Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not bored at all. I was bored at work, not at home.

Me too. And to the PP, I have a masters degree and had a successful career before staying home.

It's a lot more challenging to maintain a career, full time, once you have children.

Annnd... no one said it wasn't. It's so funny how you WOHMs swoop in any time you sense a chance to one-up. But what's funnier is that no one is bothering to compete with you. Because we're happy with our lives the way they are. So knock yourselves out, telling anyone who will listen what a "challenging" life you lead.

Great. Feel free to opt out.

Already have, but thanks for your "permission!"

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Anonymous wrote:Newsflash: Raising kids is a contribution to society.

Of course it is, but let's not be thick here. My kids pediatrician is a mom, and her work as a physician is contributing to society in a way that is different Han her raising her own kids.

This is a ridiculous argument. I am a woh, but can think of many ways that sah moms in my community have benefitted my kids, not just their own—by volunteering at school, planning the big fundraiser, and leading a Brownie troop,

Anyone arguing that being a sah or being a woh has more intrinsic value just looks overly defensive and foolish.

If you are truly happy with your own choices, why post about how much better (or more “valuable”) that makes you than someone else? That is the territory of the insecure.

All those volunteer activities can and are done by both SAH and WOH moms (and dads).

If you are not a troll, you have zero self awareness, zero. You might benefit from counseling to address your pathological resentment (jealousy) of sah moms.

Personally, I don’t know any woh moms leading after school Brownie or volunteering at the school three times a week. I certainly don’t have time for it, and I work a 40 hour week as a government attorney. My guess is you don’t do these things either,

I used to lead a Brownie troop. I also work on the administration and finance committee of my church. I do volunteer at school, but not three times a week. I like to let the SAHMs who can find childcare help out

This isn't anything to brag about. Volunteering = unpaid labor. I hate seeing SAHMs volunteer because it means they are doing so much work at home and for the charity for $0 pay. How many men do you think would willingly sign up for that? We need to STOP doing unpaid work for men. Half of these charities have highpaid execs and are pretty much businesses anyway.

Ah yes, you again. You just love these threads, don't you?

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I wonder if there were mommy wars back in the cave man /cave woman days. I suspect there probably were.

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to b8e gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Seriously! I agree completely. Besides which, we hear all the time from these DCUM WOHMs how they vastly prefer working to SAH. Doesn't bother me or affect me one iota.

If you're totally secure that you are using your intellectual ability and won't regret the time at home, it shouldn't bother you.

I know, right? Kind of like the way you and your fellow harpies aren't insecure AT ALL about the mere existence of a thread in which SAHMs are saying how much they love being home. It doesn't bother you one bit.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a WOHM, but I wouldn't be bored being a SAHM at all. If you're doing it right, you wouldn't be bored. And I mean park trips, museum trips, library story times, music classes, lots of sensory play and outdoor play.

We all know good and bad SAHMs and WOHMs, lets not generalize. Some people are better suited to one versus the other.

What about once your youngest child is in full day school?

Whenever I hear this question (not the PP, btw), I know there's got to be jealousy at play. Otherwise, why on earth would you care what we do once our children are in school?

I don't care what you do when you have children too young for school, either, but it's not jealousy, it's asking honestly how you plan to fill those extra 32 hours a week. I've never SAH, I can't imagine what I would do with all that free time. I guess life just slows way down.

Yes, and it's fantastic.

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to be gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

I can’t image very many would respond at all. I have lots of friends who WOH. I’m amazed at their ability to juggle so much.

The only time I judge a WOHM is when she she spends 50+ hours a week away from her kids. I would say the same about a SAHM who was never with her kids. And I will admit to feeling strongly that babies and young children need to be with their mothers. When men carry a baby for nine months and are able to breastfeed, I’ll feel differently. Everything about the way we are designed makes it clear that it is not natural or healthy for a mother to spend hours and hours away from her baby.

I had 50 hours of childcare per week for more than 10 years. I used about 47 of them regularly. When you don't have any family to give you a break and have a demanding career, it's necessary. My relationships with my now teens is just fine, and unlike you, didn't feel that I needed to cut back on my career.

The only appropriate response to this is: Holy shit.

Why? I am raising wonderful children and we are a close family. Plus both of us parents managed to maintain our careers full steam. To me, that's success.

Sure, whatever you need to tell yourself! I'm certain that one hour per day you spend with your kids is really paying dividends in the "close family" department.

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Are there people who claim to be bored as a stay at home mom? I haven't met anyone who said that.

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The one thing happy SAHMs that I know have in common is no matter how intelligent or well educated, they don't have a strong professional drive.

Does this mean that high professional drive women don't have high drive to become mothers? If so, then why do they have kids?

See, inferences like these are what make people think that stay at home moms aren't very smart. How exactly does your statement follow from hers, logically?

Not the PP, but you must be joking. The question is absolutely relevant, especially if we're to entertain the first statement, that SAHMs "don't have a strong professional drive."

I realize that it must be difficult to process the second question because it clearly hit a nerve (especially if you're the mom who had 50 hours/week of childcare). But try reading slowly. I know you can do it!

God, you're stupid. You didn't read about logical fallacy, did you? The drive to become a mother is biological; working in no way interferes with the desire to be a mother. Educate yourself.

You're the person who uses 50 hours of childcare per week, right? Sounds like your "desire to become a mother" was no more than your desire to check that task off your to-do list. But sure, we believe you. Especially if you're the PP who keeps coming back to tell SAHMs what a poor choice they made and how if we're "secure in our choices," then criticism shouldn't bother us. I suggest you take your own advice.

It's curious that you're trolling a thread which has nothing to do with you, dontcha think? Kind of an insecure thing to do.

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Those who want to rag on SAHM's as lazy dependents should GO AWAY. You are the opposite of feminists as you are devaluing traditional work done by women in the home. You want to outsource it? Fine. Don't minimize my valuable contributions.

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to b8e gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Seriously! I agree completely. Besides which, we hear all the time from these DCUM WOHMs how they vastly prefer working to SAH. Doesn't bother me or affect me one iota.

If you're totally secure that you are using your intellectual ability and won't regret the time at home, it shouldn't bother you.

I know, right? Kind of like the way you and your fellow harpies aren't insecure AT ALL about the mere existence of a thread in which SAHMs are saying how much they love being home. It doesn't bother you one bit.

Why are you descending to name-calling? I know there has been no reciprocal name calling of SAHMs. What was said that raised vitriol to this degree?

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to b8e gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Seriously! I agree completely. Besides which, we hear all the time from these DCUM WOHMs how they vastly prefer working to SAH. Doesn't bother me or affect me one iota.

If you're totally secure that you are using your intellectual ability and won't regret the time at home, it shouldn't bother you.

I know, right? Kind of like the way you and your fellow harpies aren't insecure AT ALL about the mere existence of a thread in which SAHMs are saying how much they love being home. It doesn't bother you one bit.

Why are you descending to name-calling? I know there has been no reciprocal name calling of SAHMs. What was said that raised vitriol to this degree?

Lol, there seems to be one woh poster who has really lost it.

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NP. Sorry but the SAHMs on this thread have lost the high ground. Lots of name calling. When will you learn to ignore the trolls? It makes you look foolish and insecure when you take the bait. Just ignore and have your little pow wow. I don’t know a single working mom who wastes time worrying about what SaHMs are doing.

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Question for everyone, why do you care what another woman chooses to do with her life?

I for one actually happen to like working. I like having to contribute to an organization and creating value. I also like earning money that is mine.

I don't care if another woman wants to stay home and not work.

How does it affect my life??? It doesn't at all!!!

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to b8e gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Seriously! I agree completely. Besides which, we hear all the time from these DCUM WOHMs how they vastly prefer working to SAH. Doesn't bother me or affect me one iota.

If you're totally secure that you are using your intellectual ability and won't regret the time at home, it shouldn't bother you.

I know, right? Kind of like the way you and your fellow harpies aren't insecure AT ALL about the mere existence of a thread in which SAHMs are saying how much they love being home. It doesn't bother you one bit.

Why are you descending to name-calling? I know there has been no reciprocal name calling of SAHMs. What was said that raised vitriol to this degree?

Lol, there seems to be one woh poster who has really lost it.

The PP above you asked a good question. Stop with the troll-y business.

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I loved it. Every day. It went so fast, and the kids grew up so fast. Never second guess if you can do it.