Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Final consensus: OP did nothing wrong and bathing suite Mom is becoming unhinged and seems to have a problem with the baby.

Not so fast. There are plenty of posters who think OP sounds self-centered and could have done the right thing and returned the trunks that night.

You mean,there are plenty of posters who think OP could have done the absurd thing and returned the trunks that night.... not the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually imagined the conversation went like this ("CB" = crazy bitch"):

CB: "Hi, it looks like your son accidentally grabbed my son's swimsuit. We're packing for a trip to the Jersey Shore in the morning. Is there any way we can get it back tonight?"
OP: "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. Let me drive it to you."
CB: "That would be great, my address is ---"
OP: "Oh. That's 50 minutes away! My husband is out of town, I have a sleeping baby, and I need to put my other kid to bed. Sorry."
CB: "Oh ok. Can I meet you at address X instead? It's about half as far for you, but I'm in the middle of packing, so I can't get there until 10:00."
OP: "Um...let me check with DCUM and get back to you."

Who is the crazy bitch in this scenario?

I am pretty sure OP offered to return it in the morning not that night. The other mom request the return that evening, if I recall correctly.
So try again PP.

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh, I made it to the end of the thread.

[Anonymous]

The thread seems pretty equally divided into pro and anti OP factions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I was in OP's shoes, I would have made sure that the swim trunk was returned somehow - maybe Uber, maybe driving by myself.

If I was in the other lady's shoes, I would have bought a swimsuit on the way to the beach.

However, the other lady showed just a lack of understanding, whereas OP shows a sense of entitlement. Both are wrong, but OP is more wrong.

Yes, OP feels entitled to some slack and some sympathy about being home alone with multiple kids, including a baby -- and she deserves it, IMO, especially from ANOTHER PARENT.

I have 4 kids and honestly, I would be annoyed if some kid had taken something I needed for a trip the next day and the parent refused to return it because that would inconvenience her. Would I insist on it? No. But I would be secretly annoyed. Juggling the needs of more than 1 kid solo is just life. If her DH was deployed, I would be sympathetic. But a regular rich lawyer husband traveling for work? Meh. No sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have driven it to them. Your son took it, his mistake. It sucks but that is what you should have done.

This. Sorry but you need to right a wrong even if it was unintentional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have driven it to them. Your son took it, his mistake. It sucks but that is what you should have done.

This. Sorry but you need to right a wrong even if it was unintentional.

She was righting the wrong. Just not on the other mom's unreasonable timeline.

[Anonymous]

Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

If she's irritating and entitled, does that make her wrong not to drive an hour or more at 10 pm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

If she's irritating and entitled, does that make her wrong not to drive an hour or more at 10 pm?

If it's her, she wouldn't drive 15 minutes at noon. She's an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thread seems pretty equally divided into pro and anti OP factions.

I think the anti is all one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

If she's irritating and entitled, does that make her wrong not to drive an hour or more at 10 pm?

If it's her, she wouldn't drive 15 minutes at noon. She's an ass.

Even a stopped clock is right sometimes. The other mother was being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

If I were the mom of the boy who owned the swimsuit and I knew that the other mom lived 50 minutes away, was alone and had a baby, there is NO way I would ask her to come out at 10 pm at night. If I were poor and couldn't afford another suit from a shop at the beach, then I would ask her to come as early in the morning as possible, but 10p at night is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

Why is a 10 year old in 1/2 grade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn, I know a really irritating mother with a baby and a 7 yo whose DH is out of town and there was a class pool party on Thursday! I wonder if this is her!

Why is a 10 year old in 1/2 grade?

He's not 10, just big.