How many men have you slept with?

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Anonymous wrote:How many of you DC Moms who have slept with 20+ people would recommend the same path for their 15 year old daughters? Or better yet, how many of your husbands would recommend that for their 15 year old daughters?

I have had 12 or 13 partners, including DH, but I would have had many more if I didn't meet DH at age 26. I can't imagine why I would recommend a particular number for my daughter. How stupid. I would give my daughter the same advice I have given my younger sisters:

1. Being horny is the only reason to have sex (sex is not to please a man or secure his affection);

2. Not wanting to have sex is the reason to avoid sex (abstaining does not make you good and others' mental hangups about female sexuality have no place in your bedroom);

3. Always prioritize your pleasure and kick to the curb any man who is a selfish lay;

4. Make sure to use condoms to prevent STDs even if you are on the pill.

As long as the women who look up to me follow those rules, I'm happy. May they enjoy good sex always.

+1000, I am a previous poster who has been w/ around 30 people and also have never made a sex tape or slept with more than one person at a time, etc. I also agree that I would tell my daughter these same things and I would want her to enjoy herself, while respecting herself, you can do both! there is nothing to be ashamed of if you embrace your sexuality, in fact it might be a good thing for your future marriage. I will also add that just because I was "slutty" in my younger years does not translate as being so in my marriage. I knew what I wanted sexually in a partner and made sure my husband was a good fit and now we have a great sex life. There are no complaints of a sexless marriage here. I hope my daughter has the same good fortune.

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Anonymous wrote:3 partners - long term (4+ years) boyfriend in college, short fling with an older guy in my early 20s, and then my now-husband. I'm in my mid-thirties and have been with my husband for almost 12 years.

I don't think having a lot of partners is wrong at all - consenting adults and all that. However, I personally never wanted to have sex without emotional attachment and having the fling with the older guy only confirmed it. And I don't fall for people easily, so although I did date casually, I never took any of them home. That said, I was head over heels for my husband right away and we were hot and heavy within just a few weeks after meeting...

This post introduced some level headedness into the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Ashamed to say, about 50. I was a big slut in college. Married my DH at age 26.

You're not marriage material

Obviously her husband disagrees.

What did her husband say when he found out she was the biggest slut in college? If someone told me that I would imagine trains, drunken casual sex, sex tapes, etc. but maybe her hubby wants to be a cuck? I don't see an alpha guy wanting someone like that.

It's disturbing that just because someone has slept with a lot of people that you assume they've made sex tapes and had trains run on them. Step away from the porn, dude.

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I'm not a "dude" dumbass. Obviously to be a slut you are being a risk taker especially in college where drinking and sex is easier. Guess you live in a bubble.

Sweetheart, I'm sorry you're bitter about having forgone fun opportunities and not having had it pay off for you. Or maybe you're just ugly and wishing that you can raise your own stock by not having casual sex (sorry, that's not how it works). Your vitriol directed at other women is disturbing and very obviously rooted in jealousy and bitterness. If you become a nicer person, your life will get better.
Signed - a woman whose slept with at least 30+ men and currently married to an "alpha."

Sweetie I am happily engaged to the hottest young surgeon in dc/pa and I do not care if you believe me or not because you obviously have enough time to troll and defend your promiscuous life. Its obvious by you being so thin skinned and clearly ashamed of your past for taking a strangers words to heart and offending you. I could care less if you clapped your booty naked for free with every guy you met but you might want to take a look at your life to improve your self esteem.


Signed,
Young attractive woman with high self esteem with a similar true "alpha" SO

..... Who will be divorced in under a year......

Bitter much?

Not even a little bit, you just sound really immature. Not ready for marriage. Or any modicum of self awareness. But I'm pretty sure you won't understand that observation.

I think that is you "sweetheart" who takes quick offence at anyone contradicting your view and touchy about your past. No one cares how many men you slept with. All you have shown is that low self esteem women who call themselves "slut" you said it not I are truely wacky.

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I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Most of the time, that's not the way it works out.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Who said giving it up includes anal and threesomes? Are you the same person that thinks it also includes sex tapes and trains? Get a grip.

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Anonymous wrote:Ashamed to say, about 50. I was a big slut in college. Married my DH at age 26.

You're not marriage material

Obviously her husband disagrees.

What did her husband say when he found out she was the biggest slut in college? If someone told me that I would imagine trains, drunken casual sex, sex tapes, etc. but maybe her hubby wants to be a cuck? I don't see an alpha guy wanting someone like that.

It's disturbing that just because someone has slept with a lot of people that you assume they've made sex tapes and had trains run on them. Step away from the porn, dude.

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I'm not a "dude" dumbass. Obviously to be a slut you are being a risk taker especially in college where drinking and sex is easier. Guess you live in a bubble.

Sweetheart, I'm sorry you're bitter about having forgone fun opportunities and not having had it pay off for you. Or maybe you're just ugly and wishing that you can raise your own stock by not having casual sex (sorry, that's not how it works). Your vitriol directed at other women is disturbing and very obviously rooted in jealousy and bitterness. If you become a nicer person, your life will get better.
Signed - a woman whose slept with at least 30+ men and currently married to an "alpha."

Sweetie I am happily engaged to the hottest young surgeon in dc/pa and I do not care if you believe me or not because you obviously have enough time to troll and defend your promiscuous life. Its obvious by you being so thin skinned and clearly ashamed of your past for taking a strangers words to heart and offending you. I could care less if you clapped your booty naked for free with every guy you met but you might want to take a look at your life to improve your self esteem.


Signed,
Young attractive woman with high self esteem with a similar true "alpha" SO

..... Who will be divorced in under a year......

Bitter much?

Not even a little bit, you just sound really immature. Not ready for marriage. Or any modicum of self awareness. But I'm pretty sure you won't understand that observation.

I think that is you "sweetheart" who takes quick offence at anyone contradicting your view and touchy about your past. No one cares how many men you slept with. All you have shown is that low self esteem women who call themselves "slut" you said it not I are truely wacky.

You may not realize it, stupid, but there are more than one person echoing the same sentiment towards you. I was the PP who called you sweetheart, but not the one that wrote the comment about you being immature (though I agree).

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

No one cares what you hope. Get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Most of the time, that's not the way it works out.

Why is that? Then what good is the experience they boast about?

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Most of the time, that's not the way it works out.

Why is that? Then what good is the experience they boast about?

Who was boasting? Answering OP's question honestly is not "boasting".

I'm pretty sure the PP you were responding to had no idea what he or she is talking about anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Most of the time, that's not the way it works out.

Why is that? Then what good is the experience they boast about?

Lol, fool, they enjoyed their lives. That was what's good about it.
In any case, sexy husbands get laid. Unsexy husbands don't get laid. Wife's sexual history has nothing to do with it.

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Anonymous wrote:How many of you DC Moms who have slept with 20+ people would recommend the same path for their 15 year old daughters? Or better yet, how many of your husbands would recommend that for their 15 year old daughters?

I have had 12 or 13 partners, including DH, but I would have had many more if I didn't meet DH at age 26. I can't imagine why I would recommend a particular number for my daughter. How stupid. I would give my daughter the same advice I have given my younger sisters:

1. Being horny is the only reason to have sex (sex is not to please a man or secure his affection);

2. Not wanting to have sex is the reason to avoid sex (abstaining does not make you good and others' mental hangups about female sexuality have no place in your bedroom);

3. Always prioritize your pleasure and kick to the curb any man who is a selfish lay;

4. Make sure to use condoms to prevent STDs even if you are on the pill.

As long as the women who look up to me follow those rules, I'm happy. May they enjoy good sex always.

+1000, I am a previous poster who has been w/ around 30 people and also have never made a sex tape or slept with more than one person at a time, etc. I also agree that I would tell my daughter these same things and I would want her to enjoy herself, while respecting herself, you can do both! there is nothing to be ashamed of if you embrace your sexuality, in fact it might be a good thing for your future marriage. I will also add that just because I was "slutty" in my younger years does not translate as being so in my marriage. I knew what I wanted sexually in a partner and made sure my husband was a good fit and now we have a great sex life. There are no complaints of a sexless marriage here. I hope my daughter has the same good fortune.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you ladies that gave it up to so many guys and were adventurous in your youth continue to share your best treasures with your husbands. Oral, anal, threesomes, whatever. If you gave these things to your throwaway boy toys I hope hubby gets the goods too.

Most of the time, that's not the way it works out.

Why is that? Then what good is the experience they boast about?

Lol, fool, they enjoyed their lives. That was what's good about it.
In any case, sexy husbands get laid. Unsexy husbands don't get laid. Wife's sexual history has nothing to do with it.

Husbands who have wives with sexy hormones get laid. Husbands who have wives with asexual hormones don't get laid. Wife's sexual history may or may not be an indication of her hormonal tendencies.

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Anonymous wrote:How many of you DC Moms who have slept with 20+ people would recommend the same path for their 15 year old daughters? Or better yet, how many of your husbands would recommend that for their 15 year old daughters?

I have had 12 or 13 partners, including DH, but I would have had many more if I didn't meet DH at age 26. I can't imagine why I would recommend a particular number for my daughter. How stupid. I would give my daughter the same advice I have given my younger sisters:

1. Being horny is the only reason to have sex (sex is not to please a man or secure his affection);

2. Not wanting to have sex is the reason to avoid sex (abstaining does not make you good and others' mental hangups about female sexuality have no place in your bedroom);

3. Always prioritize your pleasure and kick to the curb any man who is a selfish lay;

4. Make sure to use condoms to prevent STDs even if you are on the pill.

As long as the women who look up to me follow those rules, I'm happy. May they enjoy good sex always.

+1000, I am a previous poster who has been w/ around 30 people and also have never made a sex tape or slept with more than one person at a time, etc. I also agree that I would tell my daughter these same things and I would want her to enjoy herself, while respecting herself, you can do both! there is nothing to be ashamed of if you embrace your sexuality, in fact it might be a good thing for your future marriage. I will also add that just because I was "slutty" in my younger years does not translate as being so in my marriage. I knew what I wanted sexually in a partner and made sure my husband was a good fit and now we have a great sex life. There are no complaints of a sexless marriage here. I hope my daughter has the same good fortune.

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