Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Important takeaways from this thread:

Have more than one swimsuit for your kid

Don't answer texts from school moms you don't know after 8 pm. No good can come.

Uber can take your misbegotten swimsuit to its rightful owner if you decline to drag your kids out of bed for a midnight ride of 2 hours or so

there are ZERO places to buying a bathing suit at the Jersey shore

Somewhere in this tri state area, schools are already out!

Don't send your freakishly large kid to a school 40 minutes from your house.

Best line in this entire thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I'm thinking that if crazy mom thought it was no big deal to drive an hour for a bathing suit, then she could have gone out at 10:00 pm to pick up the suit herself.

Only a woman with no friends whatsoever would consider the request reasonable. Maybe the drive would have given her time to think about why that is.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The beach-going demanding Mom is from Bethesda, isn't she?

Ha ha, that's just what I was thinking. So rigid and mean spirited.

[Anonymous]

Both moms are kooks in my estimation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not uber it over?

Thank goodness for uber...a lifesaver for first world white people problems.

+ 1

UBER! UBER! UBER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But why did OP offer to meet her and then refuse to meet her at either her house or the midpoint location? Don't offer if you don't actually mean it.

OP probably assumed the other mom would want to meet during the day, which is a reasonable assumption.

What if the other mom said she could only meet OP at midnight? Or at an abandoned warehouse? "Too bad, OP said she would meet her"? Nope. Be reasonable. I don't think meeting at 10 pm for most people with kids is reasonable. The only reason the other mom suggested it was because she was leaving the next morning, not because it was a reasonable hour to meet to swap suits.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Would never expect someone to do that. Especially if she had a sleeping baby. Don't be crazy.

[Anonymous]

Send one to the beach via Amazon next day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send one to the beach via Amazon next day.

That would be a reasonable option for a private school mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was in OP's shoes, I would have made sure that the swim trunk was returned somehow - maybe Uber, maybe driving by myself.

If I was in the other lady's shoes, I would have bought a swimsuit on the way to the beach.

However, the other lady showed just a lack of understanding, whereas OP shows a sense of entitlement. Both are wrong, but OP is more wrong.

Yes, OP feels entitled to some slack and some sympathy about being home alone with multiple kids, including a baby -- and she deserves it, IMO, especially from ANOTHER PARENT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is your son's fault.

OP already said that. I think we all agree.
The woman was being unreasonable. She could have easily picked up another suit on the drive to the beach. Inconvenient yes, but how is stopping at a target on the way to beach harder than driving 60min round trip at 10pm the night before you leave for a trip.

[Anonymous]

Swimsuit seeking mom is a bitch. A bitch trying to make a point. Definitely from Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not uber it over?

Thank goodness for uber...a lifesaver for first world white people problems.

+ 1

UBER! UBER! UBER!

Nah, Lyft.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

This seems to be one of those topics that really relies on your cohort. I can't imagine moms agreeing with the other mom and not seeing her as a drama queen over a cheap bathing suit that can be returned on Monday. These positions are so far apart that there seems little use in debating it. It all depends on perspective and what you find reasonable and unreasonable. I find it interesting that people seem to view the same facts so differently.

You're right about the parenting cohort. The OP calls into the self-centered mommy cohort. Me. Me. Me. I'm a busy mommy, so I can't drive my kid to the party. Somebody needs to help me...after all, DH is away and I'm not equipped to manage on my own. And my baby is asleep! I have a rigid sleep schedule and put the kids down by 7 so I can have some me time.

I bet that if the roles were reversed the OP would expect everyone to drop everything and cater to her. After all, she has a baby.

Sounds like OP has some friends. Probably because she's a normal person with normal expectations of friends helping each other out. Sounds perfectly routine among moms to behave this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine the other moms NOT gossiping about OP. (Such a princess, couldn't even take her own kid to the party, then wouldn't even meet Larlo's mom half-way to give back the suit HER kid took! etc etc etc etc. Unless private school moms are prissier and less practical than public-school moms.)

Everyone hates that mom who is a drama queen about having a baby, especially when it isn't her first parenting rodeo. Most people with more than one kid schlep the babies around and suck it up.

+1

I have to agree completely with this. I know people who are apish*t about "the nap" - and now the kid is three or four! That is just obsessive and crazy, at that point.

OP, it's on you - you should have sucked it up and done the right thing. You both sound like ridiculous, immature, spoiled princesses, BTW.

Since you asked.

This was not a nap situation. It is kids being in bed as OP has a 7 year old. OP would have to drag the 7 year old out of bed, to the car to drive an hour or two, then return home for a $10 pair of swim trunks. Why didn't mom check before she left the party and called OP then?

OP only had to go at 10 pm if meeting halfway. She could have left them with the mom at anytime if she drove there. She could have done it that afternoon, or maybe even caught the mom before the party, if she had unpacked her kids wet clothes right away like a normal person.

Caught the mom BEFORE the party at which the trunks were switched? You want op to time travel now?

Only entitled bitches can't be bothered to time travel. "Oh, I can't go backward in time, because it will negate my baby." Wa wa wa.