Do Women Really Not Want to Work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do men really like to work? Or are they just trying to get an 8-10 hour break everyday from the wife and kids?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Just from the wife. I love spending time with my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all the people on here who claim they would still work even if they won the lottery.

I think that is very very very rare.

I like my job but like any job, it has boring parts. It has annoying paperwork that I don't feel like doing. It's not always that interesting. My boss can be super annoying and my co-workers are not my best friends.

It's a JOB. It's not FUN.

I would quit if I didn't need the money. But overall it's a good job.

I don’t. Most people want to fill their day with something besides leisure time or working with children.

The main reason I work is bevause it allows me an escape from family life and it allows for an equitable partnership with my husband. Even my SAHM friends with extremely wealthy husbands do NOT appear to have an equitable relationship. Stinks but there is something about working and not limiting yourself to hobbies and the home that allows men to view you as more of an equal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all the people on here who claim they would still work even if they won the lottery.

I think that is very very very rare.

I like my job but like any job, it has boring parts. It has annoying paperwork that I don't feel like doing. It's not always that interesting. My boss can be super annoying and my co-workers are not my best friends.

It's a JOB. It's not FUN.

I would quit if I didn't need the money. But overall it's a good job.

I don’t. Most people want to fill their day with something besides leisure time or working with children.

The main reason I work is bevause it allows me an escape from family life and it allows for an equitable partnership with my husband. Even my SAHM friends with extremely wealthy husbands do NOT appear to have an equitable relationship. Stinks but there is something about working and not limiting yourself to hobbies and the home that allows men to view you as more of an equal.

If I win the lottery, his ass will view me as an equal or my next husband can view me as an equal.

[Anonymous]

I have a simple philosophy - you should die with less than $10,000 in your bank account. Money that is in your account represents time that you spent working, when you could have been with your family instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a simple philosophy - you should die with less than $10,000 in your bank account. Money that is in your account represents time that you spent working, when you could have been with your family instead.

This is one of the dumbest things I've read on here, and that's saying something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do men really like to work? Or are they just trying to get an 8-10 hour break everyday from the wife and kids?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Just from the wife. I love spending time with my kids.

It’s a shame you picked a mother for your kids that you actively seek to avoid. Doesn’t seem like you could possibly love your kids all that much if you’re willing to trash their mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all the people on here who claim they would still work even if they won the lottery.

I think that is very very very rare.

I like my job but like any job, it has boring parts. It has annoying paperwork that I don't feel like doing. It's not always that interesting. My boss can be super annoying and my co-workers are not my best friends.

It's a JOB. It's not FUN.

I would quit if I didn't need the money. But overall it's a good job.

I don’t. Most people want to fill their day with something besides leisure time or working with children.

The main reason I work is bevause it allows me an escape from family life and it allows for an equitable partnership with my husband. Even my SAHM friends with extremely wealthy husbands do NOT appear to have an equitable relationship. Stinks but there is something about working and not limiting yourself to hobbies and the home that allows men to view you as more of an equal.

Equitable relationships have nothing to do with SAHM/WOHM, wealth or lack thereof. There are plenty of working families where the wife does all the domestic work (just peruse DCUM). It’s all about baseline respect, making decisions together, and appreciating what each does for the family. I have been both SAHM and now WOHM and have always had a supportive spouse. I do wonder about people who are desperate to “escape from family life.” Why have children if you don’t want to work with them? (Per your words).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is an issue you're having with your wife. Every woman is different. I personally would never want to not work and leave my spouse to earn all the money. I actually feel a little sorry for my friends who stay home with their kids, their lives seem really pathetic. They are always complaining about needing a break and how their husbands never do anything around the house etc etc.

You sound like a great friend.

I mean, I guess at this point calling these women friends is false, I have definitely distanced myself from them since we've all had kids. I have nothing in common with women who stay at home all day and complain that they no longer have time to go to the spa and about how difficult their kids are and how they're soooo tired.

I’m sure they’re glad to be rid of you. Do you have the same contempt for your nanny or daycare provider? After all, they just sit around all day.

Actually, I don't have a nanny OR a daycare provider. Our work schedules allow for us to do the childcare ourselves. Best of both worlds, for sure. We split things pretty much down the middle-each of us does the same amount of childcare, we both pitch in around the house. It's nice to be in an egalitarian relationship, and you'll never catch either of us complaining how we need a break to go to the spa or that we are sick of our kid.

I have nothing against stay at home moms, I guess, but all the ones I know are miserable complainers who don't seem to enjoy their children at all. My mom was a stay at home mom and I don't remember her acting like stay at home moms do these days, and the way she talks about those years now that I'm an adult and a mom is nothing like the way the stay at home moms I know talk about staying home.

Sounds like you need new friends. And to stop generalizing based on a few miserable people.

You need to realize that your situation is unattainable by a vast majority of families. Most people do not have the extreme flexibility that you describe in order to have no child care and completely balanced caretakung/housekeeping duties. For many people, the reality is that the bulk of child rearing falls on one parent due to career demands, whether that parent works out of the home or not. And that is exhausting. Don’t judge people for venting or claim they don’t enjoy their kids. If you say parenting is all roses and never frustrating, difficult, annoying, etc, you are a liar.

Lol at extreme flexibility. No. One of us works during the day, the other at night. We make some sacrifices in terms of sleep and time spent together in order to make this work. We are just as exhausted as anyone else, but it is worth it to us to have things arranged this way. I absolutely will judge stay at home moms who complain incessantly about how hard their life is. Of course kids can be difficult, but the joy being a parent brings definitely out weighs the negatives that come along with it, and those negatives certainly do not justify constant complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all the people on here who claim they would still work even if they won the lottery.

I think that is very very very rare.

I like my job but like any job, it has boring parts. It has annoying paperwork that I don't feel like doing. It's not always that interesting. My boss can be super annoying and my co-workers are not my best friends.

It's a JOB. It's not FUN.

I would quit if I didn't need the money. But overall it's a good job.

I don’t. Most people want to fill their day with something besides leisure time or working with children.

The main reason I work is bevause it allows me an escape from family life and it allows for an equitable partnership with my husband. Even my SAHM friends with extremely wealthy husbands do NOT appear to have an equitable relationship. Stinks but there is something about working and not limiting yourself to hobbies and the home that allows men to view you as more of an equal.

I think it depends on the man. I worked and didn’t and was never equitable as far as domestic duties. In his mind he earned more even if I worked so I had to make more compromises. He is who he is and we have a great marriage!

[Anonymous]

yes.