How can we combat deep misogyny?

[Anonymous]

I think most men can get through the day, and the night, without
Fear of being raped, fear walking through a parking garage, worrying about whether you locked your windows and doors, dealing with pregnancy, dealing with miscarriage - as the person HAVING the miscarriage, dealing with getting a D&C for miscarriage, child birth, breast feeding, being a working mom, getting sexually harassed by your boss, getting "laid off" for pregnancy and maternity absences (if you were even able to take any sort of absence). Never mind abortion in the traditional sense.

Men live in a world built by and for men. They are immune to many laws and norms made by men that impact women and our daughters.

Men the world over stalk, rape, murder, disfigure, kidnap, abuse, and use the law to punish women. They wish we would go home, stay barefoot and pregnant, and give them back the good jobs and spots in colleges.
And they make laws that kill pregnant women despite not understanding how ectopic pregnancies and sepsis work, apparently.

So no, I don't think someone who can never experience these things can understand them. At least, that's the only explanation I can come up with on why men continue to do the things they do - a lack of empathy. If it's not a lack of empathy, what is it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately I don't think men can ever understand what it is to be female. As a group they lack the same degree of empathy women generally have.

Men will also always hate and fear women's power. Our best protection is LAWs which ultimately means SCOTUS. So yeah we're doomed.

Well we soon will have a president who appointed the first female chief of staff!

Hope it remains illegal to grab her by her ----

That’s all you’ve got? I bet it’s difficult for you to celebrate this appointment. Because it defies your deep seated belief that he hates women.

The ones he will protect whether they like it or not?

There is a difference between "I love women" as if they are toys (some more expensive and glittery than others) and eye candy and knowing women as people whom you also love. I mean, do you go around saying "I love men"?

Again, first female chief of staff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One very easy step would be to stop shaming stay at home moms in your community and online. They are women, they are contributors and right now they are given more respect by scum like Vance than Dems, who are afraid to acknowledge them for fear of feminist wrath.

don't kid yourself, he maybe gives them "more respect" than other women but that's still way less respect than he gives any man

[Anonymous]

I have a teen son and have been astonished by things I have seen in his cohort. I'm going to say some of it is parents who are not "bad" people but just not at all intentional in how they parent. I don't know what it is. They don't care? They never thought about it? Entitled bros and their wives raising entitled bros. People do not raise their teen sons intentionally. Many organized sports cultures are appalling and no one cares. In fact, parents promote it. Participating in organized sports on some level is an expectation and widespread for nearly all boys at some point in their lives. I have a son and a daughter and the way they are coached and the environments are pretty different too. The place to look in the mirror is at ourselves and what we value and promote and the million things we say or do (or don't say or do) with our own kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately I don't think men can ever understand what it is to be female. As a group they lack the same degree of empathy women generally have.

Men will also always hate and fear women's power. Our best protection is LAWs which ultimately means SCOTUS. So yeah we're doomed.

Well we soon will have a president who appointed the first female chief of staff!

And? That isn’t the win you think it is. We just had the first female VP.

Anyway, she’ll be there for a few weeks before she gets kicked out because she can’t pass the FBI background investigation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop blaming misogyny for simply being a sh!tty candidate or bad at you job.

Put your nose to the grind and earn your stripes up. Life isn't fair, and it is a dog eat dog world. No one owes you anything. You are not entitled to anything because you have a vagina despite what your permanent victimhood.classes taught you while you were in college going $180k in debt for a worthless degree.

This might shock you, but there are women who are good at their jobs and who are terrible at their jobs. Just like men. There are far more people who are mediocre to bad than good, which means most women, just like men, are mediocre to bad. Next time, pick good female candidates of you want to win elections, not thoroughly mid to bad selections like Hillary and Harris.

Except the GOP had a much sh.ttier candidate so that argument doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

You don't care about all Americans. You care about yourself, so stop pretending.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

You don't care about all Americans. You care about yourself, so stop pretending.

I've only posted once before in this thread so I don't know where you're getting that I don't care about all Americans. Why would you assume that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

You don't care about all Americans. You care about yourself, so stop pretending.

+1 I'm sure the pp supports misandrist policies like gender preferences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

You don't care about all Americans. You care about yourself, so stop pretending.

+1 I'm sure the pp supports misandrist policies like gender preferences.

Can you explain that more? What gender preferences would be misandrist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we need to give up on the Andrew Tates and Joe Rogans and just raise boys better from the ground up.

It makes me so happy when my 4 yr old nephew asks before he touches, or talks about his feelings and can verbalize them. That's the kind of stuff everyone needs to be teaching little boys. (And that they're NOT owed everything they want by the world.)

You think that a 4 yr old can't grow up to be influenced by social media? Why did you think social media companies hired PhD psychologists, just for fun?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's as if people posting have never been outside the US. You have no idea how good you've got it. The ignorance is just astounding.

You're right. We should be ashamed of ourselves trying to make things better for all Americans.

You don't care about all Americans. You care about yourself, so stop pretending.

+1 I'm sure the pp supports misandrist policies like gender preferences.

Can you explain that more? What gender preferences would be misandrist?

Is this a serious question? Giving preference to a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a teen son and have been astonished by things I have seen in his cohort. I'm going to say some of it is parents who are not "bad" people but just not at all intentional in how they parent. I don't know what it is. They don't care? They never thought about it? Entitled bros and their wives raising entitled bros. People do not raise their teen sons intentionally. Many organized sports cultures are appalling and no one cares. In fact, parents promote it. Participating in organized sports on some level is an expectation and widespread for nearly all boys at some point in their lives. I have a son and a daughter and the way they are coached and the environments are pretty different too. The place to look in the mirror is at ourselves and what we value and promote and the million things we say or do (or don't say or do) with our own kids.

I agree with this. I think a lot of parents are not even trying to teach their sons about issues like consent or treating women respectfully and equally in professional and social settings. I would have thought it would be better now than it was when I was a teen in the 90s but in some ways it's worse. And no this is not limited to the children of far-right MAGA republicans. I know plenty of liberal parents who voted for Harris and are currently lamenting the election outcome who are also clearly teaching their sons that it is fine to treat women and girls as less than and that being personally aggressive and obnoxious is fine because "that's just how boys are."

I agree a lot of it exposes the inequalities a lot of these parents have bought into in their own lives. It seems like a lot of people are very feminist and egalitarian up until they get married and then a lot of the men expect to be taken care of and waited on at home and the women are fine with it as long as they get a big glittery ring and a nice house and don't get hassled too much about their spending. It's really something to see. Boys who grow up in that environment develop some very retrograde attitudes about gender (as to the girls) regardless of their parents' declared politics.