in a comfortable yet simple chair made by Vermont craftsmen. Make sure some mournful background music is playing. Something classical, Russian maybe. Kneel before her, and draw her slight, smooth hand into yours. Slowly, tremulously, clasp her hand to your heart and say “my darling girl, I have some news to share.” Be prepared with smelling salts and a crisp white linen handkerchief.

I think that is how you should break the news.

You are amazing, PP! Five stars!

You have seriously low standards.

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Anonymous wrote:DD (6) thinks things will go back to normal soon. She obviously can't grasp the full impact of the situation yet, and thinks that one day she'll be able to see her grandparents, not a wear a mask, travel, hug friends, attend school. I've been very non-committal about the future because I don't want to negatively affect her mental health, but at some point she'll need to understand that things are different now and won't ever go back. I'm actually wondering if I'm doing her a disservice by putting it off, but I'm dreading it.

Anyway, how and when do you plan on having this conversation?

Listen - and I'm not being ironic here - you need help. Do you have a therapist you can talk to?
People freaking WILL (and some still do!) hug friends, attend school (some privates will be open as soon as this August), travel, and even ditch masks, eventually. A year from now, everything will be back to normal.
Reading some posts here, you'd think an asteroid hit the Earth and the surviving 50 humans all frequent DCUM. "Things are different now and won't ever go back". Geez.

Interesting. You've not heard the term "new normal" either? And you do realize the government never drops restrictions they institute, right?

I think you should go back to your social studies class. Seriously.

Right? I mean, I'm pretty sure at some point they lifted the rations they instituted during WWII. Or wait, do we still have to limit our use of butter? Maybe we do and I just forgot.

It was years of rationing. Don't play dumb. And we still have overreach at the airports, 19 years later.

The airport comparison is, frankly, dumb because they are VERY different cost/benefit decisions. Like, airport security is not a big inconvenience on daily life, so even if the national security response ratcheted more than was necessary, keeping those precautions in place is a pretty low-burden deal. But closing business, schools, etc. is a HIGH burden imposition. Things that are so life-altering (see also, food rationing, quarantines and mask requirements during the Spanish flu, etc.) are lifted when feasible. I mean, a lot of schools cancelled outdoor play and recess for a while during the DC sniper. Guess what? Recess came back. Just because some government restrictions have been left in place doesn't mean they always are or that this stuff is an exercise in governments wanting to overreach.

Sending your a big virtual hug.
OP sounds mega dramatic, and, frankly, not too bright.
Sorry not sorry.

Weird. You think invasive patdowns aren't a big inconvenience in daily life? Because they are.

Inconvenient? Sure. Worth the benefit they provide? Yes. If you’re so bothered by going through airport security you might want to talk to someone about being medicated. Most people are willing to comply with reasonable requests to promote safety.

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Good grief OP. One day we will be able to see and hug grandparents without a mask. It wont be tomorrow but it will happen. This country made it through polio, measles and all kinds of other things. The "new normal" doesn't mean masks and 6ft forever. Your kid sounds way too anxious for her age but she must begetting that from you.

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Anonymous wrote:Cholera pandemic lasted for like a decade, so we will learn to manage.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1826%E2%80%931837_cholera_pandemic

People didnt pass cholera to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you do this? A six year old has limited understanding of time. Sounds like you are expecting her to make some mature acceptance which is unfair. This is not forever; we will distance and wear masks as long as the infection continues to be community acquired. They are working on vaccines which will help. Sounds like you want to upset her, to put adult problems on her shoulders. No reason to increase any anxiety she has; you’re her mom, it’s your job to make her life better not worse.

Excuse me? I said I haven't brought this up for exactly the reasons you stated - but at some point, she'll need to know the life she knew is gone and isn't coming back.

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Anonymous wrote:Cholera pandemic lasted for like a decade, so we will learn to manage.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1826%E2%80%931837_cholera_pandemic

People didnt pass cholera to each other.

I mean, they sorta did. It's just not respiratory.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are beyond melodramatic.

So true. An observation: I was just in NoVa on business and live in CO. Walking around, I saw people wearing masks OUTSIDE, by themselves! It’s hysterical. Why would you do that? Here in CO, I’d say no more than 15% of people wear them outside (and that’s in central Denver, I’m sure it’s much less further out). We have 4 kids and since May they’ve been playing with friends, seeing their grandparents, going out to eat, playing team sports, living a 100% normal summer life. They are all going back to school (in person) in a few weeks, and we can’t wait.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are beyond melodramatic.

So true. An observation: I was just in NoVa on business and live in CO. Walking around, I saw people wearing masks OUTSIDE, by themselves! It’s hysterical. Why would you do that? Here in CO, I’d say no more than 15% of people wear them outside (and that’s in central Denver, I’m sure it’s much less further out). We have 4 kids and since May they’ve been playing with friends, seeing their grandparents, going out to eat, playing team sports, living a 100% normal summer life. They are all going back to school (in person) in a few weeks, and we can’t wait.

What Denver area school district is going back 100% in person?

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are beyond melodramatic.

So true. An observation: I was just in NoVa on business and live in CO. Walking around, I saw people wearing masks OUTSIDE, by themselves! It’s hysterical. Why would you do that? Here in CO, I’d say no more than 15% of people wear them outside (and that’s in central Denver, I’m sure it’s much less further out). We have 4 kids and since May they’ve been playing with friends, seeing their grandparents, going out to eat, playing team sports, living a 100% normal summer life. They are all going back to school (in person) in a few weeks, and we can’t wait.

What Denver area school district is going back 100% in person?

Private school. We also know many public school parents who have already found / hired teachers to run small quasi-home school setups for the whole year. We all know the teachers / unions aren’t gonna come back this year.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are beyond melodramatic.

So true. An observation: I was just in NoVa on business and live in CO. Walking around, I saw people wearing masks OUTSIDE, by themselves! It’s hysterical. Why would you do that? Here in CO, I’d say no more than 15% of people wear them outside (and that’s in central Denver, I’m sure it’s much less further out). We have 4 kids and since May they’ve been playing with friends, seeing their grandparents, going out to eat, playing team sports, living a 100% normal summer life. They are all going back to school (in person) in a few weeks, and we can’t wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember reading John McCainss autobiography - and they soldiers who didn’t make it out of the Hanoi Hilton were the ones who would say - we’ll be our my Xmas etc. the ones who said I’ll be out eventually survived and were rescued. I’d recommend therapy for you - teletherapy has been great. You need to have a growth mindset but for you and for your children. The sky is falling Mindset will set her up for a lifetime of negative outlook. Eventually we’ll have a vaccine, herd immunity, or people will stop caring bc the death rate is lower than the flu. The kids where I live are all in camp and swimming at the pool bc kids don’t seem to transmit. The adults are all socially distanced at their tables.

Kids don’t transmit it? Stop listening to Trump and start listening to science. Yes they do. You do realize that 1 percent is still 3 million people dying from it? Do you also realize that lots of people that don’t die, can still get very sick and have long term brain damage and lung damage? It’s worse than the flu and more contagious

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Anonymous wrote:Just tell her.
My 7 years old promptly wear mask, wash hand etc.
He loves his life. He doesn’t want to die of covid or pass it on to his love ones

He won't die, and people like you are why this will never end.

You have absolutely NO WAY in hell that you can proclaim correctly that "he won't die." None.

It's people like you and your ignorant "everything's fine. I do what I want!" behavior that will ensure that this will last a hell of a lot longer than it ever needed to last.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember reading John McCainss autobiography - and they soldiers who didn’t make it out of the Hanoi Hilton were the ones who would say - we’ll be our my Xmas etc. the ones who said I’ll be out eventually survived and were rescued. I’d recommend therapy for you - teletherapy has been great. You need to have a growth mindset but for you and for your children. The sky is falling Mindset will set her up for a lifetime of negative outlook. Eventually we’ll have a vaccine, herd immunity, or people will stop caring bc the death rate is lower than the flu. The kids where I live are all in camp and swimming at the pool bc kids don’t seem to transmit. The adults are all socially distanced at their tables.

Kids don’t transmit it? Stop listening to ***** and start listening to science. Yes they do. You do realize that 1 percent is still 3 million people dying from it? Do you also realize that lots of people that don’t die, can still get very sick and have long term brain damage and lung damage? It’s worse than the flu and more contagious

Kids most assuredly do transmit it. Either this person lives under a rock and hasn't followed any meaningful sources of new information since April, or they're just an idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:DD (6) thinks things will go back to normal soon. She obviously can't grasp the full impact of the situation yet, and thinks that one day she'll be able to see her grandparents, not a wear a mask, travel, hug friends, attend school. I've been very non-committal about the future because I don't want to negatively affect her mental health, but at some point she'll need to understand that things are different now and won't ever go back. I'm actually wondering if I'm doing her a disservice by putting it off, but I'm dreading it.

Anyway, how and when do you plan on having this conversation?

Listen - and I'm not being ironic here - you need help. Do you have a therapist you can talk to?
People freaking WILL (and some still do!) hug friends, attend school (some privates will be open as soon as this August), travel, and even ditch masks, eventually. A year from now, everything will be back to normal.
Reading some posts here, you'd think an asteroid hit the Earth and the surviving 50 humans all frequent DCUM. "Things are different now and won't ever go back". Geez.

Interesting. You've not heard the term "new normal" either? And you do realize the government never drops restrictions they institute, right?

I think you should go back to your social studies class. Seriously.

Right? I mean, I'm pretty sure at some point they lifted the rations they instituted during WWII. Or wait, do we still have to limit our use of butter? Maybe we do and I just forgot.

It was years of rationing. Don't play dumb. And we still have overreach at the airports, 19 years later.

The airport comparison is, frankly, dumb because they are VERY different cost/benefit decisions. Like, airport security is not a big inconvenience on daily life, so even if the national security response ratcheted more than was necessary, keeping those precautions in place is a pretty low-burden deal. But closing business, schools, etc. is a HIGH burden imposition. Things that are so life-altering (see also, food rationing, quarantines and mask requirements during the Spanish flu, etc.) are lifted when feasible. I mean, a lot of schools cancelled outdoor play and recess for a while during the DC sniper. Guess what? Recess came back. Just because some government restrictions have been left in place doesn't mean they always are or that this stuff is an exercise in governments wanting to overreach.

Sending your a big virtual hug.
OP sounds mega dramatic, and, frankly, not too bright.
Sorry not sorry.

Weird. You think invasive patdowns aren't a big inconvenience in daily life? Because they are.

Inconvenient? Sure. Worth the benefit they provide? Yes. If you’re so bothered by going through airport security you might want to talk to someone about being medicated. Most people are willing to comply with reasonable requests to promote safety.

Most people are illiterate sheep.