American Women Are Giving Up on Marriage (Wall Street Journal)

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Anonymous wrote:Overall marriage and children are indeed a bad deal for majority of women.

How old are you? You sound like you are young enough to still believe that climbing the corporate ladder has some inherent value or is worth doing in and of itself.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy that women who have never married are focusing on the “unpaid labor” aspect. That’s more of an issue that arises in marriage later on, after kids arrive. I think the likelier explanations are increased working areas, fewer social interactions generally (we see this in studies of Americans having fewer and fewer friendships, some of which would of course lead to romance), economic instability and fewer college educated, emotionally stable and well paid eligible men. More than ever, women are looking for income and education in men.

Do you think young women are stupid? It’s not hard to see.

Dating isn’t like marriage. It’s hard to see down the line how someone will interact with you once kids come along. Especially if you have lust blinders on.

This was the first generation of young women who truly saw moms work in near equal measure to dads- and breadwin in record numbers. This is also the first generation of young women who were raised in the activity laden nightmare that is modern day parenting. They heard terms like “mental load” and heard about the invisible work of parenting. They saw their parents work their ass off just to pay for daycare, while their standard of living wasn’t guaranteed to rise. This generation of women is neither smarter nor dumber than past- but they sure are more educated on the realities of cost of living/kids/quality of life issues

Agree to disagree. A subset of women may be thinking along these lines and not wanting to marry sure, but is that the primary reason for the decline in marriage? I personally think the other factors I raised, specifically the availability of well paid and educated men, are more relevant to the choice not to marry, and the workload balance is a greater cause for divorce.

You think women are so dumb that they cannot think in advance about what it would be like to be married with kids?

You’ve suggested twice that my comment means I think women are dumb. Bizarre take. I think most women do like the idea of marriage if they could find someone of equal status (emotional intelligence, hardworking, educated) and unfortunately that’s the real issue.

That’s not what the story or data says, but go on.

The story is selected anecdotes of people willing to talk to the WSJ. The data only says the marriage rate is declining.

But the qualitative data matters.

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Anonymous wrote:What's unfortunate is most of the few good men ending up with selfish and demanding wives who want more rights and less responsibilities in the name of equality. You need two good eggs to make a good omelette.

Oh those selfish women, wanting their rights and equality.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy that women who have never married are focusing on the “unpaid labor” aspect. That’s more of an issue that arises in marriage later on, after kids arrive. I think the likelier explanations are increased working areas, fewer social interactions generally (we see this in studies of Americans having fewer and fewer friendships, some of which would of course lead to romance), economic instability and fewer college educated, emotionally stable and well paid eligible men. More than ever, women are looking for income and education in men.

Do you think young women are stupid? It’s not hard to see.

Dating isn’t like marriage. It’s hard to see down the line how someone will interact with you once kids come along. Especially if you have lust blinders on.

This was the first generation of young women who truly saw moms work in near equal measure to dads- and breadwin in record numbers. This is also the first generation of young women who were raised in the activity laden nightmare that is modern day parenting. They heard terms like “mental load” and heard about the invisible work of parenting. They saw their parents work their ass off just to pay for daycare, while their standard of living wasn’t guaranteed to rise. This generation of women is neither smarter nor dumber than past- but they sure are more educated on the realities of cost of living/kids/quality of life issues

Agree to disagree. A subset of women may be thinking along these lines and not wanting to marry sure, but is that the primary reason for the decline in marriage? I personally think the other factors I raised, specifically the availability of well paid and educated men, are more relevant to the choice not to marry, and the workload balance is a greater cause for divorce.

You think women are so dumb that they cannot think in advance about what it would be like to be married with kids?

You’ve suggested twice that my comment means I think women are dumb. Bizarre take. I think most women do like the idea of marriage if they could find someone of equal status (emotional intelligence, hardworking, educated) and unfortunately that’s the real issue.

That’s not what the story or data says, but go on.

The story is selected anecdotes of people willing to talk to the WSJ. The data only says the marriage rate is declining.

But the qualitative data matters.

Not really. This is a subset of fairly well off women and not reflective of women in America generally and their reasoning.

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Anonymous wrote:What's unfortunate is most of the few good men ending up with selfish and demanding wives who want more rights and less responsibilities in the name of equality. You need two good eggs to make a good omelette.

Oh those selfish women, wanting their rights and equality.

Equality doesn't mean more rights but less responsibilities, it means equal rights and responsibilities.

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Marriages will be more equatable in a generation or two. This is a rather newer step of evolution and both genders will find their footing and realize the value of equality.

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Anonymous wrote:The Wall Street Journal profiled single women who are concerned about money and children.
https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/american-women-are-giving-up-on-marriage-54840971?st=i8f72H&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink/

Katie, who is 30 and runs Lume, a leadership coaching startup, out of New York City. Katie spent the first half of 2024 going on three or four dates a week with men she met on apps, such as Hinge and Bumble ... calling it “the only thing you can put 10,000 hours into and end up right where you started.”

Christina, a 31-year-old wildland firefighter in rural Republic, Wash., who didn’t go to college. ... paid $90,000 for a two-bedroom ... "so I don’t feel like I need to be tied financially,” ... doubted she would find someone else who aligned with her progressive views in her conservative town. So she stopped looking. “If I need companionship, I volunteer at the dog shelter.”

Alicia's last long-term relationship ... “wanted the white picket fence and me at home with the kids,” ... despite the fact that her salary was nearly 50% higher than his.

Rachael, a 33-year-old real-estate agent in Savannah, Ga., ... left her boyfriend because she was tired of being both the breadwinner and primary parent.

Tina, who is 34 and works for a health startup ... splits her time between New York City and San Diego, has lately spent hours researching the “Single Mothers by Choice” movement and started saving for a baby with a high-yield savings account.

Actually, men are giving up on marrying American Women. Sorry, but foreign women have them out classed.

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Educated couples seem to still be marrying at normal rates.

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Anonymous wrote:The Wall Street Journal profiled single women who are concerned about money and children.
https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/american-women-are-giving-up-on-marriage-54840971?st=i8f72H&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink/

Katie, who is 30 and runs Lume, a leadership coaching startup, out of New York City. Katie spent the first half of 2024 going on three or four dates a week with men she met on apps, such as Hinge and Bumble ... calling it “the only thing you can put 10,000 hours into and end up right where you started.”

Christina, a 31-year-old wildland firefighter in rural Republic, Wash., who didn’t go to college. ... paid $90,000 for a two-bedroom ... "so I don’t feel like I need to be tied financially,” ... doubted she would find someone else who aligned with her progressive views in her conservative town. So she stopped looking. “If I need companionship, I volunteer at the dog shelter.”

Alicia's last long-term relationship ... “wanted the white picket fence and me at home with the kids,” ... despite the fact that her salary was nearly 50% higher than his.

Rachael, a 33-year-old real-estate agent in Savannah, Ga., ... left her boyfriend because she was tired of being both the breadwinner and primary parent.

Tina, who is 34 and works for a health startup ... splits her time between New York City and San Diego, has lately spent hours researching the “Single Mothers by Choice” movement and started saving for a baby with a high-yield savings account.

Actually, men are giving up on marrying American Women. Sorry, but foreign women have them out classed.

Bizarre comment...with literally zero support for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Educated couples seem to still be marrying at normal rates.

Except, women are out-educating the men...so that is one of the major thrusts of the article.

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Anonymous wrote:Overall marriage and children are indeed a bad deal for majority of women.

How old are you? You sound like you are young enough to still believe that climbing the corporate ladder has some inherent value or is worth doing in and of itself.

Do men believe that? maybe men should be told to stop climbing the corporate ladder and stay home with their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy that women who have never married are focusing on the “unpaid labor” aspect. That’s more of an issue that arises in marriage later on, after kids arrive. I think the likelier explanations are increased working areas, fewer social interactions generally (we see this in studies of Americans having fewer and fewer friendships, some of which would of course lead to romance), economic instability and fewer college educated, emotionally stable and well paid eligible men. More than ever, women are looking for income and education in men.

Do you think young women are stupid? It’s not hard to see.

Dating isn’t like marriage. It’s hard to see down the line how someone will interact with you once kids come along. Especially if you have lust blinders on.

This was the first generation of young women who truly saw moms work in near equal measure to dads- and breadwin in record numbers. This is also the first generation of young women who were raised in the activity laden nightmare that is modern day parenting. They heard terms like “mental load” and heard about the invisible work of parenting. They saw their parents work their ass off just to pay for daycare, while their standard of living wasn’t guaranteed to rise. This generation of women is neither smarter nor dumber than past- but they sure are more educated on the realities of cost of living/kids/quality of life issues

Agree to disagree. A subset of women may be thinking along these lines and not wanting to marry sure, but is that the primary reason for the decline in marriage? I personally think the other factors I raised, specifically the availability of well paid and educated men, are more relevant to the choice not to marry, and the workload balance is a greater cause for divorce.

You think women are so dumb that they cannot think in advance about what it would be like to be married with kids?

You’ve suggested twice that my comment means I think women are dumb. Bizarre take. I think most women do like the idea of marriage if they could find someone of equal status (emotional intelligence, hardworking, educated) and unfortunately that’s the real issue.

That’s not what the story or data says, but go on.

The story is selected anecdotes of people willing to talk to the WSJ. The data only says the marriage rate is declining.

But the qualitative data matters.

Not really. This is a subset of fairly well off women and not reflective of women in America generally and their reasoning.

Look, it is well known that over and over, every time women in any culture or nation get access to a little economic freedom and birth control, they reduce the number of kids they have and marriage rates go down. Clearly women when they get a chance opt out of domesticity because it is a *bad deal* for them.

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Anonymous wrote:What's unfortunate is most of the few good men ending up with selfish and demanding wives who want more rights and less responsibilities in the name of equality. You need two good eggs to make a good omelette.

Oh those selfish women, wanting their rights and equality.

Equality doesn't mean more rights but less responsibilities, it means equal rights and responsibilities.

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Anonymous wrote:What's unfortunate is most of the few good men ending up with selfish and demanding wives who want more rights and less responsibilities in the name of equality. You need two good eggs to make a good omelette.

The problem is modern wives and mothers bought the pan and paid the gas bill with the money they earned from their job, have to provide both eggs, cook them, and then wash the pan too.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy that women who have never married are focusing on the “unpaid labor” aspect. That’s more of an issue that arises in marriage later on, after kids arrive. I think the likelier explanations are increased working areas, fewer social interactions generally (we see this in studies of Americans having fewer and fewer friendships, some of which would of course lead to romance), economic instability and fewer college educated, emotionally stable and well paid eligible men. More than ever, women are looking for income and education in men.

Do you think young women are stupid? It’s not hard to see.

Dating isn’t like marriage. It’s hard to see down the line how someone will interact with you once kids come along. Especially if you have lust blinders on.

This was the first generation of young women who truly saw moms work in near equal measure to dads- and breadwin in record numbers. This is also the first generation of young women who were raised in the activity laden nightmare that is modern day parenting. They heard terms like “mental load” and heard about the invisible work of parenting. They saw their parents work their ass off just to pay for daycare, while their standard of living wasn’t guaranteed to rise. This generation of women is neither smarter nor dumber than past- but they sure are more educated on the realities of cost of living/kids/quality of life issues

Agree to disagree. A subset of women may be thinking along these lines and not wanting to marry sure, but is that the primary reason for the decline in marriage? I personally think the other factors I raised, specifically the availability of well paid and educated men, are more relevant to the choice not to marry, and the workload balance is a greater cause for divorce.

You think women are so dumb that they cannot think in advance about what it would be like to be married with kids?

You’ve suggested twice that my comment means I think women are dumb. Bizarre take. I think most women do like the idea of marriage if they could find someone of equal status (emotional intelligence, hardworking, educated) and unfortunately that’s the real issue.

That’s not what the story or data says, but go on.

The story is selected anecdotes of people willing to talk to the WSJ. The data only says the marriage rate is declining.

But the qualitative data matters.

Not really. This is a subset of fairly well off women and not reflective of women in America generally and their reasoning.

Look, it is well known that over and over, every time women in any culture or nation get access to a little economic freedom and birth control, they reduce the number of kids they have and marriage rates go down. Clearly women when they get a chance opt out of domesticity because it is a *bad deal* for them.

Yup, this is just the free market at work. Some women realize they don't want that lifestyle of married with kids and there's more options for that subset of women.

I find it interesting that Red States are trying to change how "the market" operates by restricting access to abortion services and birth control. They are actively trying to take away these options from women. They are attempting to stifle the free market.