You comment has nothing to do with what I said. Please read carefully and slowly. Everything I said was factual. Here is the story: https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/danish-om-still-stung-by-97-arrest-for-leaving-baby-in-nyc/353952/ |
Why not leave the engine running every time? |
+1 Everyone here knows that, in reality, OP’s kid was fine. There was an extremely small risk of anything happening in that short amount of time. Posters just want to play hall monitor and complain about her “breaking the law” - even though it’s not illegal in VA. Argumentative twats. |
People get even more insane when they see a dog sitting alone in a car. Even if you live in the safest neighborhood most people don’t want to come back to their car with a crowd of people staring into the windows at your kids or dog and the cops waiting for the parent to return to talk to them. If you think dragging your kid along on an errand is bad, this is much worse. |
I recall a long ago preschool director warning all parents against EVER leaving a child in the car for ANY reason. This seemed common sense to me then just as it should be to you now.
Over 45 years ago, my alcoholic father left me alone in the car in a liquor store parking lot. Another drunk passed by, saw me and banged on the window repeatedly. It was absolutely terrifying and just one of many incidents that drove me into therapy to cope with traumatic experiences. |
Running cars no. I agree that was not a great decision. But I have left my 7 year old in the car (locked and shut off) for something small like dropping off a UPS return that just needs a quick barcode scan. Or to walk to the entrance of a building to sign a kid out or camp. It’s totally legal and my kid is like safer or just as safe the car for a few minutes than walking through a parking lot. |
Your examples are not my experience. My kids also have lifelong medical conditions and were told not to drink because it would interfere with their medication. There are many examples where parents 'introduce alcohol and drugs' to their kids and their kids become alcoholics and drug addicted people. So to counteract your stories none of my siblings are alcoholics or drug addicted and yet we were NOT introduced to it early. I personally don't care what your family choses to do but please don't think that you're way is the only way. And you can think that my way is wrong too. I don't care. Alcohol is not needed and does so much damage. I pretty much never drink and I never miss it. |
And? I tried leaving my toddler in the car. Someone RATTED ME OUT. Then came the emails “as a reminder do NOT leave children unattended in the parking lot.” Which, hmm, I wondered who that was about? My toddler wanted to stay and play. Preschool is fun! But alas, not old enough, so she was sad when we had to leave. It was a good school, my son loved it, I wanted my daughter to go there the next year so in weighing all the risk/rewards it seemed much easier to just follow the rules than be the argumentative a-hole and be asked to leave the school because of leaving a toddler in the car which was probably not legal anyway. Convenient, yes, but not necessarily the right choice. Choices have consequences and leaving a kid in the car wasn’t worth it at the time. |
Completely agree with the preschool director that preschooler shouldn’t be left alone in the car. They can’t even unbuckle themselves in an emergency. A 7 year old, can leave the car. |
OP, you can't really think that was ok to do. Definitely don't do it again. |
You were in the wrong. |
Np. Trying to imagine the emergency that could befall a preschooler strapped into a carseat 60 feet of asphalt away from me and in full view, the circumstance in which I frequently left my preschooler strapped in to pick up another kid. But I just as frequently didn’t because I was afraid of people like you. |
DP, but presumably because it’s not adding value to the child’s comfort to leave the engine running every time. I would assume the default would be engine off, but if the situation seemed to warrant it maybe leave it on every once in awhile. I truly hope you are not as dumb as you seem in this thread. Because… talk about someone who shouldn’t be a parent… |
The OP is about a child left unattended in a vehicle with the engine running. OP could not be bothered to just shut off the engine that is the problem. No child is getting some sort of character building experience from that. |