Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?

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I didn't have a chance to read all comments (working mom here, HA!) so I'm sure it's been said but you know it, I know it.... they're all JEALOUS!

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Anonymous wrote:I'd love to be independently rich and not have to make a living. But I have enough integrity not to pretend it would be a great contribution to society!

I'm all for choices. As long as you own your choices. If you can and choose to be a leach, it's fine by me. I wish I was! Just stop telling me you're some sort of unsung hero, and we'll get along just fine

Yeah, no one here has even implied they're an "unsung hero." That's just what you hear when you think of SAHMs. And no, I doubt we'd get along "just fine."

Please the 'hardest job in the world' is trotted out by many a SAHM. Or the 'sacrifice' they are making for their family. It's a lifestyle of leisure and a choice they made, just own it and no harm no fowl. I would love to just hang with my kids and answer to no one all day.

Gobble gobble.

Man, I'm ready for some turkey and gravy now. Best typo ever.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have a chance to read all comments (working mom here, HA!) so I'm sure it's been said but you know it, I know it.... they're all JEALOUS!

Seriously, I want a wealthy benefactor let me have enough time i have to worry about being bored!

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Anonymous wrote:When are women going to let this topic go? It's so played out.

Ask the OP. She really just wanted to chat with other SAHMs...really, just for support...

Love how the SAHMs stir the pot and then say "why are you on this thread..."

I imagine the OP was the very same WOHM troll who now keeps appearing to argue her point and tell us about her extremely insecure marriage and a lifetime of baggage. She started the thread just so she could unload in it.

But I do find it so interesting that not one WOHM has answered the question, why are you on this thread? What could possibly have made you click on it? Hmm, let's think...

Okay, I'll bite. I purposely ignored this thread for the longest time as it cycled to the top of Recent Topics over and over, but once it became huge I...just...couldn't...resist.

But, unfortunately I found just what I thought I'd find; a bunch of off-the-hook SAHMs snarking out big time in response to one (or more) trolls who were baiting them. Projecting all your insecure BS on this dumb troll, same old same old lame attempts at burns. "you're jealous" "you don't care about your kids" "why did you even have kids". blah blah blah.

Speaking of trolls, OP is definitely the biggest one of all. She wanted exactly what she got. There have been a few nice SAHMs who actually stayed on topic, but most of you are just looking to unload.

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to be gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Does your husband ever get jealous of all your free time?

DP, but my husband thinks it's great. We meet for lunch all the time and he gets a lot of time off for himself. Why would he be jealous?

How can he possibly get a lot of time off for himself? Do you mean he works 40 or 50 hours a week, and then takes nights and weekends away from family?

What? Of course not. You don't have a very wide experience with situations other than your own, do you?

My husband pretty much makes his own hours. He's senior enough to come and go when he needs to, and/or work at home. He can take a day off here and there to go golfing if he wants. We can meet for lunch a few times a week. He helps out at school a couple of times a month. He coaches our kids' teams. And he goes on a weekend fishing trip with his friends once a year - just as I take a ladies weekend with mine. Plenty of free time for both of us, without having to "take nights and weekends away from family." I'm sorry you don't know what that's like.

DP. Don't care what you are arguing about, but you are an idiot. NO ONE has "very wide experience" with situations other than their own. This is the nature of being human. We are all limited by out own experiences, including (and very obviously) YOU! And you are just nasty to boot. Suggests you are actually quite unhappy and unloading on people on an anonymous board to feel better.

And you, very clearly, haven't bothered to read this entire thread and have zero idea why I responded the way I did to the PP - who, btw is the thread's resident troll. Perhaps you should read every post if you plan on just diving in to a conversation you know nothing about.

Nope, read what she wrote and you are still an idiot. You are bothering to respond to her when you acknowledge she's a troll (who knows, could be a he having a field day with you) AND your responses are lame. You need to up your game if you are going troll-hunting.

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Anonymous wrote:When are women going to let this topic go? It's so played out.

Ask the OP. She really just wanted to chat with other SAHMs...really, just for support...

Love how the SAHMs stir the pot and then say "why are you on this thread..."

I imagine the OP was the very same WOHM troll who now keeps appearing to argue her point and tell us about her extremely insecure marriage and a lifetime of baggage. She started the thread just so she could unload in it.

But I do find it so interesting that not one WOHM has answered the question, why are you on this thread? What could possibly have made you click on it? Hmm, let's think...

WOHM here, I did answer this; my DH is trying to talk me into staying home and I was curious how the days go once kids are in school. The animosity between SAHM and WOHMs makes me wonder if I will be jeopardizing my friendships with moms from daycare by hanging out with our schools SAHM crew (they meetup every morning after drop off and go to coffee and then do some round robin exercise class like yoga one day and barre another -- in really excited about that built in socializing part of SAH). But why so much anger both ways; it isn't even like we cross paths that much? All the SAHM are setting down to home cooked dinner by the time I get to SACC.

I've done both and my kids are much older. Please don't let DCUM guide your decision-making.

In my life, I heard more nastiness about WOHMs by SAHMs when I was a SAHM than I did about SAHMs when I was a WOHM, but it was rare in either direction. When I think back to the few women who said nasty things, they all had their own issues, and given how stats work, it could have easily gone the other way as far as prevalence. In short, there are a subset of people who have their own issues, and they're going to use whatever means they have to lash out. The topic is irrelevant.

I have wonderful SAHM friends (I now WOH), and they'd never say any of the nonsense you see on DCUM from the SAHMs who post here. I for my part would never say any of the things I see here about SAHMs. Life is too short to be so wrapped around the axel about how other people raise their kids. Besides which, everyone who is arrogant here is going to get their comeuppance when they're raising middle schoolers and high schoolers because if you're observant, by then you see that SAHM versus WOHM is really pretty irrelevant in the big scheme of things. The smug ones often take quite a tumble when they get teens in the house.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a white privilege issue. It's nice if you can afford to stay home OP and rally round the flag for you. But, it just isn't possible for most people in this area.To another poster, I do wonder why someone would go to all of the trouble to go to law school and then stay home.

Hmm. It couldn't *possibly* be that this person worked as an attorney prior to having kids, and plans to work again when her kids are older? Nah, that couldn't be it. That makes too much sense.

Yah, a career in law is just like teaching, you can pop in and out between having kids. Very family friendly.

Who said she plans to work again *as an attorney* when her kids are older? Actually, plenty of people do re-enter law professions, but you do know there are a world of other jobs out there, right? Good for her for going to law school and keeping her options open.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a white privilege issue. It's nice if you can afford to stay home OP and rally round the flag for you. But, it just isn't possible for most people in this area.To another poster, I do wonder why someone would go to all of the trouble to go to law school and then stay home.

Hmm. It couldn't *possibly* be that this person worked as an attorney prior to having kids, and plans to work again when her kids are older? Nah, that couldn't be it. That makes too much sense.

Yah, a career in law is just like teaching, you can pop in and out between having kids. Very family friendly.

Who said she plans to work again *as an attorney* when her kids are older? Actually, plenty of people do re-enter law professions, but you do know there are a world of other jobs out there, right? Good for her for going to law school and keeping her options open.

This is me! Law school was no trouble at all. I loved those 3 years. Would do it again in a heartbeat. The 10 years that I practiced? Ehhh. Those were some boring times. But law school was great.

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Anonymous wrote:When are women going to let this topic go? It's so played out.

Ask the OP. She really just wanted to chat with other SAHMs...really, just for support...

Love how the SAHMs stir the pot and then say "why are you on this thread..."

I imagine the OP was the very same WOHM troll who now keeps appearing to argue her point and tell us about her extremely insecure marriage and a lifetime of baggage. She started the thread just so she could unload in it.

But I do find it so interesting that not one WOHM has answered the question, why are you on this thread? What could possibly have made you click on it? Hmm, let's think...

WOHM here, I did answer this; my DH is trying to talk me into staying home and I was curious how the days go once kids are in school. The animosity between SAHM and WOHMs makes me wonder if I will be jeopardizing my friendships with moms from daycare by hanging out with our schools SAHM crew (they meetup every morning after drop off and go to coffee and then do some round robin exercise class like yoga one day and barre another -- in really excited about that built in socializing part of SAH). But why so much anger both ways; it isn't even like we cross paths that much? All the SAHM are setting down to home cooked dinner by the time I get to SACC.

You have very valid reasons for checking out this thread. The question was directed to the extremely hostile and defensive WOHMs who can't stand the fact that there's a thread devoted to SAHMs (or there was, anyway). It's like they smell red meat when they see anything to do with SAHMs, and they just can't control themselves from butting in and telling us how to live our lives - which smacks of terrible insecurity. I'm a SAHM and couldn't care less how others choose to run their lives; I'm happy with the choices I've made, but they clearly are not or else they wouldn't care either.

PP, IRL I've *never* experienced any animosity - my friends are made up of SAHMs and WOHMs and we all like one another because of the people we are, not our work status. It's only here on DCUM that the crazies come out. Good luck with your decision - it was the best one I've ever made.

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Anonymous wrote:When are women going to let this topic go? It's so played out.

Ask the OP. She really just wanted to chat with other SAHMs...really, just for support...

Love how the SAHMs stir the pot and then say "why are you on this thread..."

I imagine the OP was the very same WOHM troll who now keeps appearing to argue her point and tell us about her extremely insecure marriage and a lifetime of baggage. She started the thread just so she could unload in it.

But I do find it so interesting that not one WOHM has answered the question, why are you on this thread? What could possibly have made you click on it? Hmm, let's think...

WOHM here, I did answer this; my DH is trying to talk me into staying home and I was curious how the days go once kids are in school. The animosity between SAHM and WOHMs makes me wonder if I will be jeopardizing my friendships with moms from daycare by hanging out with our schools SAHM crew (they meetup every morning after drop off and go to coffee and then do some round robin exercise class like yoga one day and barre another -- in really excited about that built in socializing part of SAH). But why so much anger both ways; it isn't even like we cross paths that much? All the SAHM are setting down to home cooked dinner by the time I get to SACC.

You have very valid reasons for checking out this thread. The question was directed to the extremely hostile and defensive WOHMs who can't stand the fact that there's a thread devoted to SAHMs (or there was, anyway). It's like they smell red meat when they see anything to do with SAHMs, and they just can't control themselves from butting in and telling us how to live our lives - which smacks of terrible insecurity. I'm a SAHM and couldn't care less how others choose to run their lives; I'm happy with the choices I've made, but they clearly are not or else they wouldn't care either.

PP, IRL I've *never* experienced any animosity - my friends are made up of SAHMs and WOHMs and we all like one another because of the people we are, not our work status. It's only here on DCUM that the crazies come out. Good luck with your decision - it was the best one I've ever made.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd love to be independently rich and not have to make a living. But I have enough integrity not to pretend it would be a great contribution to society!

I'm all for choices. As long as you own your choices. If you can and choose to be a leach, it's fine by me. I wish I was! Just stop telling me you're some sort of unsung hero, and we'll get along just fine

Yeah, no one here has even implied they're an "unsung hero." That's just what you hear when you think of SAHMs. And no, I doubt we'd get along "just fine."

Please the 'hardest job in the world' is trotted out by many a SAHM. Or the 'sacrifice' they are making for their family. It's a lifestyle of leisure and a choice they made, just own it and no harm no fowl. I would love to just hang with my kids and answer to no one all day.

Really? All I hear from the WOHMs on this site is, "Well, I do all of that and MORE!" Talk about a martyr complex. Also, have you ever SAH? The fact that you call it a "lifestyle of leisure" suggests you haven't, especially as a SAHM of babies and young children. There is never a moment to oneself. As the kids are older and in school, then sure - there is more time for "leisure" and I have no problem at all owning that. It's a great life, but it's certainly not ALL leisure time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd love to be independently rich and not have to make a living. But I have enough integrity not to pretend it would be a great contribution to society!

I'm all for choices. As long as you own your choices. If you can and choose to be a leach, it's fine by me. I wish I was! Just stop telling me you're some sort of unsung hero, and we'll get along just fine

Yeah, no one here has even implied they're an "unsung hero." That's just what you hear when you think of SAHMs. And no, I doubt we'd get along "just fine."

Please the 'hardest job in the world' is trotted out by many a SAHM. Or the 'sacrifice' they are making for their family. It's a lifestyle of leisure and a choice they made, just own it and no harm no fowl. I would love to just hang with my kids and answer to no one all day.

Gobble gobble.

Man, I'm ready for some turkey and gravy now. Best typo ever.

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Let's all get together for a virtual Thanksgiving meal, break bread, and just be friends. Except for the troll poster, of course. She doesn't seem like very much fun.

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Anonymous wrote:When are women going to let this topic go? It's so played out.

Ask the OP. She really just wanted to chat with other SAHMs...really, just for support...

Love how the SAHMs stir the pot and then say "why are you on this thread..."

I imagine the OP was the very same WOHM troll who now keeps appearing to argue her point and tell us about her extremely insecure marriage and a lifetime of baggage. She started the thread just so she could unload in it.

But I do find it so interesting that not one WOHM has answered the question, why are you on this thread? What could possibly have made you click on it? Hmm, let's think...

Okay, I'll bite. I purposely ignored this thread for the longest time as it cycled to the top of Recent Topics over and over, but once it became huge I...just...couldn't...resist.

But, unfortunately I found just what I thought I'd find; a bunch of off-the-hook SAHMs snarking out big time in response to one (or more) trolls who were baiting them. Projecting all your insecure BS on this dumb troll, same old same old lame attempts at burns. "you're jealous" "you don't care about your kids" "why did you even have kids". blah blah blah.

Speaking of trolls, OP is definitely the biggest one of all. She wanted exactly what she got. There have been a few nice SAHMs who actually stayed on topic, but most of you are just looking to unload.

Sure. Whatever you say. We all know you haven't bothered to read the entire thread, or you'd know why the troll(s) have been receiving the response they have. Talk about "off-the-hook."

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Anonymous wrote:The implication in this thread is that staying at home is preferable to working and the women posting that they aren’t bored seem to be gloating about it. So that is what is bringing out the venom from the working moms. Maybe I should start a thread about how great it is to be a working mom and see how the SAHMs respond.

Go ahead. I do think staying home is great. That is why I do it. Why should I pretend that it sucks? If you prefer working, fine by me.

Does your husband ever get jealous of all your free time?

DP, but my husband thinks it's great. We meet for lunch all the time and he gets a lot of time off for himself. Why would he be jealous?

How can he possibly get a lot of time off for himself? Do you mean he works 40 or 50 hours a week, and then takes nights and weekends away from family?

What? Of course not. You don't have a very wide experience with situations other than your own, do you?

My husband pretty much makes his own hours. He's senior enough to come and go when he needs to, and/or work at home. He can take a day off here and there to go golfing if he wants. We can meet for lunch a few times a week. He helps out at school a couple of times a month. He coaches our kids' teams. And he goes on a weekend fishing trip with his friends once a year - just as I take a ladies weekend with mine. Plenty of free time for both of us, without having to "take nights and weekends away from family." I'm sorry you don't know what that's like.

DP. Don't care what you are arguing about, but you are an idiot. NO ONE has "very wide experience" with situations other than their own. This is the nature of being human. We are all limited by out own experiences, including (and very obviously) YOU! And you are just nasty to boot. Suggests you are actually quite unhappy and unloading on people on an anonymous board to feel better.

And you, very clearly, haven't bothered to read this entire thread and have zero idea why I responded the way I did to the PP - who, btw is the thread's resident troll. Perhaps you should read every post if you plan on just diving in to a conversation you know nothing about.

Nope, read what she wrote and you are still an idiot. You are bothering to respond to her when you acknowledge she's a troll (who knows, could be a he having a field day with you) AND your responses are lame. You need to up your game if you are going troll-hunting.

And your responses are vastly better?

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Anonymous wrote:It's a white privilege issue. It's nice if you can afford to stay home OP and rally round the flag for you. But, it just isn't possible for most people in this area.To another poster, I do wonder why someone would go to all of the trouble to go to law school and then stay home.

Hmm. It couldn't *possibly* be that this person worked as an attorney prior to having kids, and plans to work again when her kids are older? Nah, that couldn't be it. That makes too much sense.

Yah, a career in law is just like teaching, you can pop in and out between having kids. Very family friendly.

Who said she plans to work again *as an attorney* when her kids are older? Actually, plenty of people do re-enter law professions, but you do know there are a world of other jobs out there, right? Good for her for going to law school and keeping her options open.

I reentered law after 5 years at home, it actually is not uncommon.