Men 45+ on OLD: are they all broke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm cheap af, and also poor by DC standards (only $1 million in the bank and $200k income).

But the bigger problem is that I have no intention of dissipating my wealth on an over-the-hill woman.

You have no wealth to dissipate.

I nearly spat out (dissipated!) my coffee. Spot on.

What kind of gold digging losers are you guys dating when all you can think about is how much the women want you for your money?

It’s not the flex you think it is.

Right!?

This is DCUM. Everyone has 3M in liquid and 10M in the market.

Actually I have $4M in liquid and about $18M in the market and properties but I didn’t want to brag. And the women I date have no idea of my wealth. I don’t pay their way and they don’t pay mine though we do pay for each other’s dinners and other things from time to time. When we traveled to places like Mallorca, Corfu, Palawan, St Kitts, Antarctica, etc we each pay our way and split costs for any shared expenses (rooms, etc). Works well that way.

Yakis - a woman who may be making 200k/year paying for her dinners with you. It would be fair if you shared expenses pro-rats your wealth. Very few people would be comparable. It’s totally different from two mid 6-figures executives sharing expenses. You are cheap IMHO

You would never know. Too many gold diggers out there.

You can simply decline taking her to an expensive restaurant for the first date; offer a coffee/drinks. If you start seeing each other, see if she reciprocates at least gets tickets for movies/theaters. But keeping scores like you do is just sick, IMHO. Being extremely wealthy, you have your girlfriends subsidize your travel: you are a wealthy kept man/toy boy. And also bitter about women.

[Anonymous]

so you're not looking for love anymore at this stage of your life, correct?

-- an old not OLD poster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm cheap af, and also poor by DC standards (only $1 million in the bank and $200k income).

But the bigger problem is that I have no intention of dissipating my wealth on an over-the-hill woman.

You have no wealth to dissipate.

I nearly spat out (dissipated!) my coffee. Spot on.

What kind of gold digging losers are you guys dating when all you can think about is how much the women want you for your money?

It’s not the flex you think it is.

Right!?

This is DCUM. Everyone has 3M in liquid and 10M in the market.

Actually I have $4M in liquid and about $18M in the market and properties but I didn’t want to brag. And the women I date have no idea of my wealth. I don’t pay their way and they don’t pay mine though we do pay for each other’s dinners and other things from time to time. When we traveled to places like Mallorca, Corfu, Palawan, St Kitts, Antarctica, etc we each pay our way and split costs for any shared expenses (rooms, etc). Works well that way.

Yakis - a woman who may be making 200k/year paying for her dinners with you. It would be fair if you shared expenses pro-rats your wealth. Very few people would be comparable. It’s totally different from two mid 6-figures executives sharing expenses. You are cheap IMHO

Yep. This falls under the “cheap AF” rubric OP described.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wealthy men don’t need OLD to find a date. They are like a flame to moths.

This. Most of these men never are on OLD. The wealthy lawyer marries his secretary. The MD's marry RN's.

MDs marrying the nurses and lawyers marrying secretaries is definitely not the norm.

DH is a surgeon and we know a handful of doctors who met their PA or nurse wives when they were med students or during residency but they are few.

I know a lot of lawyers and can’t think of one who married a secretary. I do know many lawyers who married other lawyers.

Doctors married doctors. Lawyers married lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wealthy men don’t need OLD to find a date. They are like a flame to moths.

This. Most of these men never are on OLD. The wealthy lawyer marries his secretary. The MD's marry RN's.

MDs marrying the nurses and lawyers marrying secretaries is definitely not the norm.

DH is a surgeon and we know a handful of doctors who met their PA or nurse wives when they were med students or during residency but they are few.

I know a lot of lawyers and can’t think of one who married a secretary. I do know many lawyers who married other lawyers.

Doctors married doctors. Lawyers married lawyers.

The one doctor nurse couple I’m thinking of are already retired. I think they met at UPEnn like 40 years ago. They were in college. Husband went to med school. Wife went to nursing school.

The other doctor who married a PA married a model looking PA when he was a resident. She was stunning and really nice. Yale has a PA school.

I wonder how hard it is to get into UPenn nursing or Yale PA school. It is a good place to meet a husband.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

My DH is a surgeon and an amazing partner and father. He has relatively good hours. He didn’t have any student loans and earns $1m+ as a specialized surgeon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

Tech and finance jobs don’t have the stability always.

I’m a finance person. I watched many guys make millions and also lose millions. When you get senior and laid off, it isn’t always easy to jump back in. Don’t know as much about tech. I do have friends whose husbands got laid off from google recently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

My DH is a surgeon and an amazing partner and father. He has relatively good hours. He didn’t have any student loans and earns $1m+ as a specialized surgeon.

He’s an exception. Adultery is super common for medical professions particular with irregular work hours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm cheap af, and also poor by DC standards (only $1 million in the bank and $200k income).

But the bigger problem is that I have no intention of dissipating my wealth on an over-the-hill woman.

You have no wealth to dissipate.

I nearly spat out (dissipated!) my coffee. Spot on.

What kind of gold digging losers are you guys dating when all you can think about is how much the women want you for your money?

It’s not the flex you think it is.

Right!?

This is DCUM. Everyone has 3M in liquid and 10M in the market.

Actually I have $4M in liquid and about $18M in the market and properties but I didn’t want to brag. And the women I date have no idea of my wealth. I don’t pay their way and they don’t pay mine though we do pay for each other’s dinners and other things from time to time. When we traveled to places like Mallorca, Corfu, Palawan, St Kitts, Antarctica, etc we each pay our way and split costs for any shared expenses (rooms, etc). Works well that way.

Yakis - a woman who may be making 200k/year paying for her dinners with you. It would be fair if you shared expenses pro-rats your wealth. Very few people would be comparable. It’s totally different from two mid 6-figures executives sharing expenses. You are cheap IMHO

Yep. This falls under the “cheap AF” rubric OP described.

There is a big difference between "cheap" and "broke". Very wealthy people are often cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so you're not looking for love anymore at this stage of your life, correct?

-- an old not OLD poster

Of course I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

Tech and finance jobs don’t have the stability always.

I’m a finance person. I watched many guys make millions and also lose millions. When you get senior and laid off, it isn’t always easy to jump back in. Don’t know as much about tech. I do have friends whose husbands got laid off from google recently.

This. Job security in tech is nowhere near as good as it is in medicine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

My DH is a surgeon and an amazing partner and father. He has relatively good hours. He didn’t have any student loans and earns $1m+ as a specialized surgeon.

He’s an exception. Adultery is super common for medical professions particular with irregular work hours

I’m a doctor and this isn’t true. Doctors are very risk averse and in general more education equates with less divorce. When doctors get divorced it’s bc the wife is also a doctor and can afford to leave. Not usually over infidelity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so you're not looking for love anymore at this stage of your life, correct?

-- an old not OLD poster

Of course I am.

No you’re not. You want the attention - which is what most women want actually. As a guy you’re one of at least three to five she’s talking to.

This is why wealthy men don’t do online dating and tend to date younger. I don’t need some bitter woman who has online dating profiles and exes in her DMs invading my space. I’m with too much

You can’t be king of an empire when she’s out getting attention from the entire village. If she’s doing that time to kick her out and find someone who wants to be there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to marry a doctor or lawyer, huge student loans, terrible hours, unscrupulous ethics, cheaters, stress etc. Marry a smart tech or business person who is hard working and honest - that's where the good money and lifestyle are.

My DH is a surgeon and an amazing partner and father. He has relatively good hours. He didn’t have any student loans and earns $1m+ as a specialized surgeon.

He’s an exception. Adultery is super common for medical professions particular with irregular work hours

I’m a doctor and this isn’t true. Doctors are very risk averse and in general more education equates with less divorce. When doctors get divorced it’s bc the wife is also a doctor and can afford to leave. Not usually over infidelity.

There are cheaters in all professions. Most doctors are very risk averse and studied really hard to get where they are. This is not grey’s anatomy. Most doctors also don’t make $$$. Sure, they may make 200-500k but that isn’t Jeff Bezos wher you are rolling in money. That affords you a nice UMC life with your family.

I’m not saying cheating doesn’t happen. I remember when DH was a surgical fellow, there was a guy who got a PA pregnant and it was a big scandal. This is definitely not the norm.