I've had sex with five men; started dating DH exclusively when we were 23.
I've had other "encounters" with more men: not intercourse, but other sexual activities. Add four more to the above count. |
Not even a little bit, you just sound really immature. Not ready for marriage. Or any modicum of self awareness. But I'm pretty sure you won't understand that observation. |
So many people want there to be consequences for female promiscuity. They want women who dare have sex to end up alone, or divorced early, or unhappy. Oh, but boo hoo hoo, that's not how life works. The "slut" may find a great guy and live happily ever after, while you end up cheated on and divorced after "saving yourself." That's real life. Deal with it. |
How many of you DC Moms who have slept with 20+ people would recommend the same path for their 15 year old daughters? Or better yet, how many of your husbands would recommend that for their 15 year old daughters? |
Doesn't surprise me dcum has so many crazies
Funny thing is, my wife led me to believe that she had more experience than she did. She knew that I had been around and I wanted my future wife to also be experienced I encouraged my daughter to explore her sexuality as an adult. Sex is one of the most beautiful things in life. Also I don't want my children to marry someone they are not compatible with Sign me Women having sex partners a good thing |
If she did it out of free choice, safely, understanding that a lot of different feelings sometimes accompany sex, i don't see the problem. Really, I don't see 20 partners as "slutty," either. Say you start having sex at 18. That's two partners a year by Agee 28, if you're not in a long term relationship. So fucking what? |
I have had 12 or 13 partners, including DH, but I would have had many more if I didn't meet DH at age 26. I can't imagine why I would recommend a particular number for my daughter. How stupid. I would give my daughter the same advice I have given my younger sisters: 1. Being horny is the only reason to have sex (sex is not to please a man or secure his affection); 2. Not wanting to have sex is the reason to avoid sex (abstaining does not make you good and others' mental hangups about female sexuality have no place in your bedroom); 3. Always prioritize your pleasure and kick to the curb any man who is a selfish lay; 4. Make sure to use condoms to prevent STDs even if you are on the pill. As long as the women who look up to me follow those rules, I'm happy. May they enjoy good sex always. |
3 partners - long term (4+ years) boyfriend in college, short fling with an older guy in my early 20s, and then my now-husband. I'm in my mid-thirties and have been with my husband for almost 12 years.
I don't think having a lot of partners is wrong at all - consenting adults and all that. However, I personally never wanted to have sex without emotional attachment and having the fling with the older guy only confirmed it. And I don't fall for people easily, so although I did date casually, I never took any of them home. That said, I was head over heels for my husband right away and we were hot and heavy within just a few weeks after meeting... |
I would be absolutely fine with it, although 15 would be young for my taste to become sexually active. But in general for her sexual life I would want her to always command respect (I personally had great, respectful sexual experiences) and never do anything that made her feel like she wasn't getting everything she wanted out of the deal. I would also suggest discretion because of the silly world we live in. I really do not think it's as big of a deal as some of you prudes are making it out to be. |
PP here again. You are HILARIOUS and have no idea how utterly stupid you're coming off. It's sad, really. By the way, you might want to do a search on DCUM for doctor's wife threads. Not a happy crowd. Good luck. |
I'm not any of these PPs, but I did post earlier in the thread that my number is somewhere around 50. Never made a sex tape. Never had sex with more than one person at a time or more than one person in the same night. The sex I had was actually pretty traditional (PIV, oral, no anal). Never had a STD. Had one unplanned pregnancy (with DH, before we got married). If you define "risk taker" as "multiple sex partners" then fine, call me a risk taker. But if you do not understand the difference between someone being promiscuous (which I absolutely was) and making a sex tape or having a train run on them, we are never going to understand each other. Your posts paint you as being fairly insecure with your talk about your hot surgeon fiance, trolling a site calling women you don't know names. What do you get out of that? Do you feel better about your sex life because you feel disgusted by someone else's? |
This wasn't directed at me, but, whenever someone starts their response with "sweetie", I read the rest of the statement as fiction with the sole aim of one-upmanship. |
The only time my DW's number would matter to me is if the marriage turned sexless. I'd have an easier time dealing with the rejection if she'd generally been asexual. If she had been highly sexual in the past, then started rejecting me, it would be hard not to take very personally -- even if the change was truly due to, say, hormones and aging. |
If we are adding encounters, my 52 jumps to well over 200. |
Get cracking and have some fun! |